#and i've gotten to the 2022 asks that i never answered for whatever reason

[official-lucifers-child]

*staring at an ask someone sent on may 26, 2022* should i answer this? would this person still follow me? are they even still on tumblr at all?

[daisyvisions]

assuming you've already been made aware probably, but just in case

https://www.tumblr.com/thetypingpup/764075091731562496/ok-theyve-deactivated-but-jasminexo5xuhuihuis?source=share

First of all, thank you so much for bringing this to my attention anon. You are truly a real one for this.

(Long message ahead, if you wanna skip I don't mind but TLDR, a close moot of mine turned out to be a minor)

Okay, so some of y'all have been around my blog long enough and aware enough to know that I have mentioned @/jasminexox or @/jasminexo5 or later known as @/xuhuihuis. I'm gonna save everyone the trouble by saying that apparently it was discovered that she was a minor and has been lying about her age and her life (to those who've gotten close to her).

Some might think she was a new blog here but I've known jasmine since 2022 and not once was I aware that she was a minor, which tbh I feel incredibly disappointed because I've dedicated parts of my day to chatting to her when we were close, I've given her ideas for some fics or how to start writing more, I've shared my own thoughts and ideas for fics and it just guts me knowing she was probably 14/15? absolutely disheartening.

For a long time I knew she was lying about her life, tbh it was pretty obv because her stories never added up, but me being me I thought "maybe she doesn't want to reveal her personal life here and just uses aliases" which is completely valid! But as time went on we didn't talk as much and my energy was going to my tbz friend group. and when I saw the label in my chat with her here that she was deactivated the only thing that crossed my mind was "I hope she's alright" but now knowing it was because her lies were discovered, it just placed the final nail to the coffin on what I've felt about her over the past years.

What makes me even more sad, gutted, disappointed is the fact that sharing ideas with her when I was just a new reader with no friends on Tumblr actually sparked my interest in writing. If I didnt talk to her, or share ideas with her, I don't even think my blog would've existed at all, and I would've never met the lovely people and my close friends. The weight of this thought has on me really fucking sucks. It really does.

Her lying about her life I couldn't really give a fuck, anyone can do it here, but to lie about her age, to rope in innocent people who genuinely thought you were of age and could confide in you as a friend, a peer, and ultimately question their own moral compass as adults after knowing this truth is sickening.

As an adult, who writes smut on here, there is only so much I can do to prevent minors from reading whatever I post. I can prevent, block, tell them to not read but at the end of the day, if they have the conscience to lie, they have the conscience to do the bare minimum and read blogs that say "MINORS DO NOT INTERACT". So if you're a minor and you're reading this right now, be smart and unfollow / block me. You know better.

Now that I've said my peace, the only question remains... will I still continue this blog after knowing a partial reason as to why I started it to begin with was because of her? Answer is yes, because my love for tbz and writing as a means of creative expression were not inspired from her but from my own thoughts, conversing with her (and her being a writer) only placed that thought in my head. I will still write for tbz until time tells me it's time to stop.

But now, I want to set things right and be a better example on here as an adult so these are the things I will do immediately:

Delete any mentions of her because I don't want that fucking name on any of my fics or asks. I rest easier not seeing her @ (but to those who've reblogged those posts and still see her name through reblogs dont come after me for that please Tumblr doesn't update reblogs sadly).

Rewrite my disclaimer about minors on here. My current one is straight to the point and I can only do so much to prevent minors from entering, but because of this I will make it more clear about my warnings.

IF I have the time, to block ageless and bot blogs. To be honest it is very hard for me to find the time but I will try my best, no guarantees but for now, a really important disclaimer will do (hopefully...)

And if anyone spots minors on my blogs, I encourage you to DM or send an ask, and I will quickly block the blog idc if you like my shit, you're not supposed to be here to begin with.

Final note, I hope those who were even more affected by jasmine's actions will be okay, Im aware there were even some who got to know her more and even helped her out in her own writing (just as I did with her). Please know you were not the only one who was lied to and I hope that you take enough time to heal from this.

[byemizumikahago]

Is it possible for the victims who received explicit material from mizumi while underaged to file a police report or take legal action? If so, I strongly suggest it.

I got this question a while ago, and I've been thinking about it ever since. I thought about how to respond, but I never could think of the right way to say this. I knew if I said something too positive that, if the eventual outcome wasn't as good as I promised it'd be, it would've gotten people's hopes up for no reason, and just causes more hurt than good.

On the flipside, however, I knew that if I said something too negative, it would probably just make a lot of people pretty depressed. And it'd probably discourage people from ever trying to take action, or make things better, because "what's the point if it's just gonna be a fruitless effort in the end?"

