#but I���m also wondering if it ties back to Simon Cowell

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(1/6) Thanks for being so kind and friendly and allowing people to speak their minds on your blog even if you don't agree. You know, sometimes I can almost understand why people become ex-larries/houies--it's forbidden to say something about Louis that isn't the party line. Having doubts about him instantly labels you as a mean anti/houie. People are afraid to speak up about it, and that's horrible. It's not much better than bullying. I hate when antis call larries a cult, but

(2/6) there’s one thing larries become cult-like: Louis. I don’t know why it is that way, but it gets really old, you know? We’re all adults, but bullying those who dare to have an opinion different from the crowd puts a bad taste in my mouth and takes me back to my high school days. Don’t people get that this type of behavior is exactly why people leave the Larry fandom? Not because they necessarily stop believing in Larry, but because of the toxic attitude toward those who dare to think

(3/6) a little differently about Louis than the majority? Thinking that Louis might have different ambitions doesn’t make Louis a bad person or Larry less real. I wish people around here learned that thinking differently isn’t an attack against Louis and Larry. People are allowed to have doubts in real life without instantly becoming a “closeted anti.” I’ll never be an anti: I believe the boys are in love and together, but perhaps out perception of the boys was wrong. We don’t know them.(4/6) I mean, Louis managed to hide Jay’s illness for a year; what are the odds of us knowing his inner thoughts and ambitions? Louis is the only one who still has so many ties to OT, so I think having doubts is very normal. NOT having them at all is actually strange. I love the boys, but they aren’t perfect idols who can do no wrong. They’re people, with flaws and bad decisions. I’m not gonna justify everything they do and make excuses for them to make them fit into this idea of them I have.

(5/6) Don’t Het harries do the same with Harry? They blindly deny his less than het actions and words, reaching to find explanations for them. Larries do the same thing do with Louis. The world isn’t black and white. There’s gray, too. We aren’t sheep. We should be allowed to have different opinions on Louis’ actions without people attacking us for our thoughts and accusing us of being antis. It makes me so sad, because Larry fandom is wonderful otherwise and I’ve made some great friends here. 

(6/6) But I’m afraid to tell even them about my doubts, and I fucking hate it. It’s not healthy and it really ruins my fandom experience. I can’t just delete and make friends with antis, because I think they’re wrong about Larry; I can’t be a houie because I don’t think the boys broke up. Where are people like me supposed to go? People who believe in Larry, think they’re still together, but have a different opinion on the boys than the majority of Larry fandom? I’m tired, B.

awwwwww babe, I’m so so so so SO sorry you’re feeling this way.  I can definitely see you’re in a tough place. I think people are particularly defensive because they’ve been attacked for so long.  The bigger blogs in particular get sent a lot of hate on a daily basis.  And if it’s NOT straight up hate, it’s antis trolling pretending to be doubters just so they can take what the responses are back and either laugh at it or twist words which in turn leads to more people sending more hate.  I’ve never seen fandom dynamics like this.  I understand where it comes from, sure, leading alllllll they way back for years, but that unfortunately doesn’t help fix the situation now.  

People ARE very protective of Louis here.  He’s been shut down so much, fans were afraid of him for so long, people have called him such ugly names and talked shit about him, and then not to mention the fact that he recently went through a personal tragedy.  

While i understand what you’re trying to say regarding het harries, for me the argument doesn’t quite hold up.  They’re basing their perception on Harry on what the media says about him and not looking deeper into what he’s actually saying.  I”m not trying to be rude here, but to me that’s what it seems like you’re doing with Louis.  You’re basing it on what’s publicly being said, and not the things that we’ve observed upon closer inspection.

I do agree with you that none of the boys are perfect by any means and I do agree that we definitely don’t know Louis’ innermost thoughts, but…I guess my question to you is, who DO you think he is exactly?  What do you think his ambitions are? if you take a look at everything he’s done publicly (and this is removing any personal feelings, anything having to do with Larry, just stating what’s been publicly shown) he’s kind of all over the place. He’s got a UK label supposedly working with a US girl band. A manager that handles on camera personalities based in the UK and is also listed as a solo artist on their website. He’s got a US based agent that deals with actor/musicians. He just released a solo song through a US based label. He signed with a UK based PR firm but let a completely separate UK based PR firm handle the PR for his single.  

To me, just looking at those facts alone, I have absolutely no clue what this person wants to do next.  I didn’t even add in the fact that we know he’s an amazing songwriter who enjoys doing that as well.  So then that’s when I take a look at it from things i’ve OBSERVED which, sure, that’s open to interpretation, but from what i’ve seen, that’s not a kid that’s not exactly on friendly terms with Simon Cowell.  So that’s when I start asking why.  And even, as I mentioned yesterday, from a purely business standpoint, certain things don’t make sense to me.  Which leads me to ask MORE whys. and THEN finally as my very last step, I look at it from a Larry point of view and find even MORE whys on TOP of those whys.  

I’m not here to try to change your mind, I”m just showing my thought process.  I really am curious to know what your thoughts are and why you came to the conclusions you’ve come to.  

I wish I had more advice about your friends.  I don’t know them, but I would think if they’re legitimately good people if you come to them privately and say “hey, so i’ve been thinking about this particular  situation and this is how I see it.  I see it this way because…” and explain yourself that they’ll understand. They might not agree, but as long as you’re not an asshole about it (which obviously you aren’t) and as long as you present it with valid reasons why you feel that way, if they’re your  friends, they should understand.  Maybe also look into finding some blogs that are just here to enjoy the boys and don’t do so much speculation on either side of the spectrum.  There’s still joy to be found here.  Lots of big solo projects to look forward to and even a film!  Focus on the things you love about these boys and not the drama surrounding the fandom.  And you’re welcome to chat with me any time!