#esp as the intersection of transphobia and misogyny acutely demonstrates how women very much exist as a subjugated class for male benefit

[marxist-magnetron]

One of the most basic principles of any feminism worthwhile is that men have and benefit from the systematic power that they hold over woman. No amount of 'toxic masculinity' or 'patriarchy backfiring on men' is going to change that. Gender exists and was created purely to subjugate women and exploit their physical, sexual, and (in the case of those who can have children) reproductive labour*.

Men are not 'hurt by gender roles too' in any way that is analogous to the experience of women. Any negative experiences associated with proper performance of masculinity is deeply outweighed by the collective benefit that men experience as a class through their subjugation of women! Whereas women experience no benefits in their subjugation. To say that 'men are hurt too' is to obscure the basic fact that they experience a net benefit and woman a net negative, and any feminist worth their salt is not going to entertain any of that nonsense.

Men who are really working against the patriarchy and oppression of women need to be recruited and doing it with the mindset that they are working against their own benefit, not for it. As when the cards start to fall and their privileges and material benefit begin to actually crumble no amount of 'toxic masculinity' discussion is going to convince them to not lash out and try to put woman back underneath them. If a man is going to be a stable ally they need to be prepared for that in the same way that an imperial core communist has to know that in working against imperialism they are working against their own interest and will lose access to its spoils.

*edit for clarity: I am using the term 'reproductive labour' here in the ancient historical studies sense in which it specifically refers to the labour associated with birthing and caring for one's own child.