#but I still feel the need to tag the toxic christian bullshit

[tadpoles-and-daydreams]

Me: "Honestly, I'm afraid that doing readings won't be doable as a small source of income and maybe I'm just putting energy into something that won't pan out. I'm so fucking nervous that this will completely flop. I'm willing to put in the work, but I'm scared it won't pay off."

Loki, fucking rubbing their hands together: "Need a sign? I can do that. BET."

Cue my grandmother. Context is important; I have a shaky relationship with her. She's had lots of character growth, even listens to me talking about witchcraft because "it's important to listen to your beliefs so I can know who you are" and is doing her best to understand trans topics. Still, I don't think she will truly see me as a man nor will she ever stop looking down upon witchcraft. Whether or not she says that, she'll always hope I come back to the church. HOWEVER.

She calls me, and informs me that she's sent me money. I'm like "what the fuck why" and she tells me I mentioned that I was starting to do paid readings. She says I can spend it however I want, but that the intention is so I can get the tarot deck I was saying I was hoping to get if paid readings go well enough to fund it. I've wanted that deck for years, it's one of the ones I'm most drawn to and I love the art the most, and here she is buying it for me when she openly disapproves of these things.

In the words of my friend, "well that's one HELL OF SIGN. If that's not a sign I don't know what the fuck is."

[heyftinally]

Both of these sets of tags needed to be included, imo:

I'm so sick and tired of being admonished for being fed up with christian bullshit and making generalizing statements about them (a religion I was trapped in for over a decade, so it's not like I don't have firsthand experience, for the record)

And to be quite honest? I don't care. I don't care that the self proclaimed "progressive" christians aren't protesting my existence in the street or calling me slurs in the local Walmart produce section - unless you're actively fighting against ALL of the homophobia and transphobia that is baked into christian theology, you're just slapping a sticker on yourself to avoid the negative feelings that come with being a shitty bigot.

And I do mean ALL.

Being against homosexual "acts" but not feelings is still homophobic.

Not allowing lgbtq+ to work in the church - at all, with children, in public facing roles, etc - is homophobic.

Teaching that being lgbtq+ is a "sin" is homophobic and transphobic.

Any variation of "pray the gay away" is homophobic.

Not loudly and clearly opposing these ideals EVERY time your church spouts them IS HOMOPHOBIC.

Telling gay people you'll pray for them - ESPECIALLY without asking - isn't directly homophobic, but it's a shitty thing to do and guarantees that a lot of us immediately never want to see you again. Proselytizing needs to die.

Being weird about gay people is also homophobic. You don't need to introduce that one gay person/couple to everyone in your church as "the gay one". In fact, you really shouldn't bring it up at all. It's not your information to share, and it doesn't need to be made a big deal because it's not. You don't introduce Jim and Tina and say "they're straight", so don't introduce Jenny and Sarah with "they're gay".

And no, nobody is obligated to give you the benefit of the doubt. I need so-called "progressive christians" to understand right now that Ally is a title that is earned, and by nature of being part of a notoriously hateful, bigoted religion, you will need to work 10x as hard to ear that title. That's not "discrimination", it's the consequences of centuries of bigotry that your religion brought on itself, and continues to spew today. I can count the number of legitimately good christians I've met in almost 30yrs on one hand. None of us owe you anything.

And this goes beyond bigotry, too.

Y'all need to understand CRYSTAL CLEARLY that your religion has caused a LOT of harm, and continues to do so. If you can't understand how, go listen to and talk to religious trauma survivors (do NOT try and convince them not all churches are bad or that your god ≠ the people that hurt them - we don't care, and we didn't ask. Just listen and seek to understand).

Stop teaching purity culture and letting it be taught/promoted. It's misogynistic, toxic, abusive, and traumatizing. It's also, quite frankly, bullshit.

If you want "progressive christian" to actually mean something more than "I don't like being lumped in with the violently hateful fucks because it makes me feel bad", then you have a LOT of work to do. Otherwise, you're just complicit in the violent hatred.

Being so fr if progressive christians want us to not lump them in with the “bad ones” im gonna need them to actually step up and give me a reason not to, because my whole life they’ve been the people standing by watching their conservative peers do awful things and not doing anything to stop it

[wolf-queer-discourse]

Adventures in Aphobia #1

So I was scrolling through Tumblr the other day (a regrettable mistake as always), and I had the great pleasure of seeing this joyous post.

*deep breath*

Not gonna lie, posts like this make me real pissed. Pissed because the person who posted this exists in a space where they feel comfortable enough to post this online. Pissed because these posts are so common and often face little backlash. And pissed because there’s nothing better than allosexuals condescendingly explaining to asexual people why they’re dirty attention whores who invent their own oppression. Ace people deserve to be defended against this horseshit. Young people see these posts, and it’s extremely damaging to have your identity be nothing more than fuel for people in discourse to mock you and demand you bled in order for them to notice your pain.

