#and this girls reply is i shit you not 'bojack is for everyone! can we NOT bring politics into this????'
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Comment from a guy with one of the characters from said video edited in a maga hat: god *complex character that genuinely and clearly isn't in the wrong* is just like my ex!
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#this was about#bojack horseman#btw#specifically diane and mr peanutbutter#like you know from the start that their relationship is doomed at its not really either of their fault#they just. werent ever going to work#but i also dont expect the guy with a maga pfp to know critical thinking and analysis of a plot that requires you to think to understand#bc thats just asking for too much#this isnt some kind of 'bojack is high tier media' post of whatever the fuck#i just genuinely think that if you think saying with your full chest diane is completely wrong and mpb is completely right#.you didnt watch the show lmfao#its the same either way around too tbh#theyre complex characters#whats funny is that the most recent comment is a reply to a comment saying 'if your views match your pfp. maybe bojacks not for you#and this girls reply is i shit you not 'bojack is for everyone! can we NOT bring politics into this????'#girl do you think the maga wearing prick isnt being political when thats his pfp?#when he makes his own comments in his own comment referencing it?
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ex!aizawa x ex!villain!reader | mr.blue [angst]
shouta aizawa x reader
female reader
(Y/N) turned villain after many years with Shouta. But now that she's stopping, she still has to say her goodbyes.
warning : big ass angst, death, sad shouta
the lyrics are from mr.blue by catherine feeny and the whole story is 100% inspired by Bojack Horseman's ending so don't read and watch the video I've put if you don't want to get spoiled oof
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(Y/N) and Shouta met when she was in her 1st year at U.A. He was a Big Three, thus he had to train her class and help them with hero work. They became the interns of the same hero, and that's when they started dating. When the girl finally graduated U.A, they moved in together. Their life was most of the time peaceful. However, when Shouta became a teacher himself, he got very busy. It was already something that hurt (Y/N), even if she knew it wasn't his fault ; he was even trying to be with her as much as he could, despite her being a pro hero as well. And she was kind of famous !
Indeed, she was one of the top 20 heroes, and the man not wanting to be in the spotlight, he was trying to avoid wherever she was going -as paparazzis were always nearby. Still, their couple and their love for each other was much stronger than busy schedules. It was Shouta who asked his partner to marry him. That night, they had gone to a fancy restaurant, they had watched a movie (Y/N) had been wanting to see for a long time, and the brunette was wearing a blue suit. It wasn't typical of him to wear blue, but it was a suit the woman had bought him. He wanted her to be happy. And after that night, it became 'the suit you asked me to marry you in' as she called it. Shouta didn't mind the name.
Their wedding was so beautiful. They both referred to it as the best day of their lives. All of their friends were there, the music had been perfect, the food had been perfect, and Shouta had even managed to dance perfectly, impressing even his now wife. He couldn't forget the smile she had worn the whole night, and even the two days after. She even got pregnant, yeah. It was a girl, and they had named her (D/N). But (Y/N) was 7 months pregnant when she had a miscarriage. Villains attacked their house, because of her rank. And Shouta couldn't do anything. Their lives couldn't be the same after that.
After what happened, (Y/N) kept training and training, her quirk affecting her sanity. It was a dangerous quirk. The legend said that whenever she was angry somewhere, the sky would turn into storm. When she would be sad, it would turn into rain. But it would only be where she would be standing, not affecting the rest of the town. And Shouta knew ; that legend was true. (Y/N) got depression. Maybe he did, too. But one day, he woke up, and she was gone.
She only left him a letter : ''(H/N) is gone. Tell the news I'm dead, that villains killed me in front of you. I'm not coming back'' it said. And Shouta knew that losing his daughter was one of the worst day of his life, but losing his wife had been even worst than anything else. He knew (Y/N) wasn't gone for real. Some nights, while he was doing his hero work, she would attack him, out of the blue, for fun. She looked like a villain, her hero costume was just a memory to him, now. Her quirk had left some traces on her ; her eyes looked crazy. She looked tired. She looked insane. And Shouta knew that that smile was fake, as the sky would always turn a dark purple with scary clouds, whenever she was.
She never got caught. Even after 5 years, she didn't get caught. As he had new students, Shouta had to investigate on the League of Villains. And weirdly, she had managed to befriend them and they were now a part of her own villain relations. They were so many. But weirdly, never once they attacked heroes he knew. The League of Villains attacked U.A, yes. But (Y/N) and her own minions ? Never once. He didn't know who they attacked. He didn't care as long as she wasn't caught.
Mr. Blue, I told you that I love you.
Please believe me.
Mr. Blue, I have to go now.
Darling don't be angry.
A few years later, it was Midnight's wedding. Everyone was having fun, and even some students had been invited as they had graduated U.A. Still, Shouta wasn't someone who partied, even after all those years. He just went outside, and stood on a hill nearby. The sky was beautiful. He was lost in his thoughts when he heard footsteps. Thinking it was Hizashi, the brunette turned his head carelessly. But how wrong he was. ''How did you hear about the wedding ?'' He asked. ''I hear about a lot of things. And I wouldn't miss Nemuri's wedding.'' (Y/N) replied, standing next to him, but far enough not to make it too intimate.
