#and it's crazy how well we mesh and are on the same wavelength as each other.

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Well, it's the first time I've been properly sick in quite a while! Took my first RAT test and I messed the first one up, but luckily my housemate bought 2 and it came back negative. I didn't think it was Covid but it never hurts to be cautious.

I feel bad bc I missed work last Friday bc of my shoulder and I missed today bc I'm sick and may have to miss out tomorrow and Friday, but I really need the money.

I'm planning on moving out and living w my boyfriend within the next month and need all the money I can get.

Also sorry I haven't really made any life posts lately but uhhhh HEY GOT A BOYFRIEND!

Been officially together since April and it's been very nice! Currently doing long distance (he lives in another state) but he's moving to me next month, so not gonna have to do it for much longer. Just gotta hold on!

Also my lil sis got married! I don't like the guy but he better prove me wrong and treat her well. Or else. She comes back to Australia this Thursday and she's been in Philippines for over a month, so it'll be nice to have her back.

Also went to a pride games night on Saturday and it was really fun! Played Princess Tofu, Coup, Love Letter, Exploding Kittens, and I skipped out on Werewolf. Slept over at my friend's place and it was really nice getting to catch up w my friend and get to know his husband!

My friend and I played Mario Kart 8 on switch (he beat me each time lol) and we watched the first episode of Heartstopper together before he went to bed. I stayed up and binged the rest of the show. VERY CUTE AND CORNY. I also binge read the webcomic today and am all up to date now lol.

OH! ALSO! WATCHED EVERYTHING EVERYWHERE ALL AT ONCE W MY BOYFRIEND AND DUUUUUUUUUDE!!!!! SOOOOOOO GOOD!!! A lot of it connected w me and I cried. Defs a fave movie of mine.

Oh also have had a messed up shoulder for over a week now reaching 2 weeks bc of work. I've really strained some deep muscles in my right shoulder. The best I can do is offload weight on that arm, stretch, and try to massage it, but it hasn't gotten better.

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HAPPY ONE YEAR WRITING A FUCKED UP NOT-A-ZOMBIE DUDE

I'm following suit and doing my own #FollowForever to celebrate my one year on this blog (Which actually was April 30th Oops!) Just wanted to take some time to appreciate my ride or dies and friends I've made over the course of this year. I'm so glad I made the choice to give Tumblr RP a chance because I've met so many fantastic people and inspiring writers. Overall this RPC is incredible and deserves all the positivity I can possibly fling at it. I can't believe there are 649 following this trash fire. Thank you all for the support!! Every single one of you liking threads, fics, participating in events, and sending in asks means the absolute world.

RIDE OR DIES

@hellrager​

Just as you started with me, there's no one else I could have started with but you. I was so shocked by how instantly we connected. Even before we talked OOC our writing meshed together so flawlessly without any prior plotting or discussion. We've always been on the same wavelength to the point it's almost creepy and yet in the same breath, we can still inspire and surprise each other with new ideas and plots. I never expected to find a friendship like this in the RPC, and so quickly. We've said this before but you are a breath of fresh air into my life and the first person I've been able to bond with so closely in a long ass time. Grim, you inspire me not only in terms of writing but also in my day to day life.  I don't think you'll ever understand how much of a blessing you've been to me. You've given me the motivation to work harder, to constantly improve myself, and do better each and every day. You've empowered me to take control of my life and stop coasting through it mindlessly. Our relationship means so much to me and I gotta stop now or this whole post is going to end up being about how truly incredible you are. 🐱 ♥ 🐺

@youngsouthey​ This time I actually get to write a bit for you instead of someone I just watch from afar! It was my first Follow Forever that actually got us talking and contrasting how we both played Brian! I'm never going to forget that moment when your incredibly talented self told me that you admired me – when I was the one admiring your work. It felt like I had been noticed by a celebrity honestly. It was insane. I'm so glad that its spawned a solid friendship where we can sit and talk about our OCs for hours on end just shooting the shit. I cannot wait to see where another year takes us.  God your art and writing ideas just take my breath away. It's honestly crazy to see how rapidly you keep improving. Just when I think your artwork can't get any better it does with the very next drawing or sketch and I have to pick my jaw up off the ground. Your artwork and headcanons made me feel so validated with my own (and I'm so glad to have someone else in Team Top Damien Bottom Brian – but you me and Grim go on about that for hours haha

