#and it sucks that this immense and incredibly sweet patience and generosity will never be repaid

[velvetvexations]

I might be off base here, but I think that part of the reason why some transfems* sometimes react so defensively when transmascs* replying to their posts about trans experiences is that a lot of them are so intensely dysphoric that the thought of their experiences being ones that could be shared by men* feels in and of itself like an act of misgendering

*broad labels used w/ the understanding that there's nuance to their applicability

previous anon here w/ added context, although not especially well written so apologies if it doesn't make sense part of the reason I think that, apart from just outside observation, is that when I was a young teenager, very very early in my transition and not especially stable, I fell into a very similar pattern of thinking when it came to thinking about my own experiences of misogyny. I never fell down any shitty right wing rabbit holes with it, but there was a solid half decade there where I just couldn't bear the thought that I was being impacted by misogyny in the same way that the girls I knew were, because I felt like to acknowledge that would be to concede that I was actually just a girl after all.

That kinna gender defensiveness plays a large part in the behavior of trans radical feminists*, but everything else is small potatoes to the fact that mostly they're just aggressive bullies who get off on flexing their victimization and holding up their category as the only pure people on Earth.

*"stop lying and saying that transphobes think of trans women as men, they know we're women, you just want to misgender us by proxy!"