#and how the lesbian community “doesn't believe in god” (why specifically lesbians???)

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i'm moving soonnnnn yippee (not yippee because moving is great or anything, yippee because i can't wait to get out of this bumfuck majority white trumper tx town)

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it hurts me. the parallel of Charlie at the start of ep 1, so excited about showing her plans for the hotel to heaven she doesn't see how VERY NOT excited about it Vaggie is (cough angel kicked out by heaven for not doing enough murder cough cough), even while getting literally up in Vaggie's face.....

and then Vaggie, when Charlie comes drooping home after that all crashed and burned spectacularly- now it's VAGGIE so excited to show CHARLIE the new and improved hotel commercial she got everyone to make while Charlie was away... now it's Vaggie, up close and basically physically pressing her excitement into her girlfriend, not seeing how utterly crushed Charlie is right then

like, clearly Vaggie expected the heaven meeting to not live up to Charlie's hopes for it. Clearly she REALLY wanted to have something GOOD AND HOPEFUL for Charlie to come home to afterwards

-which would have worked too, if the Extermination schedule update hadn't interrupted the commercial airing

look at how habby Charlie was finding out about the commercial

awww

"heaven isn't homophobic" well then what do you call them interrupting this lesbian's hard won cheer-up-the-girlfriend effort huh? what was that then. not only cruel but also an insult to us queers everywhere. one of the only real sins we ever see in the show, tbh

but gods, they give each other so much CONFIDENCE, chaggie and the mutual "I can do this for her" / "She thinks I can do this and I will" synergy...

and it keeps fucking their relationship up. GODS

how they mirror and act like they're trying to literally meld into each other, while both being So Bad at actually SAYING when and why they're upset about something Serious-

when they're also clearly wanting to share SO MUCH of what they feel specifically with the woman they love!!!!

and how that sometimes blinds them both, over and over again, to the moments when (ironically) their other half needed them to be a little less sure, for a second, that things are or would be okay. Share less of their own conviction, that they got from the other one in the first place

When instead of needing answers to the obvious problem, they both needed to be asked hey IS something wrong? is there ANOTHER problem here actually??

they both put so much of themselves into each other, they both rely on the other one for their sense of self-worth and the strength they need to be The One Who Get Things Done and The One Who Always Has A Plan

that's so DELICIOUSLY fucked up. the flip side to love,

(Vaggie freaking out feeling her existence is pointless while thinking she's failed Charlie, and Charlie losing so much hope just at the thought Vaggie might not really love or believe in her)

when someone else is walking around with your heart beating in their chest because you yourself put it there

heck, their resolution in s1 ISN'T even them hashing things out or communicating better! they don't NEED that- (yet) they JUST need each other! (soooooo fucked up I LOVE it) the thing that brings them back together is Vaggie fully letting go of her angel past to focus on her life with Charlie and tapping back into her whole self for first time since meeting Charlie, it's Charlie the singer and giver of heartfelt motivational speeches having her mind blown by words meaning less than actions as her partner who lied to her is also off right that moment doing everything she can to protect what they've built

the big moment is NOT them actually TALKING about what happened or why it happened. it doesn't matter!!! (to them) Their hurt came from being scared of losing each other, they meet up at the hotel gates and just seeing the other one there is Enough!

they happily return to status quo minus some secrets and plus some more confidence in what they have.... which means the rest of this stuff, the root cause of it all, the unaddressed subtext that they NEED to be fucked up together in an active, intentional, KNOWING way but are so good at inspiring and supporting each other that it just, doesn’t, happen..... that's all still there.

(i see you, Charlie sitting alone with your story of hell book and being shocked at your long time girlfriend coming up to your shared room, being around to see you sad, you putting on a smile and trying to wave it off bc yeah she's right you AREN'T alone anymore. technically)

(i see you, Vaggie asking to be left alone on a rooftop so you can deal with a devastating blow to your whole sense of self as 100% unintentionally dealt by your loving girlfriend who WANTS to be there for you through this but who YOU can't face until you're ready to shoulder the blame and apologize to her)

(i see you both trying so hard to help each other and not letting yourselves be helped)

(because no clearly you don't need it, clearly this is all already so much better that what you used to have and you're doing so much better, and what if you're still not good enough for it actually-)

chaggie is so happily, catastrophically entertwined and i hope they spend the next thousand years suffering through it together

