#cause that focuses more on aroace lesbianism than being compared to fuckin' mspec lesbians

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aroace lsbian is just as harmful as bisexual lesbian

.....................no?? i can tell you're the same anon, although that doesn't matter and idrgaf anyway

no. bi lesbians imply that lesbians can be attracted to men, are not inherently attracted to trans and (some) nonbinary people, and redefine what it means to be a lesbian in a harmful way without our input. it is inherently invalidating, even if the person using the label is doing so in "good faith."

an aro and/or ace lesbian either lacks romantic and/or sexual attraction, experiences it on a spectrum (meaning not fully but they still do, and that's where i stand), or lack both forms of attraction but want other types of relationships, so they may feel platonic or aesthetic or sensory attraction to only women. saying all aroace individuals who experience neither type of attraction are lesbians is obviously lesbophobic, yes. but if the types of attraction they do experience meet the same qualifications, well, it's still lesbian by definition.

i understand that this may come across as "just replace some words and you're defending bi lesbianism" but one of these is harmful and the other is just a different type of lesbianism under its same closed, safe definition without invalidating other lesbians. as long as one's identity is not invalidating others, i don't care if it seems contradictory (which... even then... it really isn't...). there's a difference at play here.

do NOT compare me to the harm caused by mspec lesbians. if men had the audacity to control themselves and respect women, as well as understand what lesbian actually means, they would not approach an aro/ace lesbian and expect them to date or even hook-up. it'd make sense for them to at least shoot their shot if they had reason to believe lesbians could be attracted to men.

so. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ enough. i'm not answering anymore asks about this unless they're genuine questions being asked without malice, or if it's something i think i should probably defend if it's actually even worth my time. otherwise, leave my inbox alone going forward. it upset me more than i thought it would to defend an identity i have already struggled with accepting.