#but the 'hated' has to be third homoerotic thing where it isn't hate really but rather love disguised as something equally as ruinous

[yuanology]

Hiii! I'm back again with another request🖐️

I live for angst so how bout enemies to lovers trope with gojo but then gojo realizes his feelings a little too late

(sfw for now cuz I'm up for crying rn rather than being horny😜😌)

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in truth, satoru never expected that he would ever have a nemesis.

it was just that—he simply stood far too high on the scale against everyone else that no one could begin to compare. after all, who dared to defy the great gojo satoru, wielder of six eyes? only a fool or a madman.

you had to be one; one or the other. maybe both.

it didn't matter.

because either way, you were there. a perpetual haunting presence in the back of his mind, a shadow that would not leave him. you were there, every fucking step of the way, and he couldn't stand the sight of you.

(that was a lie. he enjoyed having you by his side, a rival rather than a friend. your presence kept his life interesting, reminding him of the fact that he was not infallible and he was not god. he was still a boy and he was still human.)

and maybe it was because you had grown so constant, so fucking present in every moment of his life from his childhood to his adolescence to his adulthood, that he had didn't even realise that you were something that could be taken away from him until you left.

you left.

you weren't even taken away from him, robbed clean from his hands, leaving behind a bloodied imprint in the place where you once stood. no. no, of course not. people like you could never be taken away by anyone but their own hands. the day you went out of this world would be on the day you woke up and decided you would finally die for your cause.

you were simply that incredible, that stubborn, that headstrong. you always had been.

and satoru —— you for it.

(he couldn't bear to think of those words out loud. they were too disastrous, too ruinous, too real. too much of something, too little of the other. there was none of that balance; that in between that he loved to thread so much.)

(but that was the thing about you, wasn't it? you had this habit of making him do things that he hated just because you wanted him to struggle. and that was the thing about him, wasn't it? he had this tendency to follow through with your words just because he wanted to see you smile.)

because that meant that your leaving was your choice. because that meant that this was all orchestrated by you and that he was nothing but a puppet in your grand scheme. because that meant that even if he found out in time, satoru would have been powerless to stop you. because that meant that even though satoru —— you, you had never once —— him in return.

and all of this was a game, a ploy.

because you left.

you, his equal, his nemesis, his rival, his right hand, left him.

in truth, satoru never expected that he would ever have his heart broken either.

[jennelikejennay]

There's an experience a lot of aspec people have where they do like the idea of sex, just not of themselves participating in it. So they get off from porn, erotica, voyeurism, etc but they don't want to be touched sexually themselves. Everything is better second-hand.

I could go on and on about this: about what the appeal is, about why it's so frequently taken as problematic or fetishizing, about how a person who feels this way (cough, me) can have sex in ways that are satisfying to them and the people they love. I even wrote a fic about it (although normally, I'm writing fics because of it, not about it).

But today I just want to talk about the name.

See I mentioned it and somebody said "oh that's called aegosexual."

A: Greek for not

Ego: both Latin and Greek for I

Sexual: latinate suffix meaning, well, sexual. Generally used with reference to attraction.

Not-me-sexual.

I hate it SO MUCH. Not as an aspec person so much as as a classicist. Who is coining these things and have they even been peer-reviewed?!

First off, the a- Greek prefix becomes an- before a vowel, such as in anemia and anarchy. Putting a+e together makes a diphthong ae which is pronounced differently in ecclesiastical Latin (ā), classical Latin (ī), American English (usually ā) and British English (often ē). So faced with aegosexual I simply don't know how to pronounce it. Is this one of those words, like Latinx or m/m, that we readily use online but suddenly hang fire when we have to say it out loud? A word that works in only one medium is nonfunctional. So somebody better decide how we're all saying it or we'll be having a gif/gif debate forever.