I thought about just not answering this ask for a while, but I also thought that I should answer, because this brings up an important conversation topic about online predators and how shitty our real world laws are at protecting victims/preventing online crimes from targeting minors.

So, even though this is gonna be a hard pill to swallow, it's important to be realistic and talk about these issues properly, instead of just sweeping the implications this ask actually has under the rug.

So, my answer to, "Can the victims who received explicit material from mizumi while underaged file a police report or take legal action?" is...

No.

Okay, well, technically, yes, the victim can PHYSICALLY go to the police and report it, but my point is that, even if they did, that doesn't mean it'll fix everything. If anything, depending on the context, it could make everything worse. Or (since that scenario I presented is kind of an extreme, and again, don't wanna be too negative), if the victim brought this to the police, the case would most likely be dismissed on the spot. There are also a number of other factors for why taking this online issue to real life wouldn't help, is that;

1: From the few conversations I've had with the victim, their main, primary concern is maintaining anonymity. They seem to just want to put this whole situation behind them, and focus on healing from this experience. They gave me permission to talk about what mizumi did to them, but requested to be completely anonymous.

If this case was ever taken to court, like, actual court, with a Judge and a Jury and lawyers and the public, the victim's anonymity would disappear. Their face would be seen by everyone, and whatever sense of security they had would be gone. Everyone, like their friends, family, classmates, and random people on the street would know them as "that online grooming victim". The label will stick with them wherever they go, and it'll be all anyone can ever see them as.

Also, if mizumi was sent a notice stating that she had to appear in court as the defendant (either in person or by video call), the victim's personal info, like their full name, will be on that notice. And I don't think I need to go into depth on how terribly that'd go.

2: There's the issue of cross-country laws affecting the ability of this report to be taken seriously. Mizumi and the victim both live in different countries, and both have different age of consent laws, and both ALSO have a ton of holes/loopholes that can be exploited, or have to be closely looked into with a magnifying glass to read between the lines. Your local police officer-receptionist, who is working long hours on their depressing job and is constantly tired, isn't gonna bother to investigate the laws of a different country to determine whether this case is suitable for court or not. They're just gonna say "Ah, it's a different country, the culture is different there, the laws are different there, get over yourself kid, and stop wasting my time with this bs"

3: This incident happened a year ago, back in January of 2022. It is nearly the end of 2023, so it's been a little while since this incident took place. To anyone with a brain, you'd be thinking "Okay, sure, it happened nearly 2 years ago now, but that time-gap doesn't mean anything! It should still be looked at in court! The perpetrator has gotten off scot-free for two years, that means the time to act is now, before it's too late!" And I would 100% agree with you, but unfortunately, the people-in-power, who decide what should be taken to court and what shouldn't, do think that this time-gap means something.

In a post from Rainn.org, they state that, statistically, out of every 1,000 sexual assault cases, 975 of the perpetrators will walk free. And, while researching, I came across the Statute of Limitations; it states that there's a time limit to report a sex crime, and it's appliable to most places in the US. It comes from the belief that the sooner you don't report, the less evidence there will be, so there's no point in reporting at all after the fact.

Also, to add onto the un-likelyhood of this report ever being taken as a serious case, the examples I showed you were all from IRL cases of sexual assault. This incident took place online, where there is less physical evidence of the crime taking place. This video series is from the youtuber Illymation, who was a victim of an adult online predator sending sexually charged messages to her when she was a minor, herself. At one point, she talks about her experience with bringing this issue to the police, and how her case was not at all considered seriously before being tossed out. This is just one example from one person about how the justice system screwed them over. But go onto someplace like AskReddit, and you'll find HUNDREDS of THOUSANDS of people sharing their experiences just like this.

So, yeah. Filing a police report about this mizumi incident not only has a statistically low chance of actually leading somewhere, but may actually put the victim in more danger than not.

So, what does this mean? Is there no point in trying to stop these types of things from happening? Will justice never be served? Will mizumi walk away scott-free, with no consequences, ready and willing to pull something like this again?

Well, personally, I don't think it has to end as depressingly as that. In fact, I don't think it should EVER end like that. I think there's still a way to both not take this to court and have an innocent person doxxed, but ALSO make sure mizumi never has the power to exploit another minor again.

Have you heard of the author, VelvateCarnage, of the infamous danganronpa fanfic "Lavender"? Well, he was exposed as being a creep who sent sexual messages to minors, and basically EVERYONE in the fandom knows this. When he was exposed, he deleted all of his social media accounts, and ran away with his tail between his legs. Since then, a group of have been working together to compile all the evidence of his grooming, and multiple screenshots have circulated, showing his true nature.

