#cuz the reality is their relationship just isn't sustainable at all

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Anin... the ring is such a great romantic gesture but what exactly is the plan for when someone asks Pin why she is wearing a bigass engagement ring 😭😭😭

like if she was someone else it could work as a way to ward off suitors but she can't exactly lie and come up with a convoluted story about a fiancée or husband who is away.

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The amount of comments I've seen (in relation to Taylor and Joe reportedly breaking up) from people saying they don't understand or believe that long term relationships 'run their course' is UTTERLY baffling to me

Like.... of course they do?!?!

I hate to break it to you bunch of naive romantics but people... fall out of love. And that isn't just people who've only been together a short while (what counts as short? What counts as long? You could have been with someone for six months and be more in love with them than someone you were with for six years so what's length got to do with anything actually?)

People change. All people. Constantly. You hope and work to change in ways that are complimentary and supportive of your partner, but sometimes with all the want and hard work in the world, that doesn't happen. Sometimes you change in ways that take you apart. Or at least change your relationship in ways that are less satisfying or less sustainable.

No one has to be a bad guy. Its not bad to change. It can be sad, if it means a relationship you were previously happy in no longer works for you, but sad is not the same as bad.

But that change, that might cause your relationship to have 'run its course' is always happening, change is always going to happen. It could happen to a 6 month old relationship or a six year or a 20. There is no timescale for that moment when a relationship has run its course because change and growth is constant.

So yes, you can be crazy in love for a long time, and then, someday not be.

No one actually gets a happily ever after, there is only happily ever now. Because future you (the one in the after) is not the same as you now, and their happy might be different to yours.

And I'm not saying this to poo-poo the idea of romance, I'm saying it cuz you need to adjust your idea of romance for reality. YOU CAN, and might, find yourself falling out of love with someone you have been in love with for many years. That doesn't make that relationship or those feelings invalid or less romantic in any way. If anything it makes it more precious, because it's not promised.