#bc dean's already had his closure. doesn't mean anyone else has

[doghartzy]

you wanna think about something evil. dean evason november 26 timeloop

[eisforeidolon]

Ya know one of the things that irritates me about hellers? How they consistently devalue how important platonic relationships are. To them, Dean not ending up with C*ss means somehow that his life isn't complete bc he doesn't have romance. His strong bond with his brother and even his friendships with others are all somehow inferior to a romantic relationship, so him not "breaking the codependency" to them equals stunted Dean, despite him showing that he's a complete person already.

Agreed, it’s a completely distorted way to look at platonic and romantic relationships - both the implication that platonic relationships are automatically insufficient & inferior and that romantic relationships are inherently magical fix-alls & always better than no romantic relationship at all. 

If Dean suddenly got his brain switched out for a turnip and decided he was in lurve with the backstabbing inept waste of space?  Well, first of all, it’s not going to erase all the betrayals, beatings, and abandonment between them.  In a more general sense, though, it’s also not going to fix any of Dean’s other issues earned through years and years of never-ending trauma.  We already got a preview of how suited Dean isn’t to trying to settle down into a romantic relationship with Lisa and Ben.  Then you add in the part where Cas, specifically, continues to be about as reliable and trustworthy as a two-legged stool and often bails exactly when Dean actually needs him?  They think Dean’s stunted now?  LOL.  Imagine the mountainous additional clusterfuck of issues Dean would be if he was primarily reliant on canon Castiel for emotional support, or, you know, anything at all.  Shippers seriously trying to claim the canon versions of those two ending up together romantically would be a happy ending for anybody crack me the fuck up.  

As he is now, with family and friends around him, Dean is doing just about as well as can be expected with all he has been through - and is still going through.  Yeah, of course he’s got some major issues!  Obviously so does Sam, and naturally sometimes the way those issues conflict is fairly awful.  But the number of unbelievable things they’ve been through together, the number of times when they’ve had no one else to rely on, the sheer number of minutes/days/weeks/hours/years/decades Sam and Dean have spent in each other’s metaphorical pockets?  It’d be fairly impossible to have a closer understanding with anyone else.  Which isn’t to say that after the two of them being isolated for such long stretches, the support of people like Jody et al. is anything to sneer at.  No, having those platonic relationships is not going to “fix” Dean - but they’re not inferior for not being romances which can’t do that either. 

Frankly, those shippers have to pretend that romantic relationships are some kind of magically superior band-aid to support their fallacious narrative that their OOC ship “needs” to happen for growth/closure/whatthefuckever, but SupernaturaI is not and has never been that type of escapist fantasy.  On top of obsessed shipper goggles, I suspect there’s probably some cultural influence leaking through, as IRL a lot of people seem to believe you just can’t be truly happy/complete unless you are in a romantic relationship.  But really, that just makes the whole thing that much worse because no.  Just ... no.

Dean quite likely needs a lot of things to be happier than he is.  But being arbitrarily shoved into a preposterously baseless romantic relationship that would be more nightmare than happily ever after?  Is not one of those things.