@shadow-of-fear-and-doubt​ / @a-poisonous-gamble​ By now almost everyone has heard about how you were the first blog I encountered in the Monster Prom community. About how I was scared that I was going to be the only Monster Prom blog before we found each other and screamed about these idiots. I'm so proud of all the progress you've made personally and how you tackle challenges that come your way. A lot of other people would have let that defeat them or made them turn bitter. I admire your genuine positive attitude towards people around you. It's absolutely awesome.

@woofjock

Where would a Follow Forever list be without you? You've installed yourself as a centrepiece to this community from the get go. You've spent so much time and energy maintaining the Masterlist. You're constantly showering the dash with them positive vibes and reminders that the RPC tends to need more often than not. Not to mention your version of Scott is absolutely flawless. Brian and Scott have not gotten to interact as much as I would like but he will support him dating his purple eldritch daughter any day. One day our jobs will stop kicking our asses collectively and we'll be able to interact ahaha.

@zombfear​ / @d-e-lioncourt​ Honestly the best duplicate I could have asked for. I love how we forged a relationship between our Brian's that works so well for our canon. The idea of them as cousins is so fucking heartwarming and I want to make an effort to get more zombie cousins back on the dash again soon!! I also super miss your Liam and the 'dirty little secret' plot between Brian and Liam in their ship verse. Interactions with you are always so much fun to watch and take part in!

@hellrexgn / @gruselhigh

I don't think I have EVER seen a multimuse run so smoothly. You run the gold standard for multimuse blogs. How you keep interactions between all the muses even and active is just astounding and I only wish I had more energy to play with the ships we have concepts for because I love them all! Honestly, I do not know how you do it but other multimuse blogs should look to you as an example. You're so fun to chat and plot with or just talk stupid headcanons about their day to day. When things do go amiss in the plotting phase you are so easy to work with and have things rectified and it's never felt awkward or forced. I also LOVE that you indulge Grim and I with three-person threads! So many other people are scared of doing them, but I love that we can have our characters slip in and out of threads as they are needed. You're so accommodating and adaptable. I love it.  Thank you for putting up with my shit.

@screvvedloose​ / @outofthemaiinstream​

AAAAAHHH !! The relationship between Vicky and Brian is one of the most simultaneously heart wrenching and adorable thing I've written. The way you so readily took the role my Brian needed in his life is incredible and exactly what I pictured when I first conceptualized the headcanon and I'm so thrilled that you had a similar take on the relationship between these two! I also am a huge fan of your Liam and hope he and Brian will also get to interact more soon as what I've seen of them already is fantastic.

@loveyourfears​

I think it's so rare and fantastic to see someone so invested in other people's storylines on the RPC – I think you were the Damien/Brian ship's original cheerleader on this blog and at some points Oz became the mouthpiece for what a lot of others in our captive audience were thinking at the time when Dame and Bri were torturing themselves. It's really good to see someone try to foster platonic connections and take part in being part of a cast of characters rather than the one on one stuff you see most often on the RPC. It's been cool to get to know you over the past year and here's to another year of fun times.

@spoiledfins​ / @idowatercolours​  / @revcnga​  I LOVE YOU! Even though you aren't active on Miri so much I still love your take on her and I've got a Brian/Miri ship with your name on it whenever you wanna start working towards it. I'm so glad we've started to get to know each other OOC because you make me laugh so fucking much. Your stories are fucking gold as is the cursed content you provide! I can't wait to get to know you better as I think this is the start of an amazing friendship.

