#dealing w rly uncomfortable unintentional transphobia in a server a potential irl friend invited me to so sdjfkl i'm Coping | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

dandyshucks · 3 months ago

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me meeting someone new and Guz making a point to use my pronouns casually in the conversation so that we don't have to make a big deal of it, and he just gives me the proudest silliest thumbs-up after managing to introduce me using both they and it 😭😭💗💗💗

#dealing w rly uncomfortable unintentional transphobia in a server a potential irl friend invited me to so sdjfkl i'm Coping #its weird bc i can deal w being misgendered irl just fine but online it feels a lot different #i guess bc ppl dont rly know very well irl that i am not a she/her. but online i usually make it Very Clear that i use they/them #(i use they/it technically but it/its only feels right in certain spaces fsdjkl i have to feel safe and comfortable for that set)#so it feels a lot less excusable when it happens online :[ OH WELLLL i live in a conservative small town so i should be used to it lol #still feels bad. also kinda scary to have an irl person know my pronouns without me telling her directly but she's been rly nice abt it :3 #im SO glad she's been cool about it. that was a rly big gamble i made to trust her w that fsjkl adding her on discord where it says they/it #like if she had taken it badly then i could've been outed to the whole centre and would've lost that space + that bit of income from there #and like. a huge chunk of my meagre support network. BUT I DIDNT SO ITS OKAY. YAYYYY #and now i may have an irl friend... i could like... do things in town with someone... thats so crazy fdjkl i haven't had that in 5+ yrs #ANYWAYS. i love guz so much and he makes me very happy and he is a trans ally forever and ever amen #dandy.cmd

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