#dee was closed in and didn't have a lot of options to avoid the kiss if it hadn't been interrupted

[iguessitsjustme]

Ter stop talking over and making decisions for Dee challenge 2k24. Y'all ain't even friends at this point you're just the annoying coworker go away

[iguessitsjustme]

I posted this in the tags of my other post but I wanted to make them their own post actually I think. I am glad that Ter is starting to realize things about himself. I'm glad he's starting to embrace his feelings. HOWMSTEVER he needs to do that in a way where he is able to give up some control. He cannot control Dee's actions or responses. He needs to communicate with Dee not make decisions for him.

Ter and Dee do not mesh because Dee is super competitive about silly little things and he doesn't like being told what to do. He likes gentle nudging and he also likes his boundaries. Yak still hasn't kissed him despite both of them knowing how bad Yak wants to. Ter extended their Japan trip without talking to Dee and then tried to kiss him not even knowing how Dee feels about being kissed. Dee hasn't had a chance to explain.

And even before he had a chance to explain with Yak, Yak wasn't kissing him. Yak was operating strictly off of body language and managed to not kiss Dee. And then he asked about it in a non-judgemental way and Dee felt comfortable enough to tell him and Yak said "Got it boss. You know I want to kiss you but this is a boundary that we will not cross until we are ready and willing to cross it together." Yes, Yak has pushed a bit because he wants it but he always goes slow enough and gives Dee enough space to back out before they kiss which Dee does and he will keep backing out until he doesn't.

But that's the difference between Ter and Yak. Dee was closed in and didn't have a lot of options to avoid the kiss if it hadn't been interrupted. I don't doubt Dee would have managed to avoid it but Ter blocked off a lot of opportunities to leave. Yak leaves space for Dee to leave if he wants to. Ter is controlling and Yak is freeing and that is why Dee was able to fall for Yak after 8 years of pining for Ter. He is free from the feelings that were controlling him and now he can move on and be happy with someone who truly understands him.