#and it's mostly semantic but i prefer to call myself non-monogamous as opposed to polyamorous because--

[fallout-lou-begas]

re: the polyamory post - YES THANK YOUUU i'm so fucking sick of opening tumblr or twitter and like. every other day it's just 'polyamorous people are ugly and stupid *one million retweets from other queer people*' again and again and it's like??? first of all, get new jokes. second of all, congrats on getting approval from the straight people in your replies, but guess what!! they still hate you and they think we are exactly the same!! good job bud!!!

literally!!! literally literally!!!!!!! and part of this comes from the fact that after getting divorced from my ex-husband after a brief open-marriage period (which happened because he realized he was a gay man, not anything to do with trying polyamory in and of itself lmao), we realized that, in the wake of our old relationship and dawn of new ones with new people, that i'm definitely non-mongamous and that he does want monogamy. That experience really threw into relief for me how non-mongamy or monogamy really is a thing that you either want or you don't, either works for you or doesn't! and talking with him about these differences between us during that time period through today has always been really illuminating and interesting to me.