#but these are just some parallels I noticed between my experience and lucanis' character

[rookinthecrownest]

Why Lucanis has eldest daughter of an immigrant family energy, from the Eldest Daughter of an Immigrant Family (involves some projection on my part ... don't keep reading if you don't want to see that lol)

Constantly worried about the family's wellbeing (even when they are being silly goofy guys like Illario) and expected put the interest of the family above their own (hello fellow collectivist culture friends)

Was never really going to be allowed to explore their own interests and desires even if they like/enjoy what they end up doing (what's that old joke - about the only 3 careers an immigrant kid can have lol) -> see "My life has never really been my own. So much has been determined for me"

Carries the crushing weight of being 'The Golden Child' - always expected to succeed/be perfect/etc. You're the one everyone pins their hopes on. Fun times!

As a follow up to the Golden Child issue, living with the uncomfortable feeling of being compared to your cousins/siblings in terms of how well you're doing on certain arbitrary parameters like wealth/education instead of parameters that actually matter like...idk, general life satisfaction, happiness ??

As a follow-up to the follow-up: The pressure (and anxiety) to KEEP that Golden Child status active because you see how the Black Sheep of the family gets treated (See: Illario)

Your failures will NEVER be yours alone. You don't have that privilege. They will always reflect on The Family (may apply to both Lucanis and Illario tbh). This one might be flimsy as I don't think we have any direct examples of this, but I don't think it's exactly a reach either.

Feel free to add anything I may have missed! This isn't meant to be an exhaustive meta post. Just some ramblings.