#and determining that you're aromantic is really fucking tough when everyone talks about romance like its a universal inevitability
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sparky-is-spiders ยท 1 day ago
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Jon who is totally 100% alloromantic for sure constantly finding new excuses not to date.
No he can't get back on the dating pool he's recovering from his breakup.
No he can't start a relationship now he's busy finishing his degree.
No he doesn't have time for romance right now he has to get settled in his career.
Someone asks him an earnest question about why he's single in S1 and he goes on a really lengthy tirade about how he's so busy and the archives are a mess and he has to do all that work AND pick up Martin's slack and dating is so time consuming and it takes so much effort and he can't possibly find the time or energy for a relationship NOW. And over the course of it he's just constantly implying that he sees dating as like. An Obligation that grown adults Must Fulfill like taxes or paying the bills. Something he'll have to get around to eventually but he'd really rather put it off.
Then later in S4 he's talking to Daisy. And joking about how all the horrors are sort of a relief cause at least he doesn't have to worry about dating anymore. After all it would be unethical to drag someone else into this mess. And there's nobody already involved that would want to date him (or that he would want to date). And they've got more important things to worry about.
Not that he's aromantic though! He's had crushes. He's not totally repulsed by the idea of romance. It's just that every time he's ever tried it it feels like an irritating chore, and when he's single he only thinks about being in a relationship in the vague sense of "I'll probably be happy in one at some point," and it always felt like his crushes didn't invoke much in the way of emotions most of the time (and when they DID it always felt a bit forced and anxious). But he's not aromantic. He'd know if he was. He wouldn't spend years just not noticing something like that. He's not stupid.
And Daisy (also for sure alloromatic. Totally. 100%) is nodding along because yes exactly. I do that too. Neither of them realize anything about themselves from this conversation.
It's not even internalized arophobia it's just that they're convinced they've had crushes and/or genuinely wanted a relationship at some point. (If they're even aware of the term tbh. They might not be....)
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