#but it made me uncomfy when bls do it and it's going to make me uncomfy now that gls are doing it

[italianpersonwithashippersheart]

Watched the first ep of Love Senior. I'll be honest this might be a binge for me instead of a live watch.

It's not really the fault of the show x se. It has more to do with my hangs ups then quality (even if the pilot was very fast paced, like way too fast).

I understand that GLs are just starting, which means they are going to start in the same place BLs did, but I am not going to lie the mix of 2 moons and Sotus energy this show has is not doing it for me. Plus as someone who struggled throught Sotus because of the Hazing aspect it's exponentially worse with girls (all my bullies were girls so this is just a little too triggering).

[namtanlovesfilm]

Okay so I started the Warp Effect a few days ago, I saw it going around on this platform when it was airing but I didn’t start because there was a lot of BL airing that I was watching at that time and to be honest straight-leaning drama (even if I knew there was GL and BL rep) is no longer my thing. However I decided to give a try because I have seen glowing reviews and now I come to you because obviously as I am late with the watching, there are not much people talking about it and there is an aspect of this show that deeply bothered me and I wanted to talk with someone. I found the Alex/jean storyline really upsetting. I thought that Jean and the situation as a whole was extremely, extremely unfair. It might be the biggest form of gaslighting that I probably have ever seen in media.

First of all, I don’t consider that Jean was R-word by Alex that night and that’s a big issue because it shouldn’t be up to debate but clear for the viewers and I have seen multiple viewers debating about it. It’s not that Alex didn’t listen to her when she told him to get off, it’s that he either couldn’t hear what she was saying or understand because immediately after he fell into unconsciousness because he was too drunk and that should have been the focus of this storyline ; I mean it kind of was touched upon but it should have been the theme of their storyline, how drunken sex is not safe and can lead to multiple issue as consent is not being given fully by the TWO PARTIES as they are too drunk.

However for this storyline, Alex was blamed for the pictures being taken of her and going public, he was blamed for being drunk when she was as drunk, he was being blamed for not being there for her when she got pregnant when she never told him, he was blamed for absolutely everything and I don’t think it’s right. I understand what they were trying to do with this storyline but it was poorly made in my opinion and once again seeing the viewers reaction to it because I went to check the comments to get my head around this confirm to me that this was poorly executed as it’s going all over the place : multiple people understood things differently, they saw the storyline differently than others did and for me the education part is losing its meaning if viewers can’t comprehend fully. It just doesn’t give feminist storyline with male accountability that I am sure they wanted to do, it’s giving a woman is the responsibility of a man in every situation because honestly that’s how they made Jean see things, Alex was supposed to be responsable for her in everything and to stop her when he was as drunk when she gave consent. That’s what he is doing in the future but that’s because he already know the situation and was gaslighted to being the sole responsible. And that’s not education for me.

Sorry it got longer than what I wanted to say, I know you probably don’t remember everything as it ended two months ago but I can’t wait to have your opinion on this.

hi, so I've talked many times about the alex/jean storyline kinda ruining the show for me on my blog (I still love the show, but less than what could've been), but I think your ask is very interesting bc it put its finger where I couldn't. I was bothered about alex hurting jean in that way but also couldn't call it r*pe as it's clear in the show he's just way too drunk & didn't hear her, yet this is still a fucked up scene to witness & makes the viewer rightfully uncomfy. imo alex was definitely blamed for everything as a sort of plot device to advance the show, but moreover my issues with the jean/alex storyline was that 1) they ended together despite it all, when it's okay to end up in bad terms, especially for a high school romance, & 2) the entire universe that we saw in the show when they're 30 is rendered useless once alex goes back & changes the past, which felt very empty for me. and yes, while I think the education aspect is very good for the other characters, there's no lesson to be taken from jean & alex. bc the thing is, when you drunkenly violate consent like alex did & give the woman lifelong ptsd like jean had, you don't get to go back in time & make that not happen. you have to live with the consequences of your action and take responsibility, even if you didn't intend for it to happen. so yeah, the warp effect was good & very important for many topics imo, but not the alex/jean storyline.

