#and even when he DOES use the dark side. he gets better. he realices that what he's doing is wrong and GETS BETTER

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I know everyone likes to make fun of Ezra for believing Maul, but I honestly really liked that, because. Like. He's been working so hard to learn to trust people again. His new-found family is teaching him how to open up and how to let himself love others without being too afraid of losing them to connect

And he doesn't immediatly trust Maul, which shows that even if his trust issues are much better now, he's still not stupid and knows to be careful around strangers, especially if you found them inside a Sith Temple

But. Maul shows and tells him what he wants to see; he acts kind with him, reassures him when he's in doubt, and manipulates Ezra (who is a CHILD) into beliving in him so he could get what he wanted

Then he betrays him, and by blinding Kanan, he proves Ezra's 'little me' right

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Why Should Men Stay Away From Chivalry For Their Own Good?!

A Simple Analysis Of Why A Good Intelligent Men Should Run Away From Women That Like Chivalry...

Why is Chivalry such a controversial subject now a days? How can opening someones door, pushing a chair at the table, offering a hankerchief or walking to the far side of sidewalks, be so wrong? Why, when this has been the most acceptable, and supposedly elegant, behaviour for man to women since medieval times? Well, that’s exactly why, it’s medieval! But what’s wrong with medieval times?...

Well those were aggressively oppressive times, with terrible elitism, where the gab between poverty and richness was in it’s prime, with incredible power abuse by the highest of society, when scientists were killed for saying that the earth is round and that it turned around the sun… well, I think that paints a pretty clear picture.

But what does this have to do with Chivalry and Sexism? The thing is, back in that time, relationships had more to do with power and money than with love. In all levels of society, men had to demonstrate wealth to prove their worth to fathers and women. You could assume then, that a Chivalrous Man,  demonstrated that they were more refine and educated and, there for, wealthy… well all the contraire.

Opening someones door, pushing the chair at the table, offering a hankerchief or walking to the far side of sidewalks is a “servants job”, male and female servants had to do this for high society men and women. A rich higher class person would never be Chivalrous to anyone, that would demonstrate inferiority. So how did it become correct to be Chivalrous in a time when money served better than love?

Well, the word speaks for itself: “Chivalry”… The word comes from the Knights, which were the soldiers of the time. Poor but intelligent, strong, determined and brave men. Tho today Knights might seem like a sexy prince from story tales, they were actually more like dirty vikings… most, with no big noble titles, or properties, and who had no other thing to offer to fathers and women than their war victories.

In a time where high society men wear high heels, hair extensions and makeup -more often than woman- Knights didn’t exhale attractiveness or wealth. So, their way of compensating was proving they were going to be the best posible “servant” to a woman and to her family.

This interesting and alternative approach was very successful in a sexist world were even princesses where treated like sex slaves by their own husbands… suddenly a strong and aggressive man that promise his “service” as a love slave to a woman, seemed like a very attractive choice.

Women: are you suddenly feeling very attracted by Chivalrous Knights? Man: do you still seem to miss the point of how this is incorrect in todays eyes?. Well don’t worry, both of you stick with me.

Showing servility as a way of attracting people is a highly effective weapon even today.

Have you ever been to a nice fancy restaurant, where waiters push your chair, and place a nice cloth napkin on your lap, regardless of your gender? Even an Uber driver is asked to open anyones door. It feels so nice! Doesn’t it? Tho, think about it. Why do they do it? Do they really care for you in such a deep way that they feel compelled to be so kind? Are they actually inferior to you and that’s why they have to do that? If the answer to this last question is yes, get out of here, don’t keep reading, you are probably an elitist and think you are superior to others in sociaty and, there for, this reading is not for you, it’s for good intelligent men, it say it in the title…

Are you still here?… OK. Let’s continue. If the answer is obviously NO, no one is inferior to others (they just want a nice tip) but I still like nice restaurant service and even Chivalry! Don’t feel bad. We all do! The problem is not liking it, is that it is simply wrong. Don’t we all want to get things our way? Yes, but that does’t give us the right to steal or take it by force, correct? But if a person want’s to show humbleness trough service, shouldn’t that be allowed and even valued? Well the thing is, let’s get real, we would all prefer to be served than to serve, the only reason to do it the way around, is if we are forced to do it or we are getting something out of it.