MORE FANTASTIC PEOPLE (Lets Interact More I Love Your Shit)

@caelestalis | @glitchwalking | @glamourwitchcraft | @quamxmulti | @fudox | @eldfic | @oz-answers | @electrifyingstitches | @howlkissed | @airxn​ | @bestiadeluna​ | @best-wolf-boi​ | @purpleshopkeep​ | @karismatickitty​ | @lcbotomy​ | @lxrosalita​ | @zgords​ | 

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I didn't have much of a social life in my high school and college years for reasons out of my control. I moved around a lot during my high school years due to my father's work. Although I made good friends along the way, I was always forced to say bye to them. In college, I majored in a field where the students' idea of a good time was to play multiplayer games. I didn't have much time to make friends outside of my faculty since the studies were really hard and I was often stressed out. Not to mention, I was an insecure, socially inexperienced young man who just hadn't developed the skills. After college, my early 20s was focused primarily on work. It wasn't until I was 26 or so that I finally got the social life that I yearned for. By then, I was making good enough money to support it and I found my "bros" so to speak or who I thought were my bros.I never felt like I had my own clique growing up for the aforementioned reasons whether it was constantly moving or just being around people I didn't mesh with. Finally, now, I had discovered a brotherhood of guy pals who were all on the same wavelength. We were all similar in age, similar outlook on life, had good jobs, and so we could actually afford to go out to bars, restaurants, clubs, etc.Only thing is, I was the most unattractive physically out of all of them. We spent many evenings going out to bars and clubs and drinking a lot and spending a lot of money. Although their success was mixed, at least they got some success whereas I had literally none. But I liked spending time with my guy friends and by then, I was hopelessly addicted to alcohol. We would go out 2-3 nights a week drinking. I would go to work the next day feeling like a zombie and so in addition to alcohol, I became hopelessly addicted to coffee as well just to get through the work day. I've always had an addictive personality. It's amazing this lifestyle didn't impact my career.This went on from ages 26-33. One by one, my guy friends got into serious relationships or marriage. A few moved away for work reasons. We're still good friends and close to this day but we don't see each other as often.It bothered me a lot how I put in just as much effort as them to find someone but I was the only one who ended up with no one. Out of my bros, I had the best career and made the most money. I was also the most "educated" meaning that I knew more about politics, history, geography and was more "worldly". I was the first one amongst them to buy my own place. All of this sounds great on paper, right? Except the girls always skipped me and went for my guy friends. I remember this one time, I managed to chat up this girl at a bar and we actually seemed like we clicked. I got her number. One of my guy friends was hosting a gathering at his place and so I invited her. Then later that night, we went to a bar to see a live band and she and my guy friend hooked up right in front of my eyes. My friend apologized obviously and the two of them didn't end up working out but that was a traumatic event that affected my self-esteem for a long time. Stuff like this always happened. Like you think there's some hope cause some girl seems like she's interested only to be disappointed.By the time I was 32, it had been six years of living this unhealthy lifestyle. I looked and felt like shit. I'm already short so even if I'm just a tad overweight, it really shows. I was bloated from all the alcohol drinking. My skin looked like shit because of the drinking and my coffee-addiction. All the exercise I did didn't help much due to this damaging lifestyle. What's more, I lost my social circle as one by one, my "bros" married off. The final straw came when a relationship with this girl that I was never too crazy about didn't work out. Yeah I wasn't too crazy about her but hey, she was interested in me and for someone who never had success with women, it felt significant. So when that failed, I was in a very dark place.I entered into this dark period where I was forced into a period of self-introspection since I no longer had a group of people to hang out with and drink myself and ignore reality. I had to face some very uncomfortable truths about myself. I read articles online and read numerous blogs and youtube channels from people who talk about why guys like me are unattractive. Most of the advice was garbage but some things did ring true.Although I think the fact that I was the ugliest guy in my group of friends played a part in me being the only single one left, I think a lack of confidence and a lack of genuine and self-awareness played a bigger role. I think back and realize that yah my guy friends were better looking but they also had more personal conviction, genuineness and self-confidence than me. In fact, the reason I kept going out drinking with them night after night even though they got the girls and I never did was because I didn't know what else to do with my time. They were my crutch. I was just going along with the crowd for everything.I think various girls I knew during this period of my