Second, there's a general rule that we use Greek roots with other Greek roots and Latin with Latin. Hence why we say astronomy and not stellonomy, stethoscope and not thorascope. I will admit that we break this rule all the time: homosexual rather than similisexual or homoerotic, automobile rather than automaton or ipsemobile. Still, all things being equal I would prefer nonegosexual or perhaps sinegosexual (without-me-sex) just for the sake of smoothness. I'm discounting anegoerotic because of the two vowels in a row problem.

But then I start thinking, why are we defining this thing by what it's not? I don't mean I'm not attracted to myself (I think I'm cute, transporter clones please call me). I don't mean I will grudgingly accept sex so long as it doesn't involve me. I mean I actively am into sex that doesn't involve me. I tried calling it third-person sexuality but in English we can't compound with English roots really.

So let's go back to the drawing board!

The Greek pronouns for self and others are taken: autosexual means you're into yourself, allosexual means you're into other people (as opposed to ace). But the Latin ones are all wide open, and Latin is what I want, to go with sexual.

Latin has tons and tons of pronouns. SO MANY PRONOUNS. Nonbinary Romans would be looking at an absolute banquet. Along with our usual me, you, it, etc, we have a raft of pronouns which work well for distinguishing different subjects in their long-ass sentences. So you have hic, this, but you also have ipse, That, you know, The One, Himself, Her Upstairs. It's mildly emphatic. Then you have iste, which means something like "that over by you," but sometimes also kind of "that one, ugh." When a sentence begins Iste Caesar you know the author isn't a huge fan of Caesar. Like saying "your Caesar, not mine." But it could be more like istud poculum, hey can you pass that cup, the cup over by you? All of these are of course available in all three genders, two numbers, and five cases, giving us 30 forms to learn for each. Yay!

The one I want for this purpose is ille. It's the most general kind of that. Rather than "this by me" and "that by you," ille is "that over there, not near either of us."

So what about illesexual? Attracted to something over there in which neither you nor I am involved at all?

illesexual

What do you think, is it too late to make this happen?

[captain-kit-adventuress]

To be absolutely fair, I don't think anyone is saying it's just the numbers. The fetishisation of m/m fanfiction is an enormous problem, but it's fed by the fact that when readers and writers lack for diversity they will latch onto and work with what's already there. So while numbers are an undeniable part of what's happening here, there is a larger diversity problem in media which is then reflected in the fics that do include women and MOC, as well as when they are excluded all together. I think fanfiction sites have well-proved that most people aren't going to stop being institutionally biased or outright bigoted even if they also acknowledge that American media in particular isn't diverse and it isn't getting better.

The fetishisation issue is not being talked about enough, nor is the sexism and racism and various other bigotries found in fanfiction–the blowback on AO3's diversity policies alone prove that pretty well. But neither can we exclude the fact that a lot of critics do love to put the prioritisation of male relationships at female fans' door, when they would never do the same for men who only depict male relationships, even homoerotic male relationships, because that is seen as the 'normal' state of things. I also don't think suggesting that media dominated by male characters has more m/m ships is all that surprising, much less trying to hide behind anything. In fact, those disproportionate ratios may explain all the better why fetishisation is such a problem, especially when we start thinking of ways to remedy the issue.

I have the feeling that if the reverse was true and women were primarily and in huge numbers writing mostly femslash, the critics (especially male critics, but I have no doubt plenty of others would jump on this as well) would take great joy in pointing that out, probably saying something rather snide along the lines of how these women are being sexist by only portraying female relationships; or, you'd get these splits where some would say how women are sexist and others would say we are all secretly self-hating gays, and probably a secret third thing that is equally designed to put women in their place.

It can be true at the same time that there is a great deal of sexism aimed at women for portraying relationships in general a certain way, whilst also saying that much of the work itself is highly problematic. Those are two separate, but coexisting, issues made all the murkier by overlap. It's just a really toxic situation all around because unfortunately, they feed one another.

It just kills me when writers create franchises where like 95% of the speaking roles are male, then get morally offended that all of the popular ships are gay. It’s like, what did they expect?