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I'm putting these asks in as text because my inbox is so packed rn lol. Love you Velvet Nation!

i swear to god cisfeminist spaces are the worst. a lesbian was asking why straight people have such bad sex (for the woman in the relationship, regarding the orgasm gap) and everyone jumped onto how testosterone is the reason for it (as in testosterone makes you want to orgasm in 3 minutes with no regard for extending sex outside of wanting to orgasm), even a trans woman saying the sex is so much better with oestrogen in her system. and me and a few other transmascs pointed out to this trans woman that it was probably because she was running on the wrong hormones, and any of us transmascs that dared to say we have extremely fulfilling sex that is infinitely better than the sex we had before we started T was absolutely shat on and berated for “speaking over women” even though we were just sharing our experiences, it’s just that those opinions went against the bioessentialism held deeply by the community

Yo, that's fucked? What the hell? Do people seriously earnestly not get how they come off here?

aside from OOP ignoring all of the black transmascs and other transmascs of colour in the discussion around transandrophobia (including a trans man of colour coining the term), i wonder if they believe we’re making up black transmascs because the transradfems i’ve seen so far have been overwhelmingly white. maybe because radfeminism is inherently racist or something… and their bible is written by a middle-class white woman with no perspective on transmisogynoir and this reflects upon a lot of the discussions of transmisogyny to this day…

Radical feminism is inherently Karenesque. They cross the street when they see the PoC transmascs they spend every waking hour slagging off approach on the sidewalk.

I just really want to chill and watch anime together with you some time, your taste is based as fuck

It sure is!

most bizarre thing i have seen today: a transradfem who clearly believes 100% closeted and non-passing transmascs have privilege over cis women but dancing around actually saying it because they know deep down it might get them backlash from the less radical transradfems

I don't even think it would.

I am still very "read another fucking author" at all the transfeminists who only ever quote Julia Serrano, but finding out she *also* hates the terms TMA/TME made my fucking week. Like, the transradfems' hero doesn't even agree with them!

A lot of them didn't even read Whipping Girl.

Can confirm male/female socialization is not actually a consistent thing because I was literally too autistic to internalize any gender roles, at least in relation to myself. Just. Never learned! Like water off a ducks back

High five!

Really if you take a character who presents as one gender and transition them some trans person is going to be mad about it cause they saw themselves in the original conception of the character. It's inevitable.

Yeah, that is the unfortunate truth of the matter.

That second paragraph is literally what terfs say about trans women. Turning that on trans men doesn't make you any more feminist it just makes you transphobic. (This is directed at the op of that post not you velvet)

Radical feminism is so fucking easy to recognize no matter how repackaged it is.

Racist feminism anon here: see this is the reason I feel like shit for having any critiques of feminism whatsoever. Like hashtag Not All Women obviously but literally these specific women aren't listening to marginalized men. We're not talking about whatever cis white able-bodied Elon Musk fan they think stands in for "men" in this situation. They put "valid concerns" in scare asterisks as though the very idea we have any is laughable. And no actually racism is not a "secondary manifestation" of misogyny and while transphobia stems from misogyny it shouldn't be treated as secondary for any trans person. How the fuck are we supposed to point out that white woman separatism leaves behind men who actually do suffer under patriarchy when it gets telephoned into "you stupid fucking bitch shut up I'll fucking kill you"

The point is making it so you can't.

BTW, I didn't get to edit it into the post before they blocked me, but they were reblogging Actual Nazi shit, like, the OP of the post was progressive but our dumbass here didn't notice that "if there was no hope their propaganda would be unnecessary" is (a) a popular Nazi thing and (b) added to the post by a literal Nazi.

It never does, they're fully removed from this plane of existence.

Note: At this point I kinna forgot I wasn't screenshotting these

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3

I can't believe someone who's BFFs with a tankie is a hypocrite.

You're the second person to apologize for using that format and it always makes me think of the clown-names drama every time.

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okay but srs and gen question how do bi lesbians and male lesbians work. ain't that like contradictory and transphobic. And lesbiphobic. And stuff not tryna be rude I'm just confused

hi! i think you're asking in good faith, so yeah I can explain it.