Knowing he would break at seeing her this close, the man turned his gaze back to the stars. ''She never heard I was a villain. I retired, anyway.'' The woman continued, Shouta's eyes widening. ''What do you mean ?'' He asked her, confused. ''It's over, for me. My quirk is worst than before. I may die if I use it again. I used drugs, you know ? I used to talk with the yakuzas when I was at my villain peak.'' She said, a little smile on her face -maybe nostalgia ? ''Did you like it ?'' Shouta asked, calmly. ''Well, it was nice while it lasted.'' She replied, smiling. ''Just like our relationship together.'' She continued, making the brunette sigh at her words. To him, the relationship wasn't really over. Sure, they weren't together, but there was still something
''I never broke up with you. You just... left.'' He said. He was right. It made (Y/N) uncomfortable that he was right. So she decided to make him uncomfortable instead ; it was what she used to do. ''You're wearing the blue suit. The suit you asked me to marry you in. Were you expecting me ?'' She asked, chuckling. ''Maybe ? I don't have many suits. You were the one finding them for me. Hizashi isn't really good at it.'' He explained, making the woman smile. But he kept talking. ''I loved you, for 17 years.'' He said. ''I wasn't even 17 when we met.'' She replied, chuckling.
I know that you're tired.
I know that you're sour and sick,
and sad for some reason.
''There were so many things I wanted to tell you. But now that you're here, I don't know what to do.'' Shouta said, not being able to put words on what he was feeling. ''You just feel... comforting, you know ?'' He tried to illustrate his emotions. ''Do you remember, when we started dating, you said you liked being in the same room as me, cause it was a peaceful room ?'' The woman asked, making him nod. ''I guess even after all this time, it's still peaceful.'' He said. ''Why did you never try to attack me ? You are a hero, after all.'' (Y/N) asked. ''I didn't want to. And you never did something that made agencies send me. You never attacked the school, nor our friends... you've always been clever.''
''This discussion is shit. Can you believe that ? We went through so much shit together, that we don't have anything else to say. And still, it's comforting.'' The woman said. ''I don't see why it wouldn't be comforting. I've never been mad at you. When you left, the only thing I thought was : '(Y/N) is gone, and now everything's worst.' But I don't blame you. Our life was hell. It was surely better for us to stop being together. It couldn't work, even if we still want it to work.'' Shouta said, admitting in the same time that he still loved her. He guessed she had admitted she still loved him too, as she never once said the room wasn't comforting.
''Thank you.'' She said. ''I'm sorry. Thank you.'' Those were just a few words, but they meant many things ; how grateful she had been to live with him. He was so understanding and was so in love with her, he wasn't even enraged when she left. ''Thank you, too. I'm not as socially awkward as I was in high school. You helped me a lot by making me humiliate myself in front of many people.'' Shouta said, smiling. It even made (Y/N) laugh. ''Did you want to see me ?'' He asked. ''Yeah. To tell you that I'm leaving. I've left once without telling you. I can at least see you in person now that I'm okay.'' She replied.
So I'll leave you with a smile.
Kiss you on the cheek.
And you will call it treason.
''You're okay ?'' He asked ; his memories of her being a happy person were very old, as their last moments together had just been her drowning more and more into insanity. But she did look sane, now. All the marks of her quirk were gone. Even her face looked peaceful and rest. After they lost their daughter, after she became depressed, and after her quirk drove her crazy... she was now okay. ''Yes. Are you ?'' She asked, and he nodded. He wasn't lying. He really was okay. ''We have to, anyway. We're not young anymore. We can't afford it.'' Shouta started.
Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā ''Life's a bitch and then you die, right ?'' He asked, almost laughing at his own sentence. ''Sometimes... sometimes life's a bitch and you keep living.'' (Y/N) replied. It was true. She kept living. He kept living. ''But it's a nice night, hm ?'' She asked, as she had been staring at the sky as well. He remembered how she affected the sky around her. But this time, the night was peaceful. There wasn't any dark cloud, the stars were bright and shiny. They couldn't hear the wind, and couldn't even feel it. She really was okay. She had grown. Shouta smiled. ''Yeah. This is nice.'' He replied -it was comforting.
Mr. Blue, don't hold your head so low,
that you can't see the sky.
Mr. Blue, I told you that I love you.
Please believe me.
Ā Ā Ā Ā They looked at the sky together, enjoying that it was calm and beautiful. For so many years, (Y/N) had only seen dark clouds, and for so many years, Shouta was all alone to enjoy the calm. The woman sat, as she was getting tired to stand up. Hizashi had walked outside, looking for his friend, when he saw him, on the top of a hill. He recognized the silhouette next to him. Hizashi's mouth was agape, his eyes widened. (Y/N) decided to lay on the floor completely, making Shouta turn to look at her and laugh. He laughed way too much for a simple move. But he had missed it ; she laughed with him as well.
Ā Ā Ā Ā ''Yamada-sen- Yamada, what's going on ?'' Izuku asked, still being disturbed that he couldn't use the 'sensei' now that he had graduated. ''I can't tell if that's the happiest or the saddest scene I've seen.'' He whispered, still focused on the couple. Izuku didn't understand, but as he recognized the silhouette of his former teacher, he kept watching. Meanwhile, the couple wanted to say things to each other, sometimes their heads turning to look at the other and their mouths opening as if to say something, but they couldn't find anything to say ; they had lived everything, there was nothing left to be said. They just didn't have anything to say to one another anymore.
Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā (Y/N) looked at Shouta ; he was still standing, looking at the sky. But he had a bright smile on his face. She was thankful that he had been in her life. But they lost so many things together, and she turned a villain, they couldn't get back together anymore. She hoped he understood she loved him ; she had never been the type to say it out loud, and never was he. She hoped he also believed everything she had just said to him, because she had meant everything. And as he was focused on the sky, she decided it was time for her to go, quietly. But this time, she couldn't be a villain. But she couldn't come back anyway. Once the brunette turned to look at her once again, she was gone.
note that the 'room that feels comforting', the 'nice while it lasted', the blue suit, the '... is gone, and now everything is worstā, the final dialogue and the fact that they want to look at each other but have nothing left to say all come from Bojack Horseman and I'm very thankful for that show it gives very good life lessons and helped me actually to deal with some stuff so š¤§ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
and yeah Iām back with a Shouta story and itās an angst it feels like itās the beginning of that blog again right šāš»
#bnha#mha#boku no hero academia#my hero academia#aizawa shouta#shouta aizawa#aizawa x reader#shouta x reader#aizawa shouta x reader#shouta aizawa x reader#angst
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Jet Wolf Summarizes Act 39
The manga and I kind of hate each other. This is unfortunate, but still, Iām determined to come out of this with something. Rather than spend energy on a liveblog thatās increasingly negative, Iām reading each manga act (mostly) silently, and then writing up summaries at the end. I wonāt pull my punches. Thereās going to be criticism and snark about the manga, either wholesale or in details. If that isnāt a thing you feel like reading, please skip this post!
On the one hand, when I started this act today, I thought I was still in the Infinity Arc, which was bound and determined to live up to its name. I was not! I am even closer to the conclusion of the manga than I realized!
On the other hand, Iām in the Pegasus arc.
Dear god help me, Iām in the Pegasus arc.
We open with the Inners, but donāt get excited, this will be the last time youāll see them for the next hundred pages. Theyāre gathered together at a park to watch the eclipse. Whereās Usagi, you ask? At another park somewhere else with Mamoru and Chibi-Usa, because if they were there, we might feel for a second that Mamoru was not the center of the universe, and canāt possibly risk it. CANāT MINGLE WITH THE HELP YOU KNOW.
That little girl I posted earlierĀ wishes to become an actress, and Minako whirls around, Kill Bill sirens blaring.Ā "My dream is to become an idol!ā she says to her friends for what is almost certainly the tenth time that hour. However this prompts the others to say their dreams (PS: THIS IS THE DREAM ARC)Ā and they are every bit as obvious and lacking in character development as youāve come to expect.
āI want to be a bride!ā Mako says as I cry inside. "And then maybe have a flower shop or cake shop, but mostly bride!ā
āI wish to become an elegant doctor!ā Ami does not care that I am crying harder. Not brilliant. Not genius. Not lifesaving. ELEGANT. AMI MIZUNOāS PREFERRED ADJECTIVE IS ELEGANT AND I AM ON PAGE TWO OF THIS ACT
As for Rei?
While you will pry International Success Life Rei Hino from me absolutely never because my grip will only become stronger in death, fair enough, but for fuckās sake, AMI ALREADY SAID ELEGANT REI I REFUSE TO BELIEVE YOUR EGO WOULDNāT DEMAND ANOTHER DESCRIPTOR.
Meanwhile, at No Senshi Allowed Park, Mamoru doubles over with chest pains. FINALLY SOMEONE HAD THE CORRECT DREAM. Unfortunately it passes quickly, just in time for the Dead Moon Circus to arrive on their fucking giant flying stingray shark pirate ship what the fuck??
THINGS ONLY GET MORE HORRIFYING
Of course if one thing is going to be consistent for me from the anime to the manga, itād be how much the Dead Moon Circus creeps me the fuck out. OF COURSE THAT.
The Circus disappears then, and Iāll give the manga credit where itās due here, it doesnāt have thirty fucking installments of no one seeing the bloody ten block giant floating circus tent.
Back to Peon Park, the Senshi also saw the circus arrive, and this apparently freaked Phobos and Deimos out so badly they had to to fly to Rei on her day off and bring her a newspaper and some feathers AND A FUCKING TAROT CARD ARE YOU KIDDING ME THESE GUYS NOT ONLY FOUND REIāS TAROT DECK BUT SORTED THROUGH THE CARDS TO FIND THE EXACT ONE TO BEST COMMUNICATE THEIR MEANING MEANWHILE I CANāT GET MINA TO BRING ME THE GODDAMN BALL WHEN SHE WANTS ME TO THROW IT
Armed with this information, Rei, my beloved, light of my life, favourite character for over twenty years, concludes
Really, Rei. Really.
The Senshi rush to Usagi, though not one of them wonders why they bother, and thatās the real tragedy in this.
At the other, better park, for characters the author actually cares about, Mamoru thinks traffic will be bad getting home and suggests they wander around the shopping district instead. Hey look, thereās a sale on! This doesnāt seem strange at all!
Nobody thinks to mention the timing of this sale or arrival of an imminent circus alongside THE FLYING SHARK PIRATE CIRCUS SHIP, so maybe I was too quick with my credit-giving a minute ago. They wander around the stalls and shops, until something catches Usagi and Chibsā eyes.
