#but i dont think id want hookups and casual stuff regardless

[please-bequiet]

Me: I could just die about it

Also me: Ah that's gonna change what I circle on the scale for my group check in next week

[fuckblizzardbearlover]

@jisenix Tumblrs communication system is annoying. So i just thought id @ you with this. I dont go to fanfiction sights like A3-whatever. But i have seen many gay ppl talk about how many gay ( particularly mlm) stories written by ( straight?) Women heavily use Mangst ( man angst). Stories will usually focus on two men seeking dominance over each other with many relationships being abusive. Casual hookups end up being R*pe a lot of the time whether its physical pressure or psychological. And many times they involve violent and unsafe sex. A lot of this is ignorance but the real damage is when young new gays want to learn more and find stories. You can imagine them finding a website with a bunch of gay stories and they read these and like many women get to thinking things like " if it hurts its normal " " if he doesnt get consent its normal" ect ect. But its not just fan fiction. I would go to bat to hell and back to argue all the gay stuff in game of thrones and Trueblood was for men-loving women. The lead gay man in GoT is captured by a religious cult and tortured for weeks after being forced to marry a woman. One of the two major gay scenes in True Blood where lucid dreams as human men agaist their will were druged by vampire blood and lusted after them. And one of the first big gay scenes involved a supposedly straight vampire suddenly seduces a gay vampires boyfriend, and in the middle of sex kills him turning him into bloody pulp. Even the main gay character ( the cook) is tortured and gets possessed and kills his boyfriend. Despite having up front gay content these shows just torture and kill off the characters. So why put them in? It and other shows make more sense when you realuze its for the female gaze. Both shows are chock full of shirtless and naked men. Even the gay ones are generally fit with luxerous hair and pouty lips, the most common dream guy ( yes i know lots of women dont. But i doubt the executives would recognize that) The problem is that its garder to recognize this homophobia because we created this narrative of women being more accepting. Now statistically they are ( because women are taught to be sympathetic and both gay men and all women are hurt by toxic men). But what is ignored is the, idk what youd call it, tourism? Of the gay experience many love. Tge stereotype is guy gets dragged to gay bar. He doesnt want to be near the freaks. But she thinks they are fun, weird. Going to a gay bar is like a mini mardis gras for lots of them. Gays can help you with your outfit. They will tell you how fab you are. They know the best clubs and drugs. We discussed it alot regarding pulse. How straight women like to go to gay bars to tour and feel safe. I know im kinda going everywhere and this wouldnt make a good essay . One thing i said elsewhere is if this was an game about lesbians and there where all these straight guys going " oh i cant wait to fuck her" then ppl would be saying its creepy. Because straight guys seeing lesbians as an excuse to get wet is creepy but straight women doing the same isnt? And its important to realize that regardless of how many have been goid allies so many have oppressed us. Its always a (middle aged mostly white) women i see on facebook or yahoo news talkibg about how a company os normalizing pedophilia by showing rainbow flags, or giving the " blue lives matter" Heck my boyfriends best friend voted for trump. Her friend is gay and she voted for the guy whos vp wants to torture gay children . Anyways i dont think its a super big issue. Its just like....once you see the big picture ....like one or two things are ok but then over and over you start to see how being gay us like this "cool freaky thing" you can be and emulate. And then you realize that in some states they are taking away rights..... That one other app ppl mention. The gay eye candy in cenima, queer eye for the straight guy. It seems like so much gay content is made for straight women to consume. Meanwhile its still legal in texas to fire me for being gay. Gay bashings have become more common. Family still disown or beat their kids for being gay. Id love to be able to read a mlm novel in public without worrying about getting jumped. The only one who can do that is straight women really ( like i said this post was long but only because i wanted to post the many various ways. Like i said in the replies i think the discourse is overblown. Ppl will argue all day abourlt wonder womans outfit or pinnapple on pizza)