Terminology out of the way first: a lot of people say the term lesbian means that you are a women who solely likes women. This is still the widely held belief. However! The actual lesbian community has been broader than that since the 80s. Of course, there have been groups who excluded people who didn't fit the strict definition, but a lot actually considered deviations from that definition members of the community. After all, they were fighting the same fight.

Bisexual lesbians are a thing because like, what if you like women 99% of the time, and men 1% of the time? What about if you identified as a lesbian for years, and then met one guy that you fell in love with? Should you uproot your entire identity within the lesbian community just because of that? This is why setting hard rules like "No bisexuals" doesn't seem very fair.

This logic also goes for men. If you are bigender, can you be a lesbian? What if you're two spirit? Do you have to be woman-leaning in your gender identity? If you are 99% woman and 1% man, are you not allowed in? What if you were just a butch for years, but then come to realize you want to transition? Do you leave your entire life in the lesbian community just for that?

These no-nuance boxes get messy pretty quickly when you get actual people with actual experiences involved. If you're pretty much fighting the same fight, then who cares about the specifics? Labels aren't god-ordained, we made them up to try and simplify the incredibly complex human experience. Sometimes not everybody fits 100% into a set of rules. And that's okay.

Maybe there's a reason TERFs side with lesbians who believe in a rigid label, rather than people who will live and let live.

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not to derail your post, that response of apples and whatnot is great. Absolutely priceless and beautiful. Apples are wonderful! And the casual reminder to rejoin the real world. But god I'm so tired of this debate. Like.

Let's assume you are actually talking about a straight couple. And I mean the one you're picturing, with both people being straight cis people. (And not a straight passing couple so to speak, because I know some of y'all are actually talking about these people and I will get to that.) This isn't a new thing. Straight people call each other their partner all the time, and have for a very very long time. Actually, I'd argue I find it better than the alternatives in many instances because partner inherently implies equality. In a world in which one partner (usually the woman) is meant to submit and be passive and docile towards the other, and do what they want etc, I find the usage of partner to immediately imply that this couple, at least not actively, maybe subconsciously, does not do that! I'm not saying it immediately means that couple in no way is sexist or controlling, but it is a good sign. It's also not the most common term used by straight couples which means it's usually to some degree, intentionally and deliberate that they are using it.

Let's go back to straight passing. You don't know if that couple is actually straight. You don't know if one or both of them is actually trans, non binary, any other gender combo, and they simply look straight. You don't know if that is actually a butch lesbian and not a man. You don't know if either of them are on the aro and/or ace spectrums. You don't know if they are queer in literally any way for sure unless they tell you, specifically that they are not queer in any way. And there are straight couples that ARE queer. Picture a straight couple where both people are trans, MTF and FTM. Or literally any other number of combinations. You shouldn't assume that is a straight couple. Fuck, even a straight couple where one of them maybe doesn't like the gendered word like boyfriend for example maybe, maybe the guy doesn't like being called that. He might be a cis guy but he doesn't like being called boyfriend, maybe he prefers partner. It happens! (I am speaking from personal experience here btw. Not a boy but the cis with gendered words part.)

We. Do. This. Every. Year. I mean EVERY year. We debate this, we talk about the same points, we go in circles. I am usually silent but this time I just. I gotta speak a little. We debate this. We debate the lesbian men stuff, we debate the validity of aro and ace people. (Which, I genuinely can't even believe this one. There is actually science proving their existence, why are we still debating this one.) We need new talking points! Preferably ones that matter, like how regardless of how "valid" a queer person is, (already a crap point,) are they getting their rights? Are they being killed simply for existing, etc etc. But I mean at this point I'd kinda take new bad points too, like we need something new! We argue the exact same things. We need to grow as a community or we will be taken apart by the people who want to hurt us and they will separate us, harm us, and shove us back underground. Do not undo your predecessor's work. Do not lose what they have given us because you cannot unite under something that matters. Stop arguing about this stuff and about each other's validity and recognize that in the face of bigotry and death, it doesn't even matter! We can argue about this when we know for a fact we don't have to worry about being actually killed in the streets anymore! Please and thank you.