HMM I WONDER IF THESE WILL BECOME IMPORTANT
They convince Mamoru to buy them at $100 for the pair, which breaks down, in overall kaleidoscopic entertainment value, to about $100 a minute. As Usagi and Chibs rapidly burn through that minute, the Senshi show up, relieved to find everyone okay.Ā āShould we join them?ā Ami asks.Ā āGod no,ā replies Minako, dragging everyone off to do jello shots for the rest of the issue.
God knows how many hours later, itās 5pm and everythingās still just as packed as it was this morning, making Mamoruās whole thing about having trouble getting home particularly dense because everyoneās fucking HERE and not on the road. But everythingās about to get a thousand times stupider.
Usagi says that itās getting late and maybe Chibi-Usa shouldnāt go home until tomorrow. I was busy trying to puzzle out what that meant, like sleep-over in the park? No, no, she means home to the future, to which Mamoru says:
ITāS A THOUSAND YEARS IN THE FUTURE MAMORU THE DAY YOUāRE ON IN 1995 IS COMPLETELY IRRELEVANT TO THE 30TH FUCKING CENTURY WHAT SENSE DOES THIS EVEN MAKE
AND THEN CHIBS JUST MUDDIES IT EVEN FURTHER
HOW DOES
WHAT DOES THAT MATTER WHAT SENSE DOES ANY OF THIS MAKE THIS IS SO NONSENSICAL AND IāM LEGIT IRRITATED ABOUT IT
And then itās Usagiās turn to just make shit up as she goes.
SHE WONāT BE LATE ITāLL BE THE SAME FUCKING DAY BECAUSE ITāS A THOUSAND YEARS IN THE FUTURE AND THAT IS INDEPENDENT OF WHAT DAY IT IS IN THE PRESENT TIME IS NOT LINEAR FOR YOU PEOPLE AND YOU KNOW THAT BECAUSE YOU ARE HAVING A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR DAUGHTER FROM THE FUTURE
And I canāt even see why thereās all this bending over backwards trying to explain any of this away when plot coherency is something Takeuchi wrestles with on a daily basis about as much as she does character development.
SPEAKING OF
Cut to Mamoruās apartment. Chibs is getting ready for bed.
Recognize the mirror?
JUST AS WELL BECAUSE THE MANGA COULDNāT CARE LESS IF YOU DO OR DONāT
FOUR TAGS WITH SQUIGGLY LABELS FOR MAMORUāS SHIT
THE PJS OF WHICH WILL BE MENTIONED IN-TEXT AT LEAST ONCE MORE IN THIS SCENE
FUCK ALL FOR MICHIRU
IT MANAGED TO BE EVEN WORSE THANĀ āMICHIRU WAS ALSO THEREā BECAUSE YOU CANāT EVEN KNOW MICHIRU IS ALSO THERE UNLESS YOU ALREADY KNOW IT
WE DIDNāT THINK IT WAS POSSIBLE TO BE MORE DISMISSIVE OF MICHIRU BUT THE MANGA FOUND A WAY
Meanwhile Usagi is lying to Ikuko about sleeping over at Makoās, and Iād like to think Usagi cleared that with Mako first, but that wouldāve required thinking about her, and thereās just no way. The next three hundred pages are basically Mamoru and Chibi-Usa and Iād summarize what happened but Iāve punished myself enough today, and also NOTHING HAPPENED.
Over to the Dark Moon Circus, where we donāt begin with the Trio but with the Quartet.
Not that I expect anyone to have any personality. And just as well! Hereās a sample.
PALLAPALLA HATES BORING INTERCHANGEABLE DIALOGUE
Chibi-Usa has finally fallen sleep. I know what this means. I feel my mind, my soul, my very sense of self trying to shrink away, but to no avail. It comes.
AAAAHHHH
AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
For relief, please join me in imagining for a moment a Sailor Moon SuperS revival featuring, as Pegasus, BoJack Horseman.
Pegasus and Chibs fly over Tokyo and then he gives her a little bell so she can summon him whenever she wants. In return?
CHIBI-USA TSUKINO I KNOW YOU READ A LOT DO NOT TELL ME THAT YOU HAVENāT SEEN THIS IN ENOUGH STORIES AND FAIRY TALES TO WANT TO GET THE FUCK OUT OF THIS IMMEDIATELY YOU ARE SMARTER THAN THAT YOUNG LADY THIS IS HANSEL AND GRETEL WITH WINGS
The next morning, Usagi and Mamoru wake up and realize they were both dreaming about Chibi-Usa and her new horse friend. Nothing about this alarms them anywhere near the correct degree in this humble Jet Wolfās opinion. Mamoru has another partial heart attack but again does not die because I never get what I want. They realize Chibs left without them, and if I were Chibs, Iād do the same.
In the park (probably The Creator Loves Us And Only Us National Park), Chibs digs in her pockets for her Time Key, and I know Chibi-Usa is concerned about wanting to be an adult and all, but she has literally never been more hashtag relatable.
She pulls it out, but also pulls out the bell. GASP ITāS REAL. She thinks about Pegasus and how creepy he is and how she should never talk to him again and then she shatters the bell on the pavement. IF ONLY. She also thinks about her mother, specifically how she saidĀ āLeave and donāt come back until youāre pretty and useful.ā YOU THINK IāM KIDDING I AM NOT KIDDING
Chibsā first action as queen? ABOLISH MOTHERāS DAY
She wonders if sheās okay to go home yet, but when she uses the Time Key, it rejects the shit out of her, so guess not. Mamoru and Usagi run up and Pegasus appears again for no particular reason that I can figure out. Then thereās a tiger attack (NO REALLY) and everyone runs off, except for Mamoru, who once again is taunting me with his imminent death that never comes.