Now, everyone in the dr fandom knows what a monster he is, and are now on high alert, so whenever he tries to sneak his way back into the fandom, people immediately notice, and chase him out. This ensures that he can't come back to a space with lots of minors, and create even more victims.

I don't see why the same can't happen for mizumi. I think, that if more people knew about what mizumi did, we could ALL work together to kick her out, and make sure she never comes back.

What I'm proposing isn't the most perfect, best, ideal situation. After all, the best place for a child groomer to be is behind bars, but since we, as individuals, don't have a lot of power to change the system, the best we can do is work with what we've got, and come together to stop more incidents like this from happening.

I might write up a post on what exact things fans can do to help, and stop mizumi from creating more victims, so I'll work on that. But for now, thank you for the ask, throwawaycomplique, you raised a very interesting question; one that really made me realize and reconsider what this blog should be about; not just calling out mizumi's behaviour, but actually putting a stop to it, altogether.

[writer-in-theory]

a comprehensive guide to my thoughts on billy hargrove

so obviously i've gotten a lot of questions about why i feel the way i do about this character, and i've decided to make this guide with eventual updates so i can link to this instead of having to type the same things out each and every single time. from now on i'll really be limiting the asks i answer about this unless you're asking about specific points or trying to bring up good kind conversation other than "why the hell do you like this guy?"

also as a disclaimer i'm trying my best to get the right words out but frankly there are so many better well-worded people who can and have explained this much better than i ever could but i will certainly give my own take now. this isn't everything, i'll update more as i think of more points to make but this is what i have so far.

LAST EDITED: 8/15/2022

"why do you like him?" well, i relate to him for short. i can see pieces of myself in this character, pieces that aren't normally represented on screen in this way. not all victims of trauma become meek and shy (though that is ofc a valid response), some end of lashing out and becoming angry, especially when they're still heavily experiencing said trauma.

"but he's so angry and aggressive. he abused max." what do we know about billy's home life? his mom left when he was around 10-ish after his dad accused her of cheating and hit her. we know that she left billy with that same man and cut off contact with him. we know that man moved billy away from california where he presumably had an entire support system already built of friends, teachers, coaches, whatever else. we know he was out of place from the second he landed in hawkins, putting him on the defensive immediately. we know that his dad is abusive toward him, physically and emotionally. his dad punishes him when his step-sister doesn't follow the rules. i mean hell, in season 3 there was a lock outside his door to lock him in his bedroom from the outside. that's a lot for one person, especially someone between the ages of 10-18. i would be angry too. in fact, a common trauma response especially when said trauma is abuse like that, is anger. violence is what he knows. the one person who was meant to love him physically hurt him, of course he doesn't have reasonable ways to express his own emotions beyond that. does that mean he's not capable of ever learning healthier ways to do that? no! but the kid is just that, a child, and he's still living in that home.

as for max, i truly just don't see where he was ever abusive. him speeding his car toward the party? it was shitty, but do you actually think billy was prepared to do serious prison time just to prove a point to max? of course not, that's ridiculous. he was scaring her and it was a shitty move but again, not abusive. abusive implies regular repeated traumas. he grabbed her arm roughly. okay. my brother and i get into physical altercations all the heckin' time, ones that are far worse than that. it's...what siblings do. he told her he breaks things when she doesn't listen. okay, and what did that sound like to you? really go back and listen to that line as it's delivered again. it sounds stilted, sounds like he's almost parroting back to her something he's heard repeatedly. something like...maybe what neil says to him. billy knows if max doesn't listen to the rules then he gets hurt, so of course he's in survival mode and will say whatever necessary to not get hurt.

he calls her shitbird. again, okay? siblings are terrible to each other sometimes idk what to tell you. in fact, there's even a scene where he tells her they're siblings and they need to look out for each other even if they don't like it, showing that he's trying.

"but he's racist and homophobic." i truly don't know where the homophobic bit came from. as far as i know, he's never said anything remotely homophobic and in fact a homophobic slur has been used against him.

as for the racism. yeah, threatening a kid was a shitty move and i'll never defend that. but really please look at everything he's saying, he's trying to protect max in the only way he knows how.

'did he cause you any trouble? then why are you so upset?' 'why do you care?' 'because we're family now.' that scene sure as hell doesn't seem like bad intentions here. he saw a kid upsetting her, he's trying to find out what's happening.

