#and no its not in the obvious context of 'life partner' either like jesusssss

[femmesandhoney]

to me it feels like straight women are pandering to the tq+ community when they say “partner” instead of boyfriend. it’s like they’re trying to be inclusive and make it more acceptable in society to say partner when referring to a significant other, like when non trans people announce their pronouns, but it comes across as pandering cringe. we know you’re straight, we know you have a boyfriend, it’s perfectly acceptable to say “boyfriend”. if you say partner as in life partner that’s one thing, but to pander to the tq+ community or try to hide the fact that you’re in a heterosexual relationship isn’t great. either that or the boyfriend goes by he/they pronouns but that’s a whole different bucket of worms to get into.

honestly this was the type of person i was addressing because you end up with a situation that just is so unnecessarily vague sometimes. and since apparently everyone on earth needs me to specify every form of situation you could possibly be in, ofc partner is a normal and fine word i have no problem w the word really, especially for gay people whom might feel unsafe w the people they're talking to. but thanks anon for realizing the post was about straight people as stated 😭 I wouldn't say they're trying, usually, to pander to lgbt people most who do are legitimate allies who do care and its not necessarily to show off anything...usually

But yeah the amount of eyeroll conversations ive been in or witnessed where a woman kinda shies around saying it and definitely just seems awkward saying it is like we love you for being an ally already its ok to just say you have a bf. or the more annoying case of actually talking w people who just throw it in so vaguely and then you end up having to ask or assume something which just is stupid. just say it before and skip this part of the convo of me asking more questions or embarrassing myself when im wrong lmao