3 days into pride month and I've seen a new different topic of queer discourse on each day. Do people not get tired of doing this shit every fucking year

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Some more personal opinions about HOTD season 2

So this blockade. How does it work. It's not a siege, the Blacks only control Blackwater bay. I'd assume that food arrives to Kings Landing via land - Stromlands and the Reach are both close and are also Green supporters. Yes, a sea blockade can screw up the economy (cutting off communications with Essos) but. Like. it wouldn't starve the city. SO. how.

On the topic of the blocade, I can 100% belive the smallfolk would cheer for Rhaenyra because she brought them food even though SHE is the reason to the starvation in the first place (though, again, I have no idea how). Also I hate how the show doesn't adress the fact that Rhaenyra is fully willing to starve the people and only give them food as a PR tactic.

Hey, Mysaria, quick question, what is it exactly that makes Rhaenyra so great? Why do YOU, specifically, believe she is the rightful and good queen? In the show Mysaria is the voice of the smallfolk, but Rhaenyra is uncaring for the smallfolk (not in any way that matters) and a mediocre leader besides.

Corlys being mad at Rhaenyra was such a good moment for me.

I understand they are pushing the angle of "Rhaenyra's council wouldn't respect her cause she's a woman" which, yeah, 100%, but I think a more interesting aspect I see int he show is how Rhaenyra is NOT GOOD at running her council. Slapping a person in plain sight would not make them respect you, it's the abuse of power you have towards them. Saying crap like "I want prince Aemond's head" and then LEAVING, giving the council the option of either ignoring what you said (which sets a problematic precedent), or have an excuse to do whatever they want (which led to Blood and Cheese and in general encouraged Daemon's unruliness) is BAD. Fucking off to an udnercover mission without telling anybody is BAD.

Rhaenyra, people keep bringing up Daemon not because he's a man that needs to save you, but because he's a warrior and a battle seasoned commander whom you should use. The fact that you can't utlize your men properly is a you issue, but saying "well we have Daemon" when talking about getting Dragonriders is actually a very reasonable point. I just wish the show would have her confront her flaws instead of saying "she's a great leader they just don't like to see a girlboss winning!!!". Jace is coming close, though.

Like, don't get me wrong, the Greens aren't some awesome megabrained function, but the show makes their flaws very clear (As it should) and I just... want to see the same treatment for Rhaenyra.

You know what? At this point, Let Rhaenyra ride the dragon to battle. If she can't heed what JUST happened to Aegon in Rook Nest that is a her issue.

So.. why are they trying to tame Seasmoke? Rhaenyra knows that Laenor might yet live; therefore, Seasmoke cannot be claimed by a person and any attempt to do so is a suicide mission.

Alicent being actively kicked out from the small council was such a good scene, actually. Yes, the side that uses misogyny as a tool and justification cannot have a woman lead them. But, I think Aemond didn't kick Alicent out of the council ONLY because she was a woman. I think part of it is because he knew she would still champion to Aegon, and he can't have that. The scene where she tenderly touching his cheek... His mother still have power over him and Aemond is clearly fighting it ohhhh the acting in this show is soooo gooodddd.

Lady Arryn my love, the show might have forgotten that you are a female ruler who never married and was a lesbian but I NEVER will. At least they gave you a kickass dress, you look amazing. You are everything show!Rhaenyra tries to be and they would not let you shine

I don't like the way they write the Smallfolk view of the dragons and try to pass dragons in general as "gods". If the smallfolk are in dissarray over killing 10 ratcatchers when one of them is guilty of killing the crown prince (which was horrible), they should be furious at Melyes stomping and killing tens if not hundreds (which was also horrible). "It's an ill omen" no, actually, it's the best thing to ever happen to non-royalty in years.

I never thought I'll be so happy to see the freaking TWINS. The scene with the Freys was amazing. I found it interesting that the Lady was the one to take charge in the negotiations.

I really like Jace. I think he's my fav Team Black member, even if he brings into the table this vibe of "actually fucking doing something" that Rheanyra doesn't like.

Aemond in his Kingslayer, Kinslayer, outfit slayer era, going out there being a blockhead and taking the worse decisions. Love her. Aemond really screwed the Greens over by almost killing the king and gettting rid of one of three (four?) dragons they had. It's so fun to see everything implode.

