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vamptastic · 8 months ago

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after like the fifth time in recent memory politely asking and/or frustratedly yelling at them abt it my family is making some effort to refer to me as male. it's really funny and kind of fascinating the contexts in which they remember and which ones they don't. siblings remember when hyperbolically insulting me mom remembers only in social context dad rmbrs it like once a month in the weirdest way possible. meanwhile my extended family bar the senile and/or catholic grandparents seemingly switched over immediately and effortlessly.

#to be clear they've known since i was 11 shit is just complicated. I don't have endless energy to fight over it #but now that im an adult and medically and legally transitioning i think my dad is like #taking the path of least resistance. I don't think he's seriously bothered by me being trans just unwilling to confront any internalized #bigotry ever. like most mildly conservative gen x types. or admitting to making a mistake or having a flaw ever.#everyone else has no real issue with it they just slip up a lot bc they're all used to selectively switching pronouns for dif contexts #like my sister had no issue w it at school but forgets at home and my mom slips up in public bc she's used to hiding it #my brother is just uh. an unhinged adhd riddled middle schooler so God knows what goes on in his head but he occasionally remembers #aunt is cool with it though she's said weird shit b4 and my cousin is like 3 so she does nawt care #my uncle and grandparents uh frankly should all kill themselves for unrelated reasons #and doubtlessly if they managed to even remember have said horrid shit about it behind my back or to my mom #but i actively avoid speaking to any of them at all costs already so idc #except my dads mom i should tell her at some point she's just mega ultra catholic so she'll doubtlessly not like it #but she's also generally a polite person despite her unhinged political views so at least she'll be cool #god knows what the my senile anarchocapitalist grandpa would say. could really go either way #his political views are truly fascinating (ancap is an educated guess. he is insane). could honestly go hard in either direction

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