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harbingerofwhump · 7 months ago

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Friendly reminder that a guy de-escalating, redirecting, or otherwise getting the person to Knock It Off in a way that is safe/doesn't escalate things, when his girlfriend gets catcalled is not "taking away her agency" because "she can defend herself" --- it's recognizing the very real danger and threat she faces and the very real safety he has and actually doing something helpful with that safety

#utterly baffling that this is genuinely a Take that exists #baffling but also 'disappointed but not surprised'#women and ppl seen as women for the past ??? years:#hey these situations can become extremely dangerous for us no matter how we respond so if you see it happen and feel safe enough #to do something to help and protect us in those moments please do #aaaand somehow we get #this fucker when someone does that for his gf: um actually 🤓 ☝️ that's not Progressive enough and you're horrible for it #buddy WHAT #(obviously it's different if there's been a discussion btwn them that he shouldn't do that but just in general?#catcalling #harassment cw #anyway if you're someone who looks out for somebody you've witnessed get catcalled/harassed/etc I love you #it doesn't always have to be done in that way sometimes it can also be things like offering to walk with the victim or asking if they want #you to call someone and stuff like that but yk #also hold those assholes accountable if it's probably safe. the more they think other guys don't care the more they'll do it

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