Anger aside, many people do not see why this post is wrong, so why is it? Let’s unpack this clusterfuck of bigotry:

“would love to see substantive evidence of systematic “aphobia” that isn’t actually just misogyny, toxic masculinity, or rpe culture.”

God damn, we are not mincing our words here XD. A few things: systematic in bold, which tells you if you do not make a blood sacrifice on the altar of queer pain you will not be taken seriously. Potential nitpick, but systemic and systematic are not the same thing. I believe systemic is the word they’re looking for. Systematic implies a lot more intentionality that can be hard to prove. Systemic merely means that systems, in their current state, do aphobic things, which they absolutely do.

“Aphobia” in quotes is absolutely rich. Not only will this person refuse to acknowledge systemic aphobia, which is only one type, but this poster casts clear doubt upon the mere concept of aphobia in and of itself. We love to see it.

There’s a lot to unpack here. The statement, as clearly condescending as intended, is sort of correct, though it doesn’t mean a whole lot. Systemic oppression is about the systems in a society (government, healthcare, etc) discriminating against people. Systemic oppression is not bigotry faced on a person-to-person level. In short, systematic oppression is something a person experiences in their overall life, while personal discrimination is experienced on a personal level by people who are not singularly in control of the systems. This post boils down the negative comments ace people face into being called “weird”, which is an understatement for sure, but calling a gay person weird isn’t systemic oppression either.

It’s still bad and discriminatory.

This is such a snotty way to dismiss aphobia as some mere, insignificant comment with no meaning as if it doesn’t reinforce society’s painful aphobic views in the same way casual homophobic comments reinforce heteronormativity and society’s hostility toward gay people.

Ace people face discrimination in healthcare, most notably, which is systemic discrimination, but the systemic discrimination of asexuals really ought to be its own post if I’m to nosedive into it. Even if ace people faced no systemic discrimination, it wouldn’t make this point anymore correct. Discrimination is a perfectly valid reason to feel disregarded by society, and often only ace people are denied the right to feel this way and are instead gaslit into admitting what they face is no big deal and they’re just making it up for attention.

The experience of being pressured to have sex when you’re allo vs ace is very different. The vast majority of allo people do not plan to be celibate their whole lives. Many ace people do not want to have sex, ever. “Waiting for sex” in much of western society and in Christianity is seen as pure and honorable. Yet being asexual and never wanting sex is seen as a deviant disorder and people are accused of robbing their partner of sex forever.

There’s really a specific flavor of sexual pressure that is unique to ace people. Sex being to “fix” someone or because they “just need to try it”.

In this respect, aphobic sexual pressure is better compared to that faced by gay people and lesbians. Lesbians especially often can face this same struggle, men pressuring them to have sex because they think lesbians just need to “try it” or to “fix them”. I can imagine this poster would have no issue acknowledging lesbophobia being the root of lesbians coerced into sex with men, yet she does not give ace people the same.

Imagine if someone said (and knowing our fucked world, someone probably has): “Lesbophobia doesn’t exist. It’s just misogyny. Straight women are coerced into sex too!”

It’d be pathetic bullshit. Toxic masculinity, misogyny and many other issues can all tangle into combined messes with other forms of bigotry. Lesbophobia is an experience that deserves to be recognized apart from misogyny, even if the two are linked. Please stop erasing ace people’s experiences with this when it’s not the same thing.

Honestly, though, this post, as trashy as it is, if anything, is perhaps, really asking: Is there any type of aphobic experience that’s inherently exclusive to ace people?

I still wager to go say, yes, yes there is, but I must make an important point first:

Most experiences of queer discrimination are not limited to queer people.

Homophobia and transphobia are both experienced by cishets in certain instances. Feminine straight men can be victims of homophobic harassment. This does not disprove the fact that it’s homophobia just because a straight man is the victim of it. A tall cis woman with broad shoulders and a lower voice may be the victim of transphobic remarks or comments. The basis of these comments is rooted in transphobia, however, so the fact that the victim is cis does not erase the transphobia.

People who argue that experiences ace people complain about can be experienced by allosexuals are not poking a legitimate hole in doing this. Certain experiences related to aphobia can and are experienced by allosexuals. If you do not acknowledge this, then homophobia and transphobia aren’t real because cishet people have sometimes experienced them.

Despite cishets sometimes experiencing queerphobia, most of us acknowledge that their experience of that bigotry, however unfortunate, is not the same as that experienced by actual queer people. It’d be quite homophobic for a feminine straight man to claim he knew just as much about the gay experience as an actual gay man. Similarly, when allosexual people relate experiences that were rooted in aphobia, it’s overstepping a line when they claim asexual discrimination isn’t real because they experienced elements of it too.

Cishet (cishet including allosexuals) people do not experience their doctors telling them their sexuality might be a disorder or caused by trauma. Allo queer people can experience this with their sexualities too.

“using sex appeal to sell products is misogyny, it is not engineered to gross sex-repulsed people, it is meant to objectify women.”

This is a strawman thinner than my last nerve. Uh, what? What ace people are you seeing that literally think sex appeal was engineered to gross-out sex-repulsed people?? I don’t think this is a core argument??

