#and how i wished people would write about AOS kirk's traumas and TOS kirk's traumas without conflating them and comparing them etc. | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

snowrainandbooks · 4 years ago

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That is so true... Can we just start comparing their boobs instead ? And their love for the Enterprise ? That's very much more delightful to see :D

i love seeing people compare tos and aos kirks, but when comparing them, can we not use phrases like “more traumatized” and “less traumatized” or try to quantify which character has more or less trauma? like every trauma is different and it’s gonna impact people differently

and by trying to quantify the trauma of these characters you’re gonna hurt real life people who may feel like their trauma is being belittled if their trauma fits the description of the “less trauma” category

#I'm not gonna hide these important tags #i've spoken before about CPTSD/PTSD/trauma and how ANYTHING can traumatize a person #that in my own lived experience as a PTSD person - my more ''understandable'' traumas hold the same weight as my less ''understandable''#the thing about trauma is that it's indiscriminate. if you are deeply affected by something - haunted by it - it's trauma.#the same applies to triggers related to your trauma. a lot of seemingly weird or niche things trigger me #and i discover new triggers as i encounter them; i'll be doing fine and then i'll have a flashback suddenly #i made a post once about how reading AOS kirk fics made me feel very uncomfortable #because people (presumably without PTSD) assign AOS kirk TOS kirk's traumas #because AOS kirk's canon trauma's aren't '''bad enough''' - '''interesting enough'''#and how i wished people would write about AOS kirk's traumas and TOS kirk's traumas without conflating them and comparing them etc.#because PTSD is PTSD in the way that trauma is trauma #if you're traumatized and your brain responds to it in a disordered way #congratulations - you have a trauma disorder #and anybody can have a trauma disorder even if they haven't been subjected to stereotypical traumas #you can in fact have PTSD and very debilitating symptoms without having been in a war zone for example #and the problem with all PTSD stories being Person In War Zone is that it contributes to inproper framing of #trauma disorders. because when i say PTSD your first thought is probably ''war flashback'' or ''veteran''#and that's why i and MANY people like me go without treatment for so long #because we don't think it's possible for us to have this disorder #or that we're bad and selfish people for claiming the disorder #i am pro self diagnosis in every case when it comes to mental heath and neurodivergence #but i do want to say for the sake of this specific conversation that i /am/ professionally diagnosed #and i didn't even consider that I might have PTSD until a former therapist told me #because it had never even crossed my mind #even though my PTSD symptoms are severe. even though i hit every critera #because of this false narrative that people regularly contribute to #''i can't have PTSD because what i experienced wasn't bad enough''#so if you don't have PTSD PLEASE do research about the disorder. please talk to actual people with PTSD.#and stop comparing and devaluing trauma. because real people like me see it #and really - AOS Kirk is a neon sign for PTSD. The man's never been to Tarsus. his childhood abuse and neglect is enough

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