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[itoldheraboutyou]

not gunna lie, i started gen y for fun because i just had a feeling it was gunna be,,, chaotic. and i usually only write semi serious analysis about good bls here but obviously i’m not gunna do that for gen y, i wasn’t planning on posting anything about gen y, but it got so ridiculous i can’t help but to rant about how fucking confused i am lol.

first things first, someone tell me i’m not crazy and that sandee was flirting with phai in like the first 3 episodes. THAT HAPPENED. and then the show tried to convince me it didn’t and i was like uh ??? YEAH THE FUCK IT DID. WHAT WAS THAT WHY DID THAT HAPPEN.

second, i was mildly surprised by how well markkit were going. they actually ended up being the most bearable out of everyone and i was enjoying them, and then the second they got together they just. completely fell off. apparently gen y is a 2 moons fanfic ??? which until i heard that i had no idea why mark’s character had suddenly been dumbed down to the most cliche and sickening romantic with the most second hand embarrassment inducing love declarations ever. and then it all made sense lol. what i was expecting for these last two episodes was for them to finish off their story, ya know, giving them their love scene because it felt like they were leading up to sex, and then the random moving in plot they introduced two eps ago. and then,,, they just didn’t do that ??? which is why i’m confused because, why are they shoving so much poktong in these last two episodes when they could’ve just as easily waited for season 2? explain lol. why did they introduce poktong this season at all, is my question. like what is next season even gunna fucking be ???

last, thanyu and phai need to just. not exist lol. i can’t even tell you how much i hate that storyline and how it just does not fit into the rest of the plot at all. like, the timeline is so beyond fucked up and i don’t know their exact ages, but phai and thanyu’s elusive age difference makes me uncomfy idk. on top of that, this weird little love square wayu, pha, thanyu, and phai have is too damn much. it’s beyond confusing at this point like idk if i should blame it on the acting but thanyu needs to stop jerking everyone around lol. i’m not against this multiple soulmates trope thing (and this being a fanfic would explain why it’s here because it has no place ANYWHERE) because i actually wouldn’t mind a PLATONIC soulmate thing goin on. like phai can be the platonic soulmate idk but it really just feels like the actors heart is with wayu, because that’s where all of his actual acting skills come out.

anyway, if you read this i’m so sorry lol. it’s a mess but so is this show. i didn’t watch 2 moons so i kind of came in confused so lol.

[wxsuthorn]

ranking every single asian drama/series/movie that i have ever watched

(this isn’t 100% accurate cuz I’ve decided to include shows that are still airing and they may move up or down on the list once they’ve finished airing. Shows with multiple seasons/spin-offs will be counted as one unless I decided that they’re too different to be in one rank. And lastly, I don’t dislike the shows that are low on the list—unless I explicitly say so—I’ve just watched a shitload of dramas, so don’t attack me if ur fave is at 26 or smth lmao)

I did my best to keep the explanations short and avoid spoilers

1. The Gifted

Are you surprised? Do I even need to explain?

2. HIStory 3: Trapped

Again, should be pretty self-explanatory. The plot? The acting? The tropes? Utter perfection. 

3. 3 Will Be Free

Haha. 3wbf... is 3rd place. It’s just amazing and so criminally underrated. 

4. Until We Meet Again

I LOVE THIS SHOW SM I WATCHED IT 7 TIMES KLJFSLKJDFS I JUST LOVE IT PLUS FLUKE’S ACTING AND DEANPHARM ARE JUST SO HEALTHY AND WHOLESOME AND CARING I LOVE THEM.

5. He’s Coming To Me

a GODLY show !!! SO UNDERRATED. Ugh that rooftop scene TT.

6. The Untamed

I know it’s shocking that this isn’t higher up IM SORRY OKAY but this show was so good i cried so much lksjlfjdsfdjlkf GOD TIER.

7. Theory of Love

G O D L Y. It has the best scenes that just punch you in the gut and make you cry while you think about them at night.

8. Great Men Academy

WHY DOES NO ONE TALK ABOUT THIS SHOW. anyways i would die for tangmo.

9. Cherry Magic

MY FAVOURITE ON AIR SHOW. It’s so fucking good and it’s sooooo relatable and cute and fun and just GOOD. Ugh it’s a whole blessing. Literally the concept is also just amazing, plus the representation is actually accurate?? LIKE ITS SO RELATABLE JLSJFKJKJKD AND REAL. AND THE CHARACTERS ARE SO KLJLKFJDLKJLSKJD.

