#bc we werent really friends so i didnt wanna be like 'hey fellow 18 yr olds so theres this genuine problem that im very affected by' | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

termitesisagrandslam · 11 months ago

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anyone else ever have that thing where you'd actively downplay unhealthy attitudes to casual friends/acquaintances bc you dont wanna be too "heavy" with people you arent very close with but then it backfires bc those people think you genuinely dont take any of it seriously and distance themselves from you because they think youre a mess with no self awareness?

#was reading one of those 'dont make light about having only gotten 2 hours of sleep' posts #and it reminded me of this #in freshman year there was a couple instances where i got too drunk and puked but downplayed it with the ppl i was hanging out with #bc we werent really friends so i didnt wanna be like 'hey fellow 18 yr olds so theres this genuine problem that im very affected by'#but then they just reported me to the the head of the dorm bc they thought i didnt care and didnt take it seriously #and the whole thing was super humiliating #anyway yeah #sometimes when ppl u dont know well act like they dont care about something #it's just bc they dont feel comfortable with u to be honest about their concerns over like #drinking too much or insomnia or poor eating habits and stufd #i dont think the post i saw was wrong or anything. like there are people who are proud of that stuff and it's a good mindset to get rid of #but it just reminded me that things arent always as they appear #edit: not that people who *dont* have the self awareness deserve to be shunned either. i also have been in that camp and thats very painful #(or people who do but dont care. or care but dont want to fix it)#and not fair and i think the whole way people look at all of this stuff needs to shift. but idk im just rambling about this one thing

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