#because there's gotta be a universe where we're the opposite gender

[seaside-werewolf]

Tumblr complain time- Remember when everyone was (rightly) against genderbends because they're horribly binary and just put stupid ideas of how MAN and WOMAN look onto various characters? It was like pretty universally agreed on right?

WHY are they popular again and why do I see them everywhere...but its okay theyre woke because instead of being called a genderbend they're called "transfem/transmasc version" but are still the same super binary stereotypical thing.

Im mainly thinking of mp100 and ones i see of Reigen/Serizawa tbh, where the 'transfem' version will be super feminine, makeup, added eyelashes, long hair, only wearing dresses/skirts to show they are GIRL and I hate it so much. If they were the ""opposite gender"" or whatever, why would they look any different? Shockingly i'm a butch lesbian who looks more like normal Reigen then the "transfem" version but yknow...also dont take this as me hating transfem/trans girl headcannons for these characters, i dont, but if that's your headcannon why do you have to change their looks so drastically to look so stereotypically "the other gender"? That seems not very good towards transfem people too, if the transfem versions of people Have to have full faces of makeup all the time, and only wear certain clothing etc...

Tbh it works much much better with trans girl Mob and I honestly love those, it makes sense for his character, hes not overly stereotypically girly and feminine and it just generally has much more thought behind it as an AU rather than "haha Reigen genderbend so he must wear all the makeup and dresses now bc woman amirite?"

If we're meant to be destroying gender binary and preconceived views of gender we gotta stop bringing back genderbends again 😭

[kiefbowl]

I gotta talk about this because I feel like I'm in opposite land when I read takes like this lol.

"the worst adaptation of a single asoiaf/f&b event so far" is bananas thing to say. bananas. can't even take that seriously.

"did not focus on helaena at all" is also...bananas?? who did it focus on? you got the b&c finding her, making her choose, and she chooses and then it shows her long walk to find alicent...lord hello?? that is literally film POV so this is just wrong

I'll get back to the pleading of the life thing in a second, but "where is helaena being forced to make the worst decision of her life?" is so strange like so strange...she literally did?? they said "which one is the boy" and she decided to 1. choose and 2. not lie. She picked a child to die. it's the same in the book. the difference is which children (which I'll get to)...which makes me think this is gendered. like because it's a son and a daughter and not two sons it's not as bad...also in the book didn't she choose and they say "lol nope", the hotd scene actually makes her choice matter. so...anyway

This obsession with this what happened that is "real" because it is in "the book" is going to drive me up a wall because the book is fiction. I have never been adjacent to a fandom so intent on discussing what is "real" about a fictional book, it feels like only the bottom 10% percentile of media literacy are watching this show. so many posts are like this. and what is more crazed about the fact that the fictional book is being treated like a transcription of real history is the fact that it is not even a novel. it is literally an "in universe" history book that is explicitly, on every page deconstructing one of grrm's favorite and most prominent themes and tropes that known history is not necessarily factual. like why wasn't alicent in the room when she was in the book? probably because this is going to be a political disaster and the greens are going to take steps to hide the truth and make a narrative.

Not to mention "the book was about" and the "tv show was about" is like...yes, these are two different mediums. this is an adaptation. grrm is a fictional writer who can write shit that flies in a book and that would be ridiculous in a tv show. melancholy does not translate the same from one medium to the next. so yes, helaena didn't plead for them to take her life and yes alicent wasn't in the room, so that is actually """""fact""""" and now you know the ways in which the sources of the history book we're lying or exaggerating. good lord. this is also the first episode can you give the season a second to resolve it's set-ups before you worry if it's going to resolve it's set-ups.

okay anyway lol the discourse in this fandom is so dreadful but the memes are so good

I gotta make a post about wrong hotd opinions I'm sorry to all women who don't care one sec

[nadineselfships-archived]

Red velvet doodles!! Damien as a chick is really hot why have i not drawn this until now-

[neneyne]

@radfemmedyke since op blocked me

Okay, you're done and ready to actually know what I was trying to say? Good, then maybe we can have an actual conversation:

1) I never even once said I approve of forcing femininity on tomboys. No one in the notes has

Literally the opposite.

