#bold of y'all to assume that i don't appreciate or understand morally grey or emotionally complicated situations

[taylortruther]

Not only are crushes normal in long term relationships, but couples secure in their partnership tease each other about the crushes. //

Lmao I can't with y'all. crushes are one thing jerking off to a man who you're in contact with and having these clandestine moments with are 2 different things. We can just say taylor potentially cheated without justifying emotional cheating guys. Trust me. She knows.

i'm sorry, but anons like you are so annoying. we're having a whole-ass conversation and it's not about taylor at this moment. we're talking about relationships in general! based on our own experiences!

the anon that sparked this conversation said (emphasis mine):

Also can I just say that masturbating to someone other than your partner 6 years in (on its own, without the cause and effect etc etc): not a big deal at all lol.

which i think is an important thing to understand! taylor was engaging in dubious behavior because that dude was sending her songs (yellow flag!), inching back into her life, and she was like "hmm, maybe i should blow up my life to be with him" and masturbating about it. obviously that that crossed the line LMAO. but if all you're doing is crushing on a person, that's not automatically emotional cheating. i don't think it's wrong to fantasize about other people. it's the actions you take (the scheming, breaking up) that matter! god. leave us alone lmao