Yes, sex-repulsed ace people sometimes complain about sex appeal in media being uncomfortable. But that’s it. Every time an ace person shares a discomfort of theirs doesn’t mean it’s the entire basis of their oppression. For the love of God, let ace people discuss their experiences without being blow-torched over not being oppressed enough with an individual discomfort. 

BONUS ROUND

(This was in the tags)

“Completely vilifies celibate individuals” 

...no…? What…? Huh…? 

The most charitable interpretation of this vague accusation is that the poster means celibate people face aphobia as well, due to not wanting to have sex. I have no idea how this “vilifies” anyone, but that aside, as said before: people who are not queer can face aphobia. Also worth noting that society treats celibate people way better than ace people, which is really another example of aphobia. Celibate people can be told they’re missing out (which could be at very least related to aphobic ideals), but they’re rarely called broken. Celibacy is seen more as a respected, controlled ideal in allo people, but when ace people want to do it, they’re just mentally ill.

Anyway, the post was aphobic trash, and it needs to be debunked more often. Mocking ace people online is not a good look anymore, guys. Don't be ugly.

[eldritch-queern-magicat]

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First of all: This is not meant to be a discourse blog, and that will not change. If it looks like I'm going there, it's by accident. This is a blog mainly about living with the shit I do and being a chatterbox. Getting involved in anything beyond an honest and civil conversation would distract me from healing and being active in my community in the offline world. I have limited reserves of energy and also need it for college.

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Welcome to the Magicat Horde, we are Legion, also known in real life as Cari. Call us whatever, we don't really mind. We're an actively recovering polyfragmented system with more issues than Marvel and DC comics combined. Feel free to ask us things or send whatever fun stuff, anon is on if you prefer that. The idea of this blog is really just individual parts expressing themselves more, and being as weird as we want to be within the relative safety of an personal blog. This is going to be both silly and personal at various points.

This post is updated as time goes on, because I don't want to be making a new pinned post. I'd rather just edit my original. It's easier, because the changes are usually small.

Also keep in mind that I'm legally an adult in my early 30s. I will tag my stuff to the best of my ability, especially if my topic is more mature, but I'm not going to censor my experiences. And those do get extremely traumatic. Filter what you need to (foster care, face pain, self harm, vent tags, (Christian) cult tags, new age bullshit, etc). And a lot of my healing has also involved sexual liberation, so I try to make sure that's properly tagged.

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Occasionally we still have moments of open mouth, insert foot. I think that's true of everyone at some point. I will always try to own up to my mistakes. Please just talk to me because otherwise I may not see it right away.

I'm historically socially awkward, but it's slowly getting better. I didn't get a lot of very good socialization in my early childhood. A lot of my childhood was spent in very rural communities (one was literally the middle of nowhere, not even a village), as well as being generally socially isolated from my peers. So all I ask is you be polite and respect that people are not perfect. Purity culture is a bunch of toxic nonsense and I'm not going to tolerate it.

I also don't tolerate bigots. Bigotry is my main DNI. I don't believe in being a jerk to people just because they're different. You will be told to basically fuck off. I literally don't have the patience for it. This entire blog is colorful and fun because it's the only way half the shit I deal with doesn't just completely wreck me. One of the best cures for pain is having as much fun you can. If you have a problem with that or think I'm fake, you can always leave.

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If you're interested, we do have other social media. You can find us at LunarMageSilverRose on Instagram, same username on Threads. We share whatever there sporadically, kind of like a photo journal. We've also begun writing poetry again, and have started sharing it over there, which is increasing my post frequency lately. We are pretty consistently on the app because we follow a bunch of cat/animal accounts for the warm fuzzy feelings they give us, though.

We follow from @lmsr-lilitu-sephiroth Other sideblogs are exactly what they say on the tin. @magicclanofcats @magicatbirdwatchers @magicatsloveallcreatures @magicatfloramode @magicatartgallery @magicatshinycollection @magicatmusiccollection @magicatfoodieworld @magicatfashionwatch @magicathauntednest @magicatadorespokemon @magicatevilious @magicatkingdomhearts @magicattarotresource @magicathordeofwritingtips @magicatartstuffdump @magicatdivineshitpostcollection @magicatdrone-unit1384 (this is not to be made into anything but a fun roleplay; do not expect this to be a sexual thing; please read the pinned post for further details if you're curious) @leatherlaceandrope (this is my NSFW sideblog where I have fun with kinky adult stuff; it goes without saying that if you're under the age of eighteen, stay away; just wait until you're legally an adult I promise there are other things for you to do)

Small thing before we get to the actual list of parts/alters, though: United Workers is a Maryland state grassroots human rights organization based in Baltimore. These are the folks who have supported me in the last few years that allowed me to heal even more. They've helped me find the strength to make my life happier and get back on my feet. We've also launched our Right to Health campaign, the right of everyone to good health and affordable medical care. Please consider supporting us however you can.

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Human, electric/fighting type, steel tera Male-He/him/his Guardian of the Library

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