life may have picked up on this. My guy friends just had more personality and authenticity behind their actions. Now I want to be clear. I do feel that despite all of this, if I was taller and better looking, I think I would have had the same success. But that's just how life works. When you're the ugliest one, you have to have other things to compensate and for me, I didn't have anything. Being short and average looking, I realized I had to pay even more closer attention to my presentation. Looking back on pictures of myself from that period, my appearance was shitty.The biggest thing was being overweight and also having this bloated look to my face. I had a haircut that didn't suit my face. I was also attempting to grow facial hair in an attempt to look more manly even though it didn't suit my face. I wore clothes that didn't really fit my body. Although the clothes I wore were fashionable, when they don't fit your body, it still looks like shit.The only thing I was confident about in that time period was my career which amazingly was the only thing in my life that steadily improved when everything else was going to shit. But I realized I couldn't use my career as my only source of confidence in interaction with girls. When it's the ONLY thing you're proud of, girls don't care that much, especially the type of girls who aren't gold-diggers and want a genuine guy and seeking a genuine connection.When you become a loner, it's almost a blessing because you're then forced to face these kind of realities and uncomfortable truths about yourself. I started exploring interests and hobbies that were true to myself. I was always into the arts. I never had opportunities to explore these avenues because my guy friends were all logical, engineering or business types. But I've always been into music, history, classical literature. When I was a kid, my parents told me how I was always singing and doing little dances.I took up ballroom dancing. I took up playing the guitar. I took up running and joined recreational sports. I quit the dumb gym memberships I had because I always hated the gym. Instead, when I feel the need to lift weights, I just use the small gym in my building.I drank less and dramatically, I lost weight and my skin improved. I finally found a haircut that suits my face. Since I make good money, I decided to invest more in better clothes that actually fit my body.Because I drink less often, my diet also improved. A lot of my unhealthy eating was spurred on by alcohol. Now that I limited myself to drinking just once a week, I naturally ate a cleaner diet which contributed to the weight loss.Even though ballroom dancing and buying higher quality clothes ain't cheap, I realize that the money I've invested in these two things was the same amount when I was going out to bars/clubs 2-3 nights per week where I spent a ton of money on alchohol, not only on myself, but on girls who didn't give a shit about me.The social dance scene fits me way more than going out to bars/clubs. First off, it doesn't involve getting drink or alcohol. People are there to dance. There are more women than men and the women are grateful if you ask them to dance. No more hostility and unwelcome glares from the chicks that hang out in the bars/clubs who are only nice to guys who are good looking. When going to a social dance party, even if you're short and unattractive but you make an effort to dance, the women are grateful and encouraging.Because I dance both socially and competitively, I'm motivated to keep up my physique. I run outside, lift weights now and then and I play soccer in a recreational league. I now have a lean but athletic body. I wear clothes that fit. And I have a haircut that suits my face. Through dance, I have more interactions with women and even though it's non-sexual, just the act of dancing closely with various women gives me an "intuition" about being able to read women. This intuition helps me be able to read women and be able to tell who may be interested in me and who isn't. So instead of blindly approaching attractive women like I used to do, instead I approach women who I may have a connection with.I'm now grateful all this happened to me. Like Steve Jobs said, you can't connect the dots moving forward, only backward. I'm glad I lost my guy friends. I'm glad that a relationship with a girl I wasn't that into didn't work out. I'm glad I was left in a dark place where I had to take a cold hard look at my shortcomings.What's more, I realize that a rejection from a girl just isn't that big of a deal. If one girl doesn't feel you're a good fit for her, you can go and talk to another girl who has no IDEA about your past. That's the beauty of approaching new women. These new women you approach don't know about your past or who rejected you or any other embarassing rejections that happened to you. You start off with a clean slate.I think, like many guys, rejection after ejection builds up to self-resentment and self-hate and it becomes this shadow weighing yourself down. You feel like a loser and so any new women you meet, you self-sabotage yourself when new women don't know anything about you and if they like you, they don't care that some girls in the past rejected you.I don't know what the future holds for me but I feel like I'm finally living a life more authentic to my true self and also, I'm unafraid of going out alone and being alone. via /r/dating_advice