'this is serious shit. something you learn is that there's certain types of people in this world you stay away from.' i can see how this would be taken that way, and it's shit it really is. but pulling from dacre's interviews he constantly says he never wanted to play billy as purely racist himself, and i'm using that argument because people use the actor's intentions and interviews all the time for others, so why not billy? what this sounds to me is that he's looking out for max again, that he's trying to keep her from learning that lesson herself. it sounds to me like neil is a racist piece of shit and took it out on billy until he learned it himself. 'this is serious shit' and he looks almost afraid amongst the anger. like he knows just what neil would do if anyone else saw that. max has been spared from neil's hand this entire time, but who's to say that this won't be the instigator?

"but he beat up steve without good reason." i don't know, i think he had good reason. we have the benefit as an audience of knowing steve beyond reputation and seeing why exactly max was there. so let's take a second and look at it from what billy knows and sees.

he knows his sister disappeared for hours after answering the front door. he finds her in the middle of the woods at night with a guy his age. a guy who has a reputation for being 'king' of hawkins and getting all the girls. he knows that she's there because he saw her, and he knows that steve is standing there lying that she's not there and most importantly, not letting billy see her. that's shady as fuck and as an older sibling if that ever happened to my younger, i'd be kicking the ass of anyone who dared to do that.

"but he threatened lucas." again, he was already having an adrenaline rush from thinking she was in danger. he already tried to warn max and that wasn't working so i see how he got to well maybe try getting the guy to back off. it wasn't right or okay by any means but i understand how he got there. and he easily could have hit lucas, but he didn't. all of his threats were empty, almost as if...he was only making them for survival purposes.

"he deserved to die. why should he get redemption?" he was barely 18 when he died. he was a child, a child who spent at least 7 years experiencing severe abuse. he was isolated and alone and he died that way too. think about it. really, is anything that he did so truly unredeemable? he was angry, he lashed out, but all of that can change if he got the proper support and time. if he got out of that house, if he got help, if he was able to build a network of friends who understood him, i truly think he would be able to change. i've seen people like that in real life be able to make that change, i've seen MYSELF make changes like that. but it took each of us getting away from the trauma and getting massive amounts of support and time. billy wasn't afforded a single one of those in the show.

"but i don't like him." and that's fine. i'm never asking anyone to like a character just because i do. but what i AM asking is that you don't send me hate for liking him, for trying to understand my point of view here.

"but i have more questions or more points to debate!" okay, let's go! i love talking about it, and i love having my opinions and views challenged in a healthy, considerate way. if you don't come attack me, then i won't lash out at you, right? i want to talk about this, so send me an ask, shoot me a dm if you're over 18, let's go.

[rosesradio]

heyyy, saw your post about ts criticism so I hope it's not too late to rant a little ahah (feel free to ignore it if you've change your mind)

I've recently fallen back into the show after a period of not giving a shit about it (cuz yk, adhd brain be like) and I wish I didn't, with that excuse of an episode we've been given recently (if you haven't seen or heard about it, it's a big ad to promote some plushies disguised as a real episode). I feel like the team doesn't give a fuck about the show anymore, but still wants to make a profit out of it while putting 0 efforts into it, and to see something that was once made with love and care makes me incredibly sad. I wish they could at least tell us "hey don't freak out, the show is gonna be on hiatus for a couple months cuz insert reason" instead of keeping us in the dark like that. Alright sorry for the rant lol, have a nice day <3

you're good, man (man being gender neutral. if you're cool with that? i dunno, anyways--)

i always like answering asks, as long as it's not straight-up hate i'm cool with whatever and my little gerbil brain can think up an answer and have a fun time doing so

so the meat and potatoes. yeah, i saw the ep. i was reluctant to watch it bc i didn't care and was gonna do so when bored, but after looking up some stuff here on tungle dot hell, i decided to give it a shot

yeah ://

it did feel incredibly...what's the word...corporate. like when you see a medicine commercial with a gay couple. and like it's you ! but also...it's just a medicine commercial, so it's whatever

i did use to carry so much weight with every little sanders sides thing to be dropped, but like i answered on a previous ask, i've also learned to just vibe with the fandom, it's less disappointing that way. (not that i'm in the fandom anymore. i'm not lol)

i do wish they would give a little hint, just a smidge. like "projected release date december 2022" (wouldn't that be something lmao). like just a prediction so we aren't in the dark. it makes me wonder about the efficiency of the production team, but based on what we've gotten over the last year (like i answered in the ask before this, the last legitimate plot-y ep of sanders sides came out july 31, 2021, that was working through intrusive thoughts) i would say they...may not be as efficient as maybe they'd like to be. or maybe they're balancing too much with patreon. who's to say

(also i got smth to say about pateron but i'm gonna do that in a separate post)

i think that's it, your rambling skills will never defeat mine etc. feel free to swing by if you ever wanna chat again, until next time bud :)