#and mental health history. i'm stared of going to the drs for a hurt toe let alone get in an institution again

[transjekyll]

So like, this thought has been on my mind for ages and ages, but i've seen some takes today that got my blood boiling so i wanted to write it out.

I think it's pretty crappy to address other trans/nb people you don't know as a "feminine-presenting afab" without knowing that they explicitly identify that way. Most specifically if it's used to dump all over someone's attempts to talk about their experiences. Or deny that these experiences exist.

So, so, so many trans people have little to no control over their outward appearance!

You don't know if they live under the thumb of family members who are strict and controlling of their clothing and appearance.

You don't know if they're struggling financially. (I had barely just come out of homelessness when I started figuring this out, I had nothing! You can't expect everyone to immediately go out and buy a whole new wardrobe when they pass the questioning phase or have the means to experiment with new looks.)

You don't know if they're fighting tooth and nail in a losing battle to access surgery, or if they live in a place where it wouldn't be safe to commit full time to HRT.

You don't know if they just realised they aren't cis yesterday.

You don't know what their future plans for transition are AT ALL.