The other thing that op (and many others) seemed to find an offense specifically targeted at lesbians that we disagreed on is:

2) Tomboys dating males "eventually"

No one grows out or into sexuality, it's innate. I thought it was sth every radfem agreed on?

Making tomboys straight in movies and such isn't a lie or slight at lesbians/bi women, unlike what many ppl here seem to think.

Sexuality and taste in fashion and clothes are not inherently connected. No one is born with a preference towards bows or dresses, things and norms that are socially constructed and constantly change anyway

Tomboys who got together with guys didn't "grow out" of tomboyishness or "into" heterosexuality. They were just always straight AND tomboy. These two things aren't incompatible

Dating men isn't "becoming subservient to men". Unless we're talking specifically about movies, books etc where the plot is about a lesbian tomboy "turning straight" (which is lesbophobic) it's just dating men and not an intentional attack pn same-sex attracted women

3) I've never had any discomfort towards Butch lesbians existing or having a rep. N e v e r

I celebrate every masculine/tomboyish/gender-nonconfirming female rep, whether straight, Bi or gay.

But it also means I will fight hatred or insults towards straight female tomboyishness or masculinity rep as well as others

Tomboys, butches, stags/tomcats are incredibly important as an example for straight/gay/bi girls and women and must be protected. Yes, all of them, including (straight) tomboys

4) What is a "tomboy" anyway?

Since radblr likes to boast so much that "words have meaning" let's take a look at what tomboy means according to dictionary:

This is it. This is what the word means to most ppl.

A girl who likes traditionally "masculine" things.

The fact that most tomboys are straight in media isn't a problem, the fact that many tomboys end up dating men isn't a "warfare" or lie.

The fact that tomboys sometimes end up "feminized" is a problem. But it has nothing to do with sexuality most of the time, but simple the fact that women are expected to become more feminine with adulthood no matter whether they're tomboyish, gender neutral or even already pretty feminine.

Tomboys aren't the problem. Tomboys dating men aren't the problem.

Forced feminization and lack of gay/Bi rep are.

Tomboy isn't meant to be an insult, just a cheeky word. Tomboy girl and tomboy gets feminized are different tropes

5) Lastly. You asked what if I knew any positive straight tomboy rep?

I do

From 90s American movies where tomboyish girls were allowed to be, play sports and sometimes even star in their own movies. To modern video games like Dragon Age, Mass Effect or cartoons like Steven Universe or PPG there's been some awesome tomboys and masculine women who are rare, but still exist and embrace themselves.

And you know what kind of reaction do I see when they turn out to be straight by "feminists" and I-love-all-women-ers?

Bitterness and condensation.

They're called "boring" and authors are accused of "misleading" and "baiting" and "appropriation" of gay culture just because these women wear short hair and don't wear dresses or sth. They're mocked and headcanonned as gay anyway often out of spite cuz I guess them being straight is a waste or homophobia or sth.

And when you have both right and left mock and roll eyes at masc/tomboy straight women for whatever reason, you kinda push these women into the only other alternative: femininity. And that's just wrong on every level

I know most ppl on Tumblr and such are from west, often USA. But as someone who comes from a place, a country and a culture where women have less rights and freedoms (even straight, white, "privileged" ones) including when it comes to appearance but I'm just disappointed over and over

Straight women and girls don't stop being punished for masculine behaviour and appearance just because they're straight. Femininity is a cage forced on every girl and woman and I want to celebrate every girl who sets herself free

Some lesbian/bi radfems/separatists also say that gay kids are more gnc and that it's a fact, which is a whole other can of worms since that'd imply that gender is innate and connected to sexuality which means straight women are more "feminine" despite femininity being a prison but I ain't gotta get into that now

I don't care for normies who mock such characters and people. But I expected better from feminists, esp radical feminists.

I shouldn't have snapped. But it's not the first time I see such stuff here and it's infuriating