#because they're not even immigrating they still have their stupid ass job in the states

[ishikawayukis]

if you're going to move out of your country literally the least you could do is try to adapt to your new country rules and traditions, and if you don't like it sucks for you gringo weón

[satelliteaccident]

yikes, m8: the century that was 2021

if i had to pick one word to describe my 2021, it'd have to be "disorienting". what a fucking paddling that was, and not in the "aw yiss" kind of way.

let's see... what the blistering hell-potato happened here?

january: i was working full-time, and applied for j-school, and saw an immigration lawyer, and tried to get my employer to sponsor me because the state sponsorships were fucked because pandemic. i wanna say we were still working from home at this point? yeah, we were, because i was home when after 18 months of pissfarting around, bosspeeps were finally like "hmm yeah nah we're happy with you but sponsorship sounds Too Hard, we're cool tho rite?" insert renewed suicidal ideation here. *exhausted pompoms* Kiddo started last year of primary school! holy shit!! lupin started Job 2.0: The Same Job, But With Even More Awesome/Hours (they're a gardener/librarian at a primary school and honestly who could be cooler than that?? not me).

february: i think we were working from the office again? i wrapped up at Workplace two weeks before starting at Uni. offered to do casual work for them but they weren't into it. ah well. had Kerfuffle getting uni documentation squared away but we got there. Kiddo and mr six went fishing. it was super cute. we still have a whole-ass dead snapper in the freezer from that?? LESS CUTE.

march: Uni started and proved both FUCKING HIGH INTENSITY JFC and also really cool. Workplace was like "uh so we know you offered to do casual work after you left and we weren't into that buuuuut it turns out we kind of don't actually have enough people, how do you feel about casual work". i'm a broke-ass immigrant, how the fuck you think i feel?! great! i feel great! sign me up!! i think maybe we had more lockdown? honestly hard to keep track at this point. [eta nope that was feb we had lockdown. sigh.]

april: we went on holiday to Relatively Nearby Holiday Destination. we stayed in a cool airbnb. i did a lot of homework while we were there because j-school is bananahammers. lupin and i went to a farm and hung out with animals, most of whom were chill and some of whom were stupid cute.

may: school?? idek

june: like may but colder so the cats were cuddlier. more lockdown. got the first appointment i could to go back on ritalin -- late november. YEAAAHHHHH

july: i got nothing

augtember: l o c k d o w n, walks at Nearby Park and duck watching with Kiddo, lots and lots of remote learning for me and Kiddo, remote work for mr six, lots of hangouts with our lil triad + our platonic bff. got into DE and DE tumblrness around then i think? definitely the year's most dopamine-rich, creatively and interpersonally rewarding highlight. thanks team. <3

november: got back on ritalin. did the best job i have ever done on lupin's hair, omg, what a goddamn Peak Moment. also the sum total of years-long pandemic and immigration fuckeries finally pushed me all the way to "ABSOLUTELY FUCK THIS, I AM NOT WAITING FOR A 'BETTER TIME' ANY MORE" re: gender stuff; in a rare stroke of unmitigated win, a clinic literally up the street re-opened its wait list after nearly a year, AND i got an appointment the next week.

december: Kiddo finished primary school whoaaaaaa. applied for a third masters program aha aha ahahahahakillme. started job searching. have some work lined up for early next year but no sponsorship yet. set up consult for top surgery! started on T! holy shit!

so... yeah. A Lot. grateful my family is safe and healthy; grateful for partners who are joys even in lockdown; grateful Kiddo is on track to go to secondary school (she has Issues and it's awesome to see her making choices and getting supports that let her thrive); grateful for friends and DE times; grateful to have created stuff for school and for funsies. absolutely fucken shattered to be facing "go back to school AGAIN or be forced to leave the country and your partners and child" on a march deadline. it's not great. the dream would be for the state or an employer to go "ooh hang on we wanna sponsor you" in the meantime, buuuuuut it hasn't happened so far, so. add in the dizzy joy of finally getting gender-affirming care after 20 years of trying to just Get By and it's. yeah. disorienting.

but not bad. i'm gonna grab the good with both hands and pull myself through to the next thing, and the next, and i'm gonna figure it out as i go, dammit. thanks for coming this far with me, and hopefully, there will be better things to say about 2022.

[fatphobiabusters]

1. While fat folks may not get shot by police simply for being fat, you'll find a lot of marginalized groups don't suffer that affliction. Almost as if you can't base everything off one form of oppression or something....

2. Fat folks are in fact treated as children and looked down upon for being fat!! Shows how much you care abt oppressed groups.

3. Fat people are denied jobs every fucking day you nitwit!!! This one truly shows you've never once looked at the problems fat folks face. The only state in America who prevents discrimination based off size is Michigan. Check your privilege

4. Fat people get forced into unsafe situations by medical personnel all the damn time. Fat folks are refused treatment based off weight, we're forced into getting our organs amputated ffs. We don't have bodily autonomy the way slim folks do.

5. When fat people are raped we're told to be happy somebody wanted to have sex with us. Pls shut your mouth forever, fat people who have survived SA don't want or need to hear you.

6. As a fat indigenous person, WHAT. Just because I'm not you, colonization doesn't count??? Indigenous people, who if you recall are still being colonized to this day, are fat and treated badly by medical personnel. We were seen as fat and lazy by Europeans (they had no problems raping our women though 🤷🏽‍♀️). Literally please stop talking out of your ass, you look stupid.

7. Fat immigrants exist???? Your point missed entirely. Fat people are still fleeing war torn countries the same as skinny people, and yknow what else?? Slim people are more likely to be allowed to flee bc most countries consider being fat a health condition and won't take you.

8. This one is true, however in the modern world very few people aren't allowed to vote. As I'm sure you know, the fight for equality has been long and winding and unequal, so I guess my point is this: would you like to ban voting for fat folks so we can fight for the right back?? Would that make you feel better???

9. Right to love, hmmm...while I can't speak for all fat folks, I know as someone who isn't straight or cis this affected me. As it would any other fat person who isn't straight or cis?? Fat gay people exist Katherine!!

10. Above all remember fat people can be anyone. Black, indigenous, queer, disabled, mentally ill, etc. We can be anyone, can come from anywheres, have any struggle a thin person has. But we're also fat, and that affects how each thing that happens to us.

You say our biggest problems are 'not being considered attractive and not fitting into seats' which is a gross understatement of what fatphobia is about. If you pulled your head from your ass you could see this, but considering you don't realize fat people can be non white or disabled, I don't have faith in you.

You say that our health problems are caused by weight alone. Just wondering where you got your MD?? Tell me where exactly you decided you know more abt our own selves and bodies than we do?? I can assure you, as many many many other fat folks can, my health issues are not caused by or a symptom of, being fat. You don't get to decide that as a literal stranger on the internet lmfao.

You seem to have a very serious problem with anyone not exactly like you dealing with oppression. It's honestly a really sad worldview, nobody is going to be like you exactly, but everyone has problems and everyone is allowed to talk about them. They're allowed to use activist language because they are activists!!! And even if they weren't, you don't own activism and activism words and phrases.

You're acting like a child, refusing to acknowledge oppression you think is deserved. Get over yourself, read some fat liberation literature, drink some tea, and rethink why you hate fat people this much

Mod squirrel: btw it's documented that if a fat person dies in police custody due to police violence, cops will try to blame the victims weight for death and not the torture.

Also I'm a broken record but weight is genetic and the majority of diets fail. Fat people aren't all fat for "over eating" stop being a clown.

if i hear one more fucking HAES "activist" co-opting language used by actually oppressed groups im gonna S C R E A M