#and also trans people can write whatever they want. we're all working through our weird shit. but ao3 at least feels

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holds mic out... actually there's nothing i would love more than hearing you talk about fandom's views of how trans men are allowed to exist in both fandom and transformative works :)

bestie............... thank you

honestly, doesn't it always come back to a/b/o and mpreg? and i felt this way before i was consciously trans and it's only gotten more pronounced as i've pushed forward into the non-fanworks world of fiction writing. there's a distinct lack of trans characters in both, but there is an especially noticeable lack of visibility and representation for ftm/transmasculine characters. i've speculated a lot about why this is (best i can come up with is the societal fear of a surprise phallus is greater than the surprise of a lack thereof, but this is a really hard thing to articulate and incredibly nuanced, and it'll take me way off topic), but people in general are just incredibly adverse to writing trans male characters, in particular trans male adults. adults who hold positions of power and adults who have sex and adults who fuck up.

and trust me: i have tried to read a/b/o. i have tried to understand the appeal. but i'm just like, goddamn, why are so many girlies choosing wet ass when you could just write a trans character and fucking have your cake and eat it too! trans men have dicks, natural and surgically! if you're that obsessed with needing two cocks, you can still have that with a trans character, and you don't need this gross, cissexist trope that requires ass pregnancies.

and that segues nicely into how fandom writes characters when they are actually written as trans which is... still woof. because it's never just normal. 80% of it is pregnancy whump, "woe to me, for i, a transsexual, am pregnant, and this is the worst thing that could ever happen to me". obviously there's nuance to this (hell, when i was a teen i wrote a polyam series where my trans character got pregnant. i also wrote a lot more porn than angst, though, it wasn't just endless angst), but when that's all there is?? and when it's not pregnancy angst, it's g or t-rated, which, fine, whatever, but why can't we have casual pwps? why is it so hard to get casual explicit stuff with a ftm character? fandom is full of all kinds of weird porn, but i have actually gotten yelled at by Fandom Girls for asking why people write a/b/o over