#attraction to women my place there seems extra-super-contingent on whether I'm like...attracted to a list of Approved™ men? | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

musical-chick-13 · 5 months ago

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Idk if any other bisexual women experience this, but I feel like I'm always getting judged (implicitly or explicitly) for my taste in men? Almost like, "Well, I'll begrudgingly concede that you're actually attracted to women, but my acceptance of you is conditional on whether I approve of the men (fictional or real) you're interested in."

#like...idk if I'm seeing shit that isn't there #but I feel like I'm much more likely to get Exiled To The Cringe Dumpster by other sapphics for liking the ''wrong'' man than the ''wrong''#woman? I mean I get judged for being attracted to various women too. this is more like...in progressive spaces that have accepted my #attraction to women my place there seems extra-super-contingent on whether I'm like...attracted to a list of Approved™ men?#because if I fall outside those parameters in my attraction then I'm Basically Straight™ and Kowtowing To The Patriarchy™ or whatever #I guess more like...my attraction has to be 'subversive' enough. in the sense that it's so Weird™ or Inexplicable™ that it can't possibly #be confused with the attraction that straight women feel.#idk if this is making ANY sense but this sure is something I've been feeling a lot lately #(yes this IS brought on by an attraction to a specific man--an attraction mind you. that is completely innocuous and not in danger of #making anyone unsafe in the least. but it's sure still a feeling lmao.)#this is another reason why I'm -_- about dating there's too much complicated shit to parse out and I cannot prioritize that right now #I gotta unpack a WHOLE shit-ton of stuff before I get to that #okay for REAL I am going to go Be Creative for like 2 seconds before I fall deeply™ asleep but my brain has MANY THOUGHTS TODAY apparently

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