Usagi and Chibs try to transform, but canāt, because they donāt have all the Senshi around to power them up.Ā āGod, what a stupid requirement anyway, like I ever see those guys,ā says Usagi, and so she just makes a new transformation happen because that is a thing she can do.
The Quartet are behind this attack, and Usagi and Chibs try to fight them, but are apparently powerless without a new toy from Bandai, so itās marketing to the rescue! Chibs calls for Pegasus and begs him for a new weapon. He complies!
AND I FUCKING SCREAMED. While Usagi and Chibs power up on their own -- which I actually thought was a better turn from the anime for a second -- all it functionally did was change their outfits. They donāt even try to fight or attack, I presume because they know they canāt, so while they look neat, theyāre powerless and helpless until they beg Pegasus for help. Until Pegasus arrives to give them power.
Power that came to them BY WAY OF MAMORU ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW
So one of my biggest sources of anger and frustration with SuperS? ACTUALLY IMPROVED ON THE MANGA.
Also the Moon Gorgeous Sex Toy is sentient and can talk so. Yeah.
Back at the Dead Moon Circus, Zircon is allĀ āThe people of the White Moon reincarnated, god I fucking hate that,ā so the Quartet respond by turning their tiger, hawk, and fish into, you guessed it.
They also see Chibs and Usagi and wonder what their dreams are.
APPARENTLY THE ANSWER IS ONE OF THE WORST EPISODES OF THE WORST SEASON OF THE ANIME JESUS WEPT WHEN WILL I KNOW REST
#of course this was a manga story OF COURSE IT WAS#JW reads Sailor Moon#sm manga dream#sm manga act 39#jet wolf versus the manga#jet wolf summarizes the manga#a novel by jet wolf#THIS SUMMARY NEVER WANTED TO END
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What Iāve neglected, lost, and done wrong
I lied. The previous one was not the last update. Iāve realized that Iāve only written the things that I have done well in the past few months, but not the mistakes that Iāve made. Iām not quite sure whether or not this big list will be helpful because at the end of the day making mistakes is part of the process, and itās as necessary as getting it right. Moreover, itās not very effective to tell someone ādonāt do x or y, youāre going to regret itā ā no one ever listens to old people, or to parents, and all of this stuff is basically what they keep telling us over and over. We only learn from our own experience, we need to bang our heads against something to have it settle in. But still: while this might not help to avoid a mistake, I see it as pattern recognition. Maybe reading it will help somone recognize an issue before it becomes problematic.
So, what Iāve done wrong, analyzed:
1: Iāve lost the ability to spend time by myself.
As Iāve forced myself to go out more, and spending time surrounded by people, Iāve gone to the other extreme and Iāve kind of lost the ability to be surrounded by just myself. Iām not reading enough, Iām not watching any more shows, Iām not cooking, Iāve basically stopped doing things on my own, chilling by myself.
On one side, I think this is because I fear that somehow Iāll go back to my old habits and become a shut-in again. On the other, I think Iām just scared; spending time alone, for me, means being forced to have deep thoughts about who I am and what I want ā which I donāt think I really know.
Going out almost every day has definitely helped me, but now I need time to figure stuff out. For example, I started partner-dancing to take my mind off my breakup, and Iāve not stopped since. I am pretty sure I still love it, but I owe it to myself to take some time off of it to think hard about it. Having a positive routine is a great thing, but it should be re evaluated every now and then ā doing something just because itās the thing you do is not healthy. It should be a conscious choice.
I think I will spend a few nights a week learning how to cook, meditating, and writing a bit more. These are all things I used to love that I rejected when I began the āconversionā to become more outgoing. It was fine then, I needed to distance myself as much as possible from my past habits, but now Iām comfortable in my own skin, I donāt fear those ghosts anymore.
2: Iāve focused too much on self-growth
All that Iāve achieved this year is because Iāve put immense pressure on myself. My iPhone is full of notes filled with objectives, diaries, goals, and so on. And even though I think thatās fine, Iāve become so focused on becoming better and better and better that Iāve had real issues of being able to accept myself as I currently am.
This is the thing that Iāve discovered: however fucked up you and your life might be, youāre still a person, and because of that you deserve to love yourself. Obviously that doesnāt mean you should never go out of your comfort zone, but the opposite is also counterproductive: progress and growth wonāt necessarily fix your self-image problems. You, as a person, are fine as you are, and deserve to be loved (by other people and yourself). If you donāt realise that, no matter how much youāll change and improve, youāre always going to feel like youāre not enough.
Finding the fine line between acceptance and eagerness to grow is tricky, but it needs to be done. Your mental health depends on it. The faster youāll be able to accept your reality, the faster youāll have the right tools to improve it and move on from it.
3: Cutting out toxic people
This one is hard. While trying to be social Iāve felt the need to be accepting of everyone that Iāve come across. A need to please and be friends with everybody. This canāt and shouldnāt be done.
I define toxic people as follows: people that instead of adding value to your life they remove it.
At the end of the day, your life is your responsibility. Not everything that happens might be your fault, but everything that happens to you, once itās happened, itās your responsibility to manage. You could be hit by a bus, or be dumped by your SO, or have someone in your life die, and while none of this might not be your fault, how you decide to handle the consequences is solely your responsibility.
