#btw just to be clear this is about people (specifically NTs in this example) giving out advice that wasn't asked for and doesn't help and

[sullina]

"You don't have adhd, everyone forgets stuff sometimes!"

Yesterday, as i was grocery shopping, i was thinking "hm, i need to get something that's at the other end of the store" and forgot what i wanted to do as i was walking other there This happened TWICE as i was there. In ONE shopping trip, mind you. And I still forgot the one thing i was actually there for.

And just today, i made instant ramen, poured hot water into a bowl with the noodles, and immediately forgot about it. I don't even know for how long I forgot about it, but it was definitely longer than 5 minutes, bc the noodles had swelled to twice the size they're supposed to be.

More often than not, I'll get up and tell myself "okay, I'm doing this one thing today" and then it's 10pm and I didn't do the thing, because i just forgot.

I've been meaning to check if i have any shampoo left of the one that i use, but the only times I remember that I have to check is when I'm at the store and looking at the shampoo bottles. Naturally, I forget to check once I'm home.

Sure, everyone forgets stuff sometimes, but when you have adhd, it's not "sometimes". It's all the time. It's so often that you come to expect forgetting of yourself.

"Just write yourself some reminders"

I will forget that I have reminders

"Put them somewhere, where you'll see them!"

Just because I'm looking at something, doesn't mean I'll see it. Not to mention that anything new will eventually be not new and blend into the background, at which point I will no longer be aware of it, making it useless.

"Ugh, stop being so difficult!"

You're the one giving out advice that I 1) most likely didn't ask for and 2) have already heard a thousand times, tried hundreds of times, and found that it worked exactly 0 times. It's not my fault you're forcing advice on me that doesn't work for me.

"Just try harder!"

Pretty bold of you to assume that I'm not already trying my best. You think I want to forget to do everything I have to do? For what, just to spite you of all people? YOU?? You really think you are so important to me that I would put any effort into spiting you?

Don't flatter yourself.