10. I Told Sunset About You

THE SETS ARE SO PRETTY. THE VISUALS. ASTOUNDING. THE ACTING KSLJFKJLDF. It exceeded my expectations holy crap and the chinese culture incorporated into it feels so nice and genuine. literally i watched some of it today before my chinese class lmao. OMG AND THE OST.

11. Mr. Heart

ugh this show stole my heart (pun intended).

12. Dark Blue Kiss

SO. GODDAMN. UNDERRATED. THE WAY IT ACCURATELY REPS LGBTQ+ YOUTH’S RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEIR PARENTS AND COMING OUT AND EXPECTATIONS G O D L Y

13. Oxygen

SOFT. HEALTHY. CUTE. H E I G H T  D I F F E R E N C E.

14. 2gether

would’ve been higher if it werent for the last two episodes of the show, but still2gether redeemed it quite a bit.

15. HIStory 2: Crossing The Line

QIU ZIXUAN LKDSJFLDJLJFDKJSLJ CUTE AS FUCK.

16. Where Your Eyes Linger

tHAT OST. AND THE LAST SCENE. I MEAN SHIT SLJFSDKJFLSDJFK.

17. HIStory 2: Right or Wrong

it’s so soft and at first i was so hesitant to watch it with the age gap but it was surprisingly like really healthy? and like the mom with the fruit knife?

18. Love By Chance

IM SORRY I PUT THIS SO LOW its just that klano and tumtar were not my cup of tea and i watched it mostly for aepete only for them to be apart at the end of season 1. I like season 2 but this time i only have tincan...

19. Gameboys

okay i was going to put this way higher because ITS SO FUCKING GOOD LITERALLY but then again i felt more impressed/attached to the ones above... BUT LITERALLY PEARL AND CAIREEL ARE JUST SDLSJDFSKDFL THE BEST.

20. Sotus

If i could put multiple shows in one rank i would but ive decided not too cuz then there would only be 6 ranks with 10 shows in each one... that’s why sotus is so low TT SORRY I LOVE IT BUT I LOVE OTHER SHOWS A LITTLE MORE.

21. 2Moons2

it was enjoyable. I didn’t like the main couple much tho.

22. Red Wine In The Dark Night

omg this movie i really liked it especially the ending it was really symbolic and i really like slight-horror type things. also FLUKE !!!! a KING of acting.

23. Transit Girls

SOFT WLW.

24. My Engineer

don’t get me wrong i love this show BUT it’s yet another engineering concept and i just don’t see it going above the other dramas...

25. Why R U

the plot was messy but the chemistry between the actors saved the entire show.

26. TharnType

I KNOW ITS LOW DONT KILL ME the plot was good but i don’t like how lhong was painted as a misunderstood little boi like HE IS A CRIMINAL DONT GIVE HIM A REDEMPTION ARC AND DONT TRY TO MAKE ME PITY HIM. also the non-con was uncomfy as hell.

27. A Round Trip To Love

THE CINEMATOGRAPHY AND SYMBOLISM ON GOD ISLJFDLJD. i don’t see this movie as like... an example of a healthy relationship... but the story itself is really interesting and the way the characters change yet stay the same is cool.

28. The Shipper

i enjoyed watching it but i dont think i could rewatch it. it was good nonetheless, i don’t regret watching it at all.

29. Together With Me

it’s good. but the side plots/side couples were not it. yihwa is a queen tho.

30. Ingredients

SOOOOO CUTE LSKJFDKJJF. but the plot is kinda nonexistent but IT DOESNT MATTER CUZ ITS CUTE AND FLUFFY AND UWU AND JEFF.

31. The Effect

this show gave me depression but damn the theme was so real. 

32. Guardian

everything was going great until the jin ling dude got a girlfriend and the end happened.

33. History 3: Make Our Days Count

i was spoiled for the ending and it ruined my watching experience TT

34. YYY

i love it

35. Addicted

It was my first bl drama and i really liked it but again the non-con/kidnapping thing makes me uncomfy. also IT WAS DISCONTINUED IM SO SAD SLKDJFLSKJDFKSJD IT ENDED ON A CLIFFHANGER THEN WAS CANCELLED TT

36. Make It Right

fuse took too long to break up with his gf honestly oasflsajdfaldj bUT FRAME AND BOOK.

37. My Gear And Your Gown

CUTE but its another engineering x medical student trope and it’s still airing so i dont have too much of an opinion on it.