The same applies to other people in your life. If they canāt handle what theyāve been thrown at, you can and should try to help them, but if they canāt snap out of it, at the end of the day, it is their problem, not yours. Itās harsh but true. Your life objective shouldnāt be to fix everybody.
A person that is removing value from your life, to me, can mean a bunch of different things. It could be a colleague that is always down and shuts down any attempt to positivity and growth. Or a friend that is not willing to step out of their comfort zone and makes planning going out on the weekends impossible. Or a girl that makes dating her difficult instead of an enjoyable discovery. Or a parent that doesnāt want to see you grow, wherever that growth might take you.
Toxic people are draining. They take energy out of your life, while only adding pain. And while I believe that pain is necessary, it should have a purpose: gym pain is useful, as is learning pain, and new experience pain ā pain for the sake of it, however, itās not, and should be avoided at all costs.
It is always painful to recognise that a person is a value-vampire, but it needs to be done, and you need to cut them off. You donāt necessarily need to completely isolate yourself from them, but you do need to find the right distance where their actions wonāt affect you.
Distancing someone is always scary, like am I going to be able to find other people that suit me? But it shouldnāt, because by doing it youāre effectively improving your life, your mood, your health, and it will be easier for you to attract new people in your life.
4: Not setting standards for girls I date
This is linked to cutting off people that remove value from your life. I have done the big mistake of basically going out with every girl that 1) was attractive 2) was showing me signs of interest. This is not okay. I have taken great care to make my life full of enjoyment and growth, so if I let a girl in my life, she needs to be hitting a certain standard. A pretty face is not enough.
And by the way, this is not a brag. I believe everybody should have standards, itās just that my requirements could be very different from someone elseās. You might need someone that has their shit together, or a fuck-buddy, or someone that is willing to take things seriously, or someone that makes everything else disappear when youāre spending time with them. We all seek different things. But again, we should set a standard, and ruthlessly cut out the people that donāt meet it.
It is again a matter of self-love: how are you supposed to make the world better if you canāt love yourself and the situation youāre in? And if your partner is making it hard to do it, they should go.
Thereās plenty of people in the world, and there are probably a dozen or more SOs that would make your life better. Itās just a matter of being in the right state of mind to recognise and bring them in.
5: Getting validation from external factors
I shouldnāt have set goals. Become a mid-level iOS engineer by this year. Find a girl in that year. Have x social circles by the end of the summer. Goals, while quantifiable, are very easy to miss, and the pain is not only when you measure yourself against them, but when you realise you donāt have enough momentum to hit them (and then you get sad, and unmotivated). Theyāre a receipe for disaster.
There are so many times that Iāve found myself coming back from a night of social dancing with a sad frown because I did 5 dances instead of the 10 I told myself Iād do, or because one girl I liked stopped replying (when I had others going on), and so on.
Instead, what Iāve found useful, is setting up processes. Processes still retain some of the characteristics of goals, as you can look back and see if youāve improved, but are more forgiving ā they let you have bad days, or even weeks. Sometimes life gets in the way and it temporarily derails your plans, and thatās okay. In one of Bojackās episodes, Bojack is resting breathless on the side of the road after a run. Another runner, a monkey, notices his pain, stops by, and says āIt gets easier. Every day it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day, thatās the hard part. But it does get easierā. I donāt think one good night makes up for ten average ones. If you show up every day you slowly build up what you need to improve on, and the bar consistently gets higher.
This is very much linked to being able to forgive myself. Not every day Iāll be in the best state of mind or physical ability. But thatās okay. If Iām able to move on from disappointing days it means that I can look forward the future ones to improve even more.
6: Build a support network ASAP
The day of the breakup I realized I not only lost my lover, but my best friend too. Staying together for nine years means the other person has a mini-you in their head that is a very good approximation of the real you, making it easier for them to support you. When we broke up we made ourselves a promise to keep being friends, but thatās, IMO, a bad idea. I needed time to grieve and to process the loss. So I stopped communicating with her for many months. When I felt ready we started talking again, and I was lucky that she was still available to entertain a friendship with me. But the months in between have sucked hard. I lost her, my other best friend was in Italy, and so were my parents. I had no one to look in their face and tell them how my world was falling apart.
I got very lucky to find some other people that Iāve become very close to, but Iāve should have pushed more and way, way sooner. Friendships are tricky because you donāt really notice their importance in good times, but if you donāt really have any close people next to you in the hard times, well, your life is going to be miserable. As Iām sure most of this āadviceā will sound, this is basic knowledge for many people, but I donāt think there is a limit to how much you can give to others during the good times. Time for others is always well spent, and will pay you back when in need (assuming you're choosing the people in your life wisely). Itās also very easy to kind of treat some relationships as a given, but they need to be nurtured constantly (and actually meaning it). It might sound a tad self-centered, but you need to give to others because one day they will need to give to you. And oh boy that day is coming. Better be prepared.
7: Not being authentic sooner
Iāve touched this topic briefly here and there, but I think itās worth repeating.
For a long time, years probably, Iāve felt the need to be accepted by everybody. To do that, Iāve tried not to say anything polarizing or to express myself honestly. The result has been me being veryā¦ well, boring and insipid to other people. Not really what I had hoped to be.
