#and the ways ppl see this shit becomes transparent when someone goes from thinking they're a lesbian to realizing they're a little bi

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Bisexuals definitely have experiences that overlap with both homo and heterosexuals, but personally I'm tired of being referred to as "kinda like this group, but different" "half gay, half straight". Bisexual *is* its own thing, we are our own group and I want my own defined category that isn't a derivative of someone else's.

Ok. I dont. Because like what does that mean in the real world. When you like actually go to date women or even find a community of women attracted to women? If you want to actively pursue that?

Because no one fucking cares about our relationship to our straight attraction and straight world, that never comes into question because it's the default and it's so easy to find men attracted to women. But people are sooo abnormal about what words we use to describe our attraction to women and lesbian community. No, I actually would very much like people to see me as at least partially gay again. To see bisexuality as *both* homosexual and heterosexual.

[friendshipgun]

"#also: the way ppl loathe first person cracks me up" I cannae help it, I involuntarily cringe. I think it mostly has to do with how much it is associated with beginner type writing though where an /author/ is often doing a lot of transparent self insertion. I am aware experienced authors can use first person well I just can't remember reading anyone doing so (I'm sure I have but I have absolutely no memory of it, I only have more recent memories of not-great YA books in first person). That post saying theres people who read first person like its READER INSERT though is so funny to me. I'd understand more with second person ??? But why would first person invoke that kind of feeling in a reader? Even third person feels like it would be more open to that for me as first person often feels so much like a separate ass person telling you things at all times. Its like reading someone else's diary, which does not evoke a feeling of "haha that me" in me personally. (In fact, usually it just invoked hat reflexive sense of immense cringe I noted at the beginning of this mini rant).

lmao nah i get u. there is def that connotation with it with fanfic for sure, but i also read a lot of novels that use first person, none of which are YA (you know my thoughts on YA) so i don't have that connotation with it in a wider sense at all.

i do feel like there's a post or a twitter thread somewhere that goes into the notion of "relatability" and this mindset certain readers have where what they read becomes representative of themselves, where the goal of "reading" is relatability first and foremost & where characters that deviate too strongly from what the reader is comfortable """"relating"""" to are met with aggression.

so i can maybe kind of see people seeing the first person pronoun and immediately putting themselves into the story, bc that's what they're always doing anyway, just with a more literalness here where they become the "I." (i'm laughing bc i keep thinking 'i am feel uncomfortable when we are not about me?' but like with reading lmao.)

like bro idk i'm just spitballing the entire idea is horrific to me i don't feel like the people who do this were ever actually taught to read, or like they were certainly never taught to process or analyze what they were reading. shit's bleak.