38. Pearl Next Door

its still airing (only 2 eps are out as of the time im writing this) and istg if pearlex isnt endgame im suing.

39. Friend Zone

first season was good but season two is gripping me by the throat. 

40. Because Of You 2020

CUTE

41. The Lover

i only watched the bl cuts but they were cute

42. Lovesick

season one was great but season 2 was too long i skipped so much of it lmao.

43. Puppy Honey

ngl i only watched it for offgun lmao. season one was good and i watched the hets too but season 2 was when i only watched the offgun scenes lmao

44. En Of Love

tossara was my fave cuz they cute and healthy. 

45. As If You Whisper

it was so short but so nice TT.

46. I’m Tee, Me Too 

still airing... kinda pointless?

47. 2 Moons

the acting... oof

48. My Dream

it started out so promising but THE FUCKING ENDING WAS LKSDJFLKS

49. Kiss + Kiss Me Again

I only watched the petekao scenes lmao.

50. History 1: Away From Me

cutee

51. History 1: Obsession

interesting? 

52. HIStory 1: My Hero

fine

53. My Day

i dropped it... tell me if i should get back into it cuz i kinda just wasn’t feeling it.

54. Lily Fever

cute wlw but it made no sense?

55. Hotel Stars

sorta dry lmao

56. The Best Twins

i dropped it but thor was epic

57. Reminders

PERTH’S ACTING KSJLFDJL but like what was the point? idk it was kinda frustrating.

58. 2Wish

i honestly don’t even remember what happened lmao

59. The Moment; I Need You

i just couldn’t when the guy faked an od. other than that it was eh. second season was better than the first (idk if it counts as a season tho cuz its so short)

60. Waterboyy (series)

DISGUSTING I HATE IT SO MUCH ITS TERRIBLE FUCK THIS SHOW I DESPISE IT

[herotheshiro]

i do mention them a lot in my reviews but tbh i hesitate to further discuss problematic behavior that’s seen in BL ... not bc i don’t want to but most times i feel like the way i talk about it on this blog, it glosses over that it’s a real issue OR i talk about it in a way that sounds like i’m defending it but i’m merely trying to say that maybe there are other factors we need to consider to evaluate it (please keep reading for better context, that latter point sounded seriously wack lmao). so basically i’m afraid of being misinterpreted so i just swerve the discussion a little (but i feel like i do make sure to mention when a behavior is definitely crappy).

re: the former reason, that’s bc i have read so many BL in my life that when i read a problematic behavior now i’m just merely like ‘ugh that’s shitty’ and then keep reading (i mean it depends. if someone is seriously getting physically/emotionally abused as part of the plot then i am yeeting out of there bc i don’t enjoy reading that or quickly scrolling/clicking past the scene in question). because yes, a lot of stories out there include problematic behavior without calling it out and i’m sure most of you are aware that the BL genre has some common tropes that are major issues irl. but i also enjoy when stories are realistic with how they handle certain things even if it’s uncomfortable to read at that point in time ... so while i have talked smack before abt some IG comments i have read, i do genuinely appreciate getting a different view from my own to help better shape my opinion bc sometimes i think something and then i read something and i’m like ‘oh ... right i hadn’t considered that’. btw i’m talking about issues like miscommunication or impulsive behaviors that may hurt someone else unknowingly (or even knowingly) ... like y’all can’t possibly tell me that you have never done that yourself or don’t know anyone who’s done it irl. as i have repeated for like the past 2-3 posts ... it’s mad uncomfy to read asshole behavior but it’s legit infuriating when you read asshole behavior and then it’s never really resolved i.e. it gets ignored or romanticized like ‘oh he was just a jerk bc he cares so much for you!’

like i wax poetic a lot abt the manhwa from points of three on here sometimes and that’s bc i really liked how the character of jisuh was handled. i know ppl had issues with jisuh’s behavior upon finding out heejae tricked him and while i acknowledge that yeah jisuh’s behavior was not great ... it made sense based on the fact that he had just come out of an abusive relationship and most likely had a twisted way of thinking. it was not glorified in any way, and i think in the end jisuh acknowledged his behavior hurt heejae and was like ‘yes i do have a crappy way of going about relationships but i’ll try to fix it in the future’ ... but also i was so happy that the finale was jisuh being like ‘i’ll give us a 2nd chance and if we can’t make this work then it’s over for real’. i thought it was very realistic based on what we had seen in the story, not necessarily a HEA. boom another wax poetic abt this manhwa, legit imo one of the best written manhwas i’ve read. also sunyool best boy, he deserved someone better than jisuh who clearly never had feelings for him in the first place

ANYWAY. i don’t think i have any problematic opinions regarding relationships and handling personal issues but i acknowledge i might not be very clear on stuff sometimes. i apologize if you read something i write and think it’s seriously wack; feel free to reply to a post or message me if you have an issue or want further clarification.