When Iāve started being more honest, and above all when Iāve stopped putting up a filter, Iāve seen people getting closer to me way faster than ever. My fear of hurting or disagreeing with anyone was making me avoid any conflict, or saying what I really thought, and the irony is that people trust you more when youāre open to them (even if they donāt fuck with you in some regard). If a person is able to get to know you, even if they donāt like x or y of you, they still will like you. I have so many friends that I donāt agree with on some topics, even political or āseriousā ones, and yet I still love them to death. People are not defined by one thing, they are three dimensional, and itās okay if theyāre different from you. But the moment you decide to filter out your thoughts you become one dimensional, and no one in their right mind is going to want to learn more about you.
Iāve had people Iāve known for years telling me that they didnāt really know me ā they didnāt know what I liked, or my interests, or my political stance. When I was leaving to come to London, I heard that coming from someone that had known me for almost ten years and it hurt like nothing else before. I realized I had given up a life of authenticity for the pyrrhic objective of being accepted by everyone. I had effectively hid myself for years.
These days I really donāt care anymore. I am 100% honest to anyone, be it work or friends or girls, and Iām doing fine. Iām able to filter out people very fast, and Iām confident that those who are around me truly like me and embrace me for what I am. And the funny thing, by stopping giving a shit about rejection, you actually experience it less. In some ways this mentality gives you abundance of opportunities, and friends, and that has a positive feedback loop back to your mentality, making you care even less.
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At this point I think Iāve eviscerated everything I went through. Maybe Iāll write a couple of things here and there, but I think thatās it.
Itās a good time to stop. In ten days Iāll be back in Italy for a while and Iāll be able to face my ghosts there. The final battle. I need to get away from all the stuff thatās going well here to see if I can handle the pressure of being in a place that brings up too many painful memories. I think I can do it. :)
Oh, and one more thing: thanks for all the support in the last post. Itās really nice to see that people care, and itās been fantastic having people tell me privately how something I wrote reasonated with them. Thereās still a lot of stigma around talking about this kind of personal stuff, but it needs to change, as we need to recognise that the fights weāre fighting are something we all go through in a similar way, and thereās a lot of people that we can lean on.
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The Prude -- One
You have a reputation on campus: the prude. Very few people understand you for you. And one of those people is Min Yoongi, your best friend of three years. Itās senior year and it is time to come to terms with all of your feelings.
Genre: Fluff, angst, humor/crack, friends-to-lovers, college AU
Pairing: Yoongi x Reader, Taehying x Reader (past), NamJin (established)
Warnings: A quick chat about genital biting (non sexual)
One: There is NOTHING Dormant Going On
The whole moment is so clichĆ©, you think. Youāre sitting in the bathroom stall, your knees pulled to your chest, listening as some girls you donāt know talk shit about you. You donāt know why you decided to hide instead of walking out, but itās not like you can go back in time. Youāre stuck now.Ā
āWell Taehyung is single now,ā One girl says.Ā
āOh, he and the prude finally ended whatever their situation was?ā The other says. She chuckles and you can almost hear her smirking. āI donāt want to call it dating.ā
āWho would?ā The first one replies.
āHeās probably had blue balls the entire time,ā The second one says. āIām going to see if he wants to hang out this weekendāor just Friday night.ā
āYouāre so bad!āĀ
Their voices fade and youāre left in the stall, forced to think about why the hell your relationship ended.Ā
You remember the day Taehyung asked you out. So many people were caught off guard: you, your friends, and most of the people on your college campus. Taehyung had aā¦reputation and it was almost the exact opposite of yours. Taehyung was the fuck boi. The cassanova. The lothario of campus. He didnāt do long term relationships. He could barely handle the commitment of a one night stand, but there he was, in the dining hall, asking if you wanted to get coffee āsometime soonā. You said yes and it turned into quite the three month relationship, but just like your other relationships, it fell apart. In the end, he wanted sex and you didnāt. You didnāt want it, didnāt need it, and you werenāt going to have it.Ā
Thatās what happened with Seth and Connor in high school and now Taehyung in college. Everyone labeled you as a prude without asking you. They just heard that you donāt put out and thatās all they needed. They didnāt know that the idea of having sex made you so uncomfortable. Almost to the point of throwing up. You didnāt like the idea at all, and in the end, you didnāt see how it could define a relationship so much. Like yeah, sexual gratification is nice and all, but have you ever just sat around and recited all the episodes of Bojack Horseman with someone? Thatās good shit.
And itās not like youāre really a prude. You donāt judge people for having sex. Thatās their business, not yours. But its hard for you to explain. Sex is just so normalized.
Sometimes you think you could compromise. And you thought about it with Taehyung. You almost did, too. He had his shirt offāand he was hot, dammit. But you couldnāt do it. You didnāt feel it. And it wasnāt going to happen.
He dumped you a week later.Ā
Yoongi suggested that you might be a lesbian.Ā
āUh, no. I like men. Have you seen men?ā You replied. This was freshman year, a few months after you first met. Yoongi was always the best with trying to actually understand you and not just write you off as a judgmental prude.
āShe makes a great point,ā Jin said. He was ogling the library assistant, Namjoon. In a couple weeks, Namjoon would finally ask him out and they would become the perfect couple.
You have researched what this situation is. You know your preference is men because what little sexual attraction youāve felt, itās been for a guy. But youāre not so quick to give yourself a label because you just donāt know. Are you asexual? Demisexual? Demiromantic? Who knows? Youāre just you.
