#anyway I'm delighted by the way they laid the groundwork for their relationship

[flo-n-flon]

showing up one week late with a crack doodle for the poll but let Lanfear and Moiraine kiss instead of fighting

[stardustedknuckles]

You maybe don’t care but re: the TRC post you reblogged, the series is absolutely one thousand percent about friendship. I remember Maggie Stiefvater talking about writing the series, she said she had a post it on her computer that said “Remember: the worst thing that can happen is they stop being friends”

I love TRC a lot and I just wanted to share that sorry if it was an overstep hope you have a lovely day/night/whatever is applicable

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It's not an overstep at all! I'm delighted to hear from people who also loved the series because I was too afraid to try fandom again when I was reading them and I feel like I maybe missed out. The series is a treasure. It is first and foremost about friendship and any other kind of relationship that comes from within it is a natural progression thereof - but it is NOT the only reason for the friendship. I love that the series puts so much emphasis on how they are all a little bit in love with each other, whether stated in the text or just in the way they all interact.

Thinking about it a little harder I wouldn't be surprised if the found family of TRC laid the groundwork for how much I fucking loved the mighty nein honestly. There's a throughline I have trouble naming directly but which is extremely prominent. It might just be as simple as that - they are all a little in love with each other. What else is the point?

For a while there tumblr was obsessed with Pushing Daisies and the relationship where he couldn’t touch her or she would die but it was so, so obvious they cared for and loved each other anyway and made it work and - if you know you know.

I saw your tags on the post from before and I can confirm that Call Down the Hawk does very badly suffer from a lack of Gansey and Blue (and Henry and Noah) but they are never far from Ronan’s mind and it helped me to look at it as a kind of story set in between when they’d meet again. I haven’t read Mister Impossible yet but soon.

[saint-ambrosef]

what made you sure you wanted to marry your fiance, if i might ask? 🥺

I've been putting off answering this ask for a bit, because I wanted to answer it seriously and carefully. Mostly because these sort of posts can be surprisingly influential on other young people, and I want to be transparent.

Unlike what media, friends, and books suggest, there was no moment where I "just knew". It's not a feeling that sucker punches you. It's a gradual understanding that grows steadily within, somewhat unconsciously, until marriage seems like the most natural next step.

Since we were friends in the same social circle, we wanted to be very intentional about starting a romantic relationship. So we talked marriage from the very beginning -- making it clear to each other that that was the end goal of any serious relationship. Our philosophies about it were compatible and complimentary, so that laid a solid groundwork to then forge a relationship.

My fiance is an excellent communicator. He's emotionally mature and honest. He is devoted to our faith and encourages me in mine. He challenges me to be the best version of myself, thereby bringing out my greatest qualities. His gentleness with my anxiety, and kindness when I hurt, means there is nobody I feel more safe with. He is polite, and good-natured, and laughs freely at bad jokes. We talk openly about our sexuality and how our attraction is rooted in delight of the other person.

Of course, there's lots of personality compatibility, too. We both enjoy similar hobbies like swing dancing and cooking. And we have hobbies we like doing apart, too. We respect each other's independence, while still sharing many enjoyments.

For reference, we have been together for around three and a half years now (and known each other for four). But I knew I would marry him by the one year mark.

It's a slow and steady realization that this is the person you want to face life with. This is the man I want my children to emulate. If I had sons (or daughters) that turned out just like him, I would be overjoyed -- unfailingly kind, considerate, mindful, and responsible.

It doesn't mean I am blind to his flaws. Sometimes he gets grumpy and frustrated and has bad days. But he handles it in healthy ways. We have never yelled at each other. Arguments are resolved before bed and apologies made readily. We hate hurting each other. We fully believe that love is not a feeling but committing every day to each other's good. Emotions come and go; love doesn't.

I've doubted before (anxiety does that). But at the end of the day, I cannot imagine finding a better man out there. The fact we found each other at all feels like a blessing, when we stop to think about all the ways we just work. The idea of not having him in my life is crushing. And, the very worst case scenario... I'm tied for life to the kindest, sweetest, most loving man I can possibly imagine. How could that go wrong for me?

Anyways, all this is to say that certainty came to me-- I didn't seek it out. I knew I wanted to marry my fiance because I want to get him to be loved, and to get to Heaven, and I trust no one else to do it as well as me.