#children👏are👏not👏responsible👏 for👏adult👏emotions��👏

[lillybearrie]

"Child soldiers are bad" this "batdad supremacy" that

I wanna talk about how the Robins are expected to be responsible for Bruce's emotions

"Batman needs a robin" no Bruce Wayne needs to stop making his inability to cope with the life he chooses to live his kids problem and stop taking it out on gotham when they aren't there to regulate his emotions

Thank you for coming to my Tedtalk

[aspoonfuloffiction]

Screaming into the void so someone will answer back:

Nanny 👏 Gregory 👏

When Lucy gets a call that her brother and best friend died in an accident she’s in shock. But any grief she can let herself feel is shoved aside when she’s informed that as their only local relative, she could be given custody of the Watson-Abernathy children. If she doesn’t accept custody would go to Hermione’s mother who lives in the States and the children would be relocated.

Wanting her young niece and nephew to feel some semblance of normalcy after having just lost both parents. And remembering all too well what its like to be orphaned. She accepts and suddenly she’s the lone guardian to two grieving school aged children. But the transition from single up and coming urban designer to responsible for two kids under the age of 10 is a learning curve. So when a friend recommends hiring a nanny Lucy agrees.

Meanwhile elsewhere Gregory, aged 24 is listless. Life makes no sense. He’s felt lost for years, armed only with a business degree and no interest in business, desperately trying and failing at finding someone that remotely interests him. But when his eldest brother threatens eviction Gregory just applies to first notice on the bulletin-a nanny wanted sign.

Lucy initially isn’t sold on him (“having 15 nieces and nephews really isn’t prior experience Mr Bridgerton”) but on his way out when Gregory gets her nephew, who hasn’t spoken since the accident, to talk to him about the video game his playing. She decides to hire him.

He lives in her spare bedroom, helps the kids with school, takes them to swim practice and dance lessons, finds a pediatric therapist on his sister-in-law’s recommendation, packs them lunches and because he’s up he packs Lucy lunch too “because cucumber sandwiches and chocolate digestives are not a sustainable diet”

Slowly, they start to get to know each other, like Lucy hates minimalism, or that Gregory has seen The Proposal 17 times in the past year alone. They slip into a rhythm, life is good. She wakes the kids up in the morning, he takes them to school, she helps with English work, he helps with math, he tucks them into bed, she reads them a story.

One night, just under a year into Gregory starting the job, after waiting for Lucy to eat together (a practice that neither of them remember how it started) and a few glasses of wine they open up about things they’ve barely acknowledged to themselves let alone a different person. Like how Gregory feels like he’s just kind of floating through life as a disappointment to his family. And Lucy is scared she’s doomed to fail her niece and nephew the way her uncle failed her and Richard.

Emotions are high, and the alcohol is out and the next morning Gregory doesn’t wake up in the spare bedroom.

Cue some sex induced panic—Lucy freaking out about the fact that she technically slept with a man she employees. Gregory freaking out because he feels like he took advantage of Lucy’s emotional state. Also they’re both freaking out because the sex was good…really good. And left them both unable to to deny their feelings anymore.

So in a panic, Gregory finds Lucy a new nanny for the kids and quits. Lucy thinks its her fault so she lets him. And her feigned acceptance, confirms Gregory’s fears that its his fault.

While apart—Lucy starts therapy to work through unresolved grief not just Hermione and Richard but even the loss of her parents, Gregory takes early child development classes feeling like he’d finally found something he loved. But even as they improve themselves something consistently feels like its missing.

The kids notice this, and conspire with Hyacinth, (they need an adult with a car and she’s sick of Gregory’s moping) to get them together. Shenanigans ensue, but it ends with Gregory and Lucy kissing in the rain…idk why they seem like a kiss in the rain couple.

This post got away from me it was originally only supposed to be three bullet points…I’m a mess. I just need like one person to see the vision

[mrokat]

⚡️Trigger warning: suicidal thoughts, alcoholism and wild concept of being a father⚡️

Can anyone explain the father concept to me? Like, please tell me why we had to or still have to live in homes that are drowning under massive amounts of aggression, alcohol, lack of love, lack of acceptance, safety, anything👏👏. I’m sick of this concept, what kind of wild idea is this - being a father??? Is this a matter of patriarchy, or have men simply never been taught how to be a good father? A good human? How to take care? Or at least accept that he has children for whom he should be responsible or at least - hot take alert - should love them? I can't get my brain together. I can feel it falling apart from the inside. I'm an adult, living on my own, supporting myself, paying for my therapy, medication, groceries, whatever. And still, inside of me, there's a little child rumbling inside of me, having to be a parent to my own parents, having to soothe a crying mom on the phone, having to get all the shit together. And I still feel so fucking guilty. My past is one big sticky mass of sadness, inner screaming, killing myself piece by piece. To what end? Are all fathers like this? I believe not, but I'm currently on the verge of punching myself in the face, beating myself into unconsciousness. I am an emotional orphan who no one taught how to love myself, who no one loved the way a fucking little child needs. This is fucked up. I'm fucked up.