You finally exit the bathroom, hoping that the girls are not waiting out in the hall for you, but donāt worry. Itās just Taehyung. He doesnāt see you because heās on his phone (probably Tinder) but as youāre scuttling by, he lifts his head.
āYin! Hey!ā He sounds pretty chipper, you think. There was a party at his frat this weekend and he probably solved the blue balls situation.Ā
āOh, hey!ā You give a slight wave. āIām sorry, but Iām late for meeting people in the library.ā
āTell Yoongi hey for me,ā He winks.Ā
If people arenāt calling you a prude, theyāre assuming youāre dating Yoongi. You two have been attached to the hip since freshman year, when he nearly ran you over with his recording equipment and bought you aerosol cheese as an apology. Jin was always around too, but it wasnāt the same.Ā
You roll your eyes but walk away. Youāve never entertained the idea of dating Yoongi that much anyway.
(That was a fucking lie)
During sophomore year, you had caught feelings hard. Not sexual feelings, but like, āI want to spend all day watching Bojack Horseman with youā feelings. You liked hanging out at his apartment, watching Netflix and listen to Jin and Namjoon bicker like the perfect married couple they are. You liked listening to Yoongi make his compositions and talk about music. For most of sophomore year, you were convinced that Min Yoongi was the one because all you could think of was cuddling with him while he wrote love songs about you.
But you snapped out of it. There is nothing dormant going on. No there is not.
You arrive at the library to find Yoongi, NamJin, and Namjoonās old roommate, Hoseok, sitting at the usual table by the window. Jin is trying to throw pieces of chips into Hoseokās mouth and thereās a lot of chips on the floor. You gesture to the pile and Yoongi rolls his eyes. You consider getting a group of female friends, because this shit is ridiculous.
āIāve almost hit a record!ā Hoseok is excited.
āOne isnāt a record,ā You sit in the empty chair next to Yoongi. He snorts, but continues working. Hoseok pouts, but doesnāt respond. You all spend a few silent minutes working before you say, āAm I a prude?ā
All four of them stare at you with various degrees of confusion. Yoongi is the least confused, like he knew what those girls had said and knew it would eat at you. You honestly hated the fact that you brought it up but you had to ask.
āI donāt know you that well,ā Hoseok says.
āNo,ā Namjoon says, nearly at the same time. āThe definition of prude is, āa person who is or claims to be easily shocked by matters relating to sex or nudityā and youāre not easily shocked.ā
āHeās got a point. Remember that time you walked in on me and that girl I dated junior year? Didnāt bat eye.ā Yoongi says.
āWell I was scared to yell. What if she bit your dick off?ā
āIs that even fucking possible?ā Hoseok flinches.
āHow about the next time Yoongi gets a blow job, we just scare the girl and see what happens?ā Jin suggests. You snort.
āHow about what the fuck?ā Yoongi says. āSacrifice your own gentials!ā
āI need my genitals!ā
āWhat the fuck?ā Taehyung is standing there with his own posse, Jimin and Jeongguk. They are equally as shocked.
A couple of girls are with them as well, but you donāt care enough about either of their names. Theyāre whispering and snickering to each other but you donāt really care. But you also think you know exactly what theyāre saying.Ā
āIām going to pretend I heard none of that,ā Taehyung continues. āI just wanted to invite you guys to a party at the house on Saturday night. Redneck theme. Yin, that means you too.ā
āThanks, Tae,ā You say.Ā
You could say a lot of things about Kim Taehyung, but you couldnāt say he was a shitty person. For most people, he had a valid reason for dumping you. For you it wasnāt valid, but the past is the past. He was nice about it, though. He said he liked you a lot, but he felt a relationship needed sex. It was important to him. And you got that. You couldnāt hate him for speaking his truth. He did feed you the line about wanting to still be friends, but you didnāt quite believe it until now.
The girls were still snickering to each out.
Taehyung shoots them a look, āWhat are you two snickering about?ā
āItās just highly unlikely that the prude will show up at a party, you know,ā The taller one says. Sheās definitely a bathroom girl. A shitty girl, you would say.Ā
Wonāt she just, ruin the mood?ā The other shitty girl says.
āArenāt you doing a fine job of that right now?ā Taehyung snaps.
You could never say that Kim Taehyung was a shitty person.
In the end, only NamJin and Hoseok went to the party. Quite frankly, you didnāt want to go and watch people do a bad job of hiding the fact they were talking about you. Instead, you went over to Yoongiās apartment and sat on his shitty futon and watched Golden Girls and ate instant Ramen.Ā
After the episode where Miles returns from witness protection, Yoongi blurts out, āDid you decide not to go because of those girls?ā
āNot entirely,ā You say. They were definitely a part of the whole reason, but that wasnāt all of it. You already hated dealing with the gossip, but shitty one and shitty two seemed dumb enough to try and pull a clichĆ© prank on you to humiliate you. And why use that as a plot device?
āWell,ā Yoongi says. Heās almost whispering. āDonāt let them make you feel bad about yourself. Youāre fine just the way you are.ā
You two were on the futon, huddled under a blanket, with Yoongiās arm around your shoulder. And you feel that feeling you did two years ago. Your heart starting beating a little bit faster. You think its nothing.
There is nothing dormant going on.
#BTS#min yoongi#kim taehyung#the prude#chapter one#there is nothing dormant going on#namjim#jung hoseok
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