#and on fucking Tisha B'Av of all days

[slyandthefamilybook]

can't believe I have to say this but if you think Hamas is anything less than an antisemitic terrorist group of fundamentalist fascists then block me so I don't have to block you after reading your disgusting takes

[glitchdollmemoria]

schizotypy is such a fucking nightmare i can barely keep track of the days of the week anymore and i thought i had work on the day my shul is honoring tisha b'av and now im about to cry in the break room because i realized i have that day off and also because its so fucking frustrating being this disconnected from the concept of time. i have to check my work schedule over and over just to remind myself when im supposed to be there. literally fuck this shit but at least i get to mourn with my community after all

[prozacbisexual]

In Defense of Astrid Weissman: Womanhood and Identity as a Jewish Convert

Midge Maisel, the central character of the Amazon original show The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, is an aspiring comedienne living in the Upper West Side of the late 1950s. The audience is quickly introduced to Midge’s family: her mother, Rose Weissman, trust-fund child of a family that found wealth in the oil industry; her father, Abe Weissman, a professor of mathematics at Columbia University and occasional dabbler in socialism. It is late in Season 1 by the time we meet Midge’s brother and sister-in-law, Noah and Astrid. From the moment she appears onscreen, it is clear that Astrid is something of an outsider: raised Christian, she converted to Judaism to marry Noah, and her enthusiasm for her adopted tribe is palpable. 

She arrives at a family dinner party bearing gifts from her eleventh trip to Israel: comically oversized mezuzot. When Midge points out that the decoration meant to be affixed to the doorpost of a Jewish home is “giant,” Astrid laments, “Oh, it is such a stupid gift. [...] Rose has a mezuzah. You have a mezuzah. It's not shoes, you can't just change them out every season.”

Astrid’s zeal for Judaism is gently tolerated by her in-laws, but at times it seems that the audience is meant to roll their eyes at this woman, this convert, so aggressively asserting her place in her newfound tribe. Gentiles may watch and wonder what the appeal of Judaism could possibly be to Astrid; Jews may chuckle or cringe at her intense devotion to all things Jewish: Israel, mezuzot, peppering awkward Yiddish into her casual conversations. But as a patrilineal Jew who technically had to convert (as Judaism is largely matrilineal), I find myself only feeling sympathy for and kinship with Astrid.

Coming to Judaism as an adult, as Astrid did, I have found myself describing this strange feeling of being somehow too much in my commitment to my ethnoreligion. Recently, after I spoke to a friend with two Jewish parents and a Bar Mitzvah and all the trimmings, he compared my experience to that of immigrants to the United States: “People born in America don't need to know the government the way immigrants do to gain citizenship, just like born Jews don’t have to go before a Beit Din to defend their Jewishness. Of course anyone who chooses a new country or a new religion is going to be enthusiastic about it, because they’ve never taken it for granted.”

When my dad first mentioned to a coworker that I was in the process of officially converting to Judaism (although my rabbi prefers to call it an “affirmation” rather than a “conversion”), the coworker said, “Oh, so she met a Jewish guy?” When my dad tells this story, he assures me that his immediate response was, “You’d better be glad my feminist daughter didn’t just hear you say that. It isn’t for a man. It’s for herself.” While I’m pleased that my dad was sticking up for my autonomy, it’s true that female converts to Judaism often start down this path by finding a Jewish partner who wants to raise Jewish children. In my affirmation journey, I met many women engaged to Jewish men studying alongside me for conversion, but never men engaged to Jewish women seeking the same goals. Such is the nature of a matrilineal religion.

We don’t know Astrid’s original motivations for conversion, but it’s clear that her devotion to Judaism is not feigned. She is among the most religious Jews on the show: when Rose joins Astrid in prayer for Tisha B'Av, Astrid alone has been fasting for the “saddest day in Jewish history,” and she has to remind Rose that the prayer books are in Hebrew and are read from right to left. When questioned about her fasting, a hungry Astrid snaps, “It's a day in remembrance of the destruction of the First and Second Temples, but I guess no one else gives a shit. [...] These were important fucking temples!”

When Astrid’s enthusiasm is played for laughs, my heart aches for her. I am all too familiar with the sideways glances of born Jews when I am too loud or thrilled or passionate about my Judaism. I don’t think Astrid Weissman is a joke. I think she’s immediately recognizable as a woman finding her home and her tribe through adoption rather than birth.

Of the 613 mitzvot, or commandments of the Jewish religion, number 207 is this: “You must love the convert.” Astrid Weissman, like me, for all her earnest, eager, excessive energy, formally converted and entered the tribe of Judaism, and her commitment should be lauded, not derided. Long live the passionate Jew-by-choice. May she never feel guilty for buying oversized Judaica or awkward for her limited mastery of Yiddish. Wherever we will go, she will go. Our people will be her people and our God her God. Amen.

[mea-inferno-blog]

When someone who’s not even Jewish posts “Happy Tisha Ba'v to all my Jewish family and friends!!!!” (First off it’s Tisha B'av, idiot) and second, this day is a day of mourning and sorrow commemorating all of the Jewish tragedies throughout history to those who recognize it (it’s not by any means a major or high “holiday”). It is NOT some fun holiday that people celebrate. Have some class and respect for a people that has a bloody history you don’t even belong to. Fucking ridiculous bitch.