#but revan doesn't and they never actually forgive tid for it

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i have like. two posts about this in progress but they're gonna be long-ish so. basically if you get close to revan, they will build people into the fabric of their identity, shaping themself around whoever is in their life in proportion with the distance. so when you are close to them you become a deeply integral part of their world, and if you don't know that or don't treat them like you know that, it does a lot of damage. the revanchists at their core were very tight-knit and this was part of the reason why. when revan loves you, they forgive you for everything except betrayal, and if they don't feel loved in return, they feel betrayed. manipulated, even if it's unintentional.

it's also why they have a tendency to be distant, or self-destruct in a relationship. if they feel like they're not being reciprocated, or they're giving more than they're getting, they will go into survival mode and force distance into that relationship however possible. and the easiest way to do that is by hurting the other person. so in terms of positive relationships they end up with people they're on good terms with but are otherwise just acquaintances, or people they'd burn the galaxy for [who they may try to kill because of that, depending on what point of their life they're at.] but that doesn't mean they're bad at boundaries, it just means you have to lay boundaries out very clearly or they will insert themself into your life as much as you become a part of theirs.