Did the Knights offer themselves to women as love servants because they are true romantics? NO. They did it for the money. They did it as a strategy to compete and move up in society.

Now, wait a minute. Am I calling you an interested convenient man, that façades his real unfair intentions with Chivalry?… Well… are you? Maybe yes, maybe not.

Kind readers of both genders: pay attention to what I’m going to tell you next, because you might be discovering secret abbusive behaviour from both yourself or your partners.

Let’s say you are a very handsome, fit, intelligent and achieved man. And you like an evidently less attractive woman, with no job or future plans, she doesn’t come from money and really has no intentions to earning her own, thats also is not very bright, and is passive in sex…. Hmmm are you wondering why would you even be considering this woman? Yes, I would also ask you the same question. Then, why would you think a woman wouldn’t be thinking the same if she was the attractive, fit, intelligent and achieved one?

But still today, in our society, it is less likely to find a man with a less attractive woman, but more likely the way around. Even if women today are not looking for better looks, there are still characteristics of behaviour than men have to prove to women to gain their hearts: being committed, faithful, romantic, communicative, not aggressive.

More than often, men that can not prove they can offer this characteristics (because they actually can’t) use the Chivalry technique to compensate by “pretending to accept their inferiority”. But then again, it’s just pretend, because we agreed that no one is inferior to anyone, nor want’s to be, and no one is a willing servant unless they want to get something out of it.

Some of the male readers might be thinking: wait a minute, I am a really good man with real intentions, I just want to be nice and show love and respect, I am not accepting any inferiority nor have I secret sexist intentions… Then, why are you behaving like you are? 

Men than can prove their good intentions are in no need to act like servants. Do you have a low self-esteem? Or is it that maybe you didn’t realice that that’s what you are actually expressing. And don’t be a fool… if you are really a good nice guy with Chivalrous behaviour, don’t think for a second that some women won’t take advantage of this.

I think most of our female readers, are now getting the point of why is Chivalry a dark secretly sexist behaviour and why to run away from it (because it’s fake inferiority, don’t fall for it, he must have a secret intention)… unless, you are understanding the power that you as an intelligent woman may have over a good Chivalrous Man, that it’s willing to accept inferiority (he has a low self-esteem and actually believes he is inferior to you) … or even, you may already know this.

Men: if you are thinking that women would never abuse you, because society has told you that intelligent women are sweet and kind and never abusive, well you need to know that intelligence has nothing to do with kindness, actually the more intelligent a person is, the more likely he/she would be capable of abuse of power, not using it has more to do with morals than with intelligence. And we all know today that intelligence or abuse of power has nothing to do with gender, it just tends to be expressed in different ways.

So tell me “Sweet, Kind, Non Abusive, Chivalrous Man”: have you ever had your heart broken by a cruel yet beautiful woman? Tell me “Sweet, Kind, Non Abusive, Chivalry Man Loving Woman”: have you ever been heart broken by a cruel gentleman? Most of us have!

And we never saw it coming. We can’t understand why women that were treated nicely, sweetly and kind, that were given anything they wanted, abused the men that displayed service to them! Well actually, those men were putting themselves in the trap. “They” told her, she was a princess and they are a simple Knight, she is superior and deserves to be treated as so, and that they in the other hand, can be smashed down and be treated like a servant.

As well as we can’t also understand, how a man that showed such Chivalry, such gentleness, such sweetness and kindness, that said they were at women’s service and at their feet, were just pretending… because, actually, no man should be at a woman’s feet nor over her head, they should be equal and anything that doesn’t show equality is unbalanced… if not, one of both is trying to make sure he/she is on top of the balance.

Are the male readers finally feeling a bit uncomfortable with a servant position, or with acting like one? Have you ever thought that society has thought you to pretend to be a servant to get what you want? And the most important question: Are you achieving it? Are you really getting the kind of girl you want by being Chivalrous?

If you are, congratulations, you are successfully using a legendary façade weapon to get in your life “better looking, better achieving, but low self-esteem women” (girls, are you this type of woman?). And men, if you are not, let this be a step stone that helps you become in an actually good intelligent man, one that doesn’t allow society to treat you as a servant, one that will not get humiliated by pretending to be a slave. And get yourself a good woman. Because a woman that doesn’t like Chivalry, that openly despises it, is telling you: I don’t like you to pretend to be a servant to me, or even worst, actually thinking you are. I want us to be equals!