[justastraightupmess]

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❧ Have you ever been jealous of anyone?

Of course! I mean-- I’m gonna say most ppl out there have probably felt jealous from time to time. We’re all insecure little deviants on this site lets be real, so I think it’s perfectly normal to get a lil jelly from time to time. But-- as much as yes, I have gotten jealous, I’m ?? never gonna like act of that shit, yknow. Like idk I guess I’m mature enough ?? to know its just me being dumb. Ppl are free to do as they please, interact with who they want, ship with who you want. And until ur like.. singleship or smth like ?? yknow it doesnt matter 

❥ Has someone ever ruined an FC or character for you?

Mmmmmmboi ya. Yes. Yep. Im uh. Highkey not gonna say bc I know some of the ppl are still around and I aint abt that vague blogging life. But ya. Mind you it’s not gonna STOP me from interacting with another muse with the same fc, but it does make it-- a little ?? off putting I guess?? At first at least??

On the flip side, I’ve had some, or like one or two ships where it was just so... developed and I was so attached that seeing that fc as a different muse is like ?? but ur not (insert name). 

☣ Have you ever rp'd with someone you knew for a fact was abusive but tried to give them a chance/to make up your own opinion on the roleplayer? Did they change or did you understand what people were talking about?

Uhhh not that I know of?? No ?? I can’t really remember all that in depth from my first few years rping. But certainly not from the last few years. I just don’t really associate myself with people who are abusive or whatever?? Even someone who is just... off putting to me or I don’t like they’re attitude or things they post that aren’t abusive but are just... passive aggressive or vague blogging. I will actively avoid them if not softblock them so :/ yknow. 

Don’t have time for the drama. Like bye. 

☀ What's your rp pet peeve?

I fucking--- hate vague blogging. Jfc I hate it. So much. SOOOOOOO m u c h. It makes me so uncomfy. I’m very much a “if u have a problem say it to my face” kinda person and I would do the same if I had a problem (although its rp so i’d probably just softblock bc... this isnt anything serious its fkin rp lmao). Like idk it’s just annoying ?? I’ve seen ppl post shit that’s like either could possibly be abt me, other times im like Bl that was deff abt me. Even recently tbh. It’s jsut gross. I hate it. Stop being passive aggressive and get on with life yknow??

♥ What's the WORST thing that has happened to you rp wise?

HA. Lol. Where would I even fUCking start jfc. Lemme just. Whip out the list shall we?? I suppose it’s bc I’ve been on pretty much strictly tumblr rp my entire rping life, since abt... 2012?? 13?? idk. I started when I was abt 12 I think. Idk. But yA. I’ve had a lot :’) Idk what to pick. 

There was the times when I was like 12/13 and the whole “no smut with minors” thing wasn’t really?? I thing?? So a lot of the time I was more or less forced to write it?? I remember one rp partner back then on my friest ever blog would alWAYS turn to smut. And it made me so uncomfy. I always tried to find a way out of it. I shit you not one time I wrote that she fell asleep and this person jsut keep going making their character go on while she slept. It was just--- yIKES.

Not to mention how one rp partner like-- was highkey the trigger/reason i was had(/have??) depression :’) that was fun. I mean-- that whole thing itself, looking back now was dumb. But I was young, like 13 and shit. And ya. It was not fun. 

There was the whole drama I breifly mentioned on that other post. That guy in general was a total asssssssss. Like jfc. But on the other hand he and my friendship with him taught me so much and I’m much better for it now ?? Bc of him I learnt that yknow. You can say no to ppl sometimes lmao. 

And I guess more recently there have been a few people who will not be named who have just made me super uncomfy?? Even tho I’m not interacting with them at this time. Other mutuals are. And idk. Just seeing them makes me really really uncomfy.