#because i am certain that he'd be a happier healthier person if he did that
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You know folks-
Condemning Ben's behaviour, particularly towards Charlie, and not seeing his personal issues as an excuse to literally ab//e and attempt s/a on his partner while ALSO wanting him to get better as a person and accept himself (including his sexuality) in a healthy way aren't mutually exclusive, and probably shouldn't be treated as mutually exclusive-
In the same vein-
You can fully hope that Ben was trying to be sincere and that he'll be a better person one day while ALSO acknowledging that Charlie does not owe him anything, is not obligated to forgive him and is not responsible for his absolution-
#tw: mention of sa#tw: mention of abuse#heartstopper season 2#heartstopper#ben hope#is this because i've seen some RIDICULOUS hot takes about ben since s2 came out??#yes#yes it is#but like#seriously#you can sympathise with him struggling to accept himself while also acknowledging that it does NOT excuse him ab//ing his partners#especially charlie#but imogen too#remember he's just as much of an ass to her#and that's a relationship he would supposedly be comfortable being open about#you can hate all of that and still feel sad when he doesn't take that step on that rainbow tide#because i am certain that he'd be a happier healthier person if he did that#the mental gymnastics some people pull off to defend ben though while ignoring a good majority of the rest of the casts' portrayal is absur#especially at charlie's expense#like i've seen people try to say charlie not forgiving him is unfair to people who relate to ben#but what about people who relate to charlie??#specifically those who were ab//ed??#how would it be fair to them to tell them they're obligated to forgive the people who hurt them?? solely for the absolution of the ab//er
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