Also, in my favorite interactions list, Larys-Aegon was not one I expected to see but one I welcome. It's just really good - you can tell there is emotion in there, but also that Larys is using him (he tried moving from Alicent to Aemond, and Aemond rejected him, so Aegon is his grasp for power). Might be one of the most layered relationships in the show.

lol at the Lannisters summoning Aemond, and having lions for some reason. They are just doing the most.

My friend said: "Rhaenyra should've sent Jace to Harrenhall" and oh, my god. yeah. This would be a safe place for him (at least for a while) and Jace does have better diplomatic skills than Daemon. but then we wouldn't get the Daemon getting tortured in Harrenhall plot. And that one's my fave.

Daemon fucking up and getting chewed up by the Riverlords... yeah, my skin is cleared.

Alys killed lord Grover, right? That's what they were getting at?

Daemon blaming SIMON for his dream sequence side quests is just.... Chef's kiss. I get the idea he doesn't suspect Alys because she's a woman, which might be my favorite way the show explored misogyny.

Alyn and Addam, my loves. I don't know why I just like every scene they are in. And having a discussion while Addam is shaving his blond hair while Alyn had a head full of black hair... The way one has given up any connection to Corlys and the other one is striving to get the acknowledgement of his father and the privileges that come with it... The drama, the tension.

Also Seasmoke and Alyn's meeting was the first time since Sunfyre headboop that I actually felt something for dragons.

Ser Gwane Hightower >>>>>>>. That is all.

[rachdam]

Now there's a lot wrong with this post but there's a specific part that is just an extra special kind of fucked up.

"90% of Ace/Aro people just need therapy. Their lack of sexual/romantic attraction is merely due to the fact that they have trauma from past sexual/romantic relationships or experiences..."

First off, nice job pulling that statistic outta your ass. Secondly, can you imagine applying this logic to any other orientation?

Imagine if someone were to say-

"90% of lesbians just need therapy. Their lack of sexual/romantic attraction to men is merely due to the fact that they have trauma from past sexual/romantic relationships or experiences with men..."

Doesn't that sound absolutely ridiculous? You should know good and well that is not how sexuality works. And it is incredibly telling that you believe the majority of asexuals have undergone such trauma, because God forbid anyone not feel sexual/romantic attraction.

And your "9/10 other asexuals/aromantics are children who don't REALLY know how attraction works" is just. Completely baffling. Again, try applying this logic anywhere else.

"You can't be gay/trans!! You're too young to know!!"

Sounds like a load of shit, right?

Lemme tell you from personal experience- I felt zero sexual attraction to ANYONE growing up. It was not simply a phase nor do I have trauma of any sort. Again, I don't understand why you can't seem to wrap your head around other people's lives NOT revolving around sex or romance.

Additionally, having a valid identity or being a part of the LGBT+ community is NOT about how badly you are treated. Someone's validity is not (and should not) be based on how horribly they are treated.

Asexual & Aromantic people are not LGBT.

Asexual/Aromantic people are not LGBT. You have to be LGBT to be LGBT.

Why aren’t they LGBT?

Sexuality is about who you are attracted to, as in what sex/gender you are attracted to, not how. They’re both about the “how”.

The only way you can be LGBT is if you are attracted to the same sex in some way or if you have Gender Dysphoria. ( Or Both ) Ace/Aro is neither of those things.

Being an Incel isn’t a sexuality.

You aren’t oppressed by anyone in any way for being Ace/Aro. Not at all. You aren’t. The LGBT community is a group of individuals who have been oppressed, murdered, and discriminated against.

They have their own community already. The AVEN community.

Why they aren’t valid as Sexualities.

90% of Ace/Aro people just need therapy. Their lack of sexual/romantic attraction is merely due to the fact that they have trauma from past sexual/romantic relationships or experiences whether they be consent or not.

If it’s not due to trauma 9 times out of 10 they are children who haven’t even gone through puberty yet and haven’t developed those feelings of sexual/romantic attraction. I personally believe no child should identify as such.

The Split attraction model makes no sense, it invalidates itself, and it’s literally just normal attraction, sexual or romantic, with extra steps or worded differently.

Sorry Asexual and Aromantic people. ( Not Really ) Your “Sexuality” is not valid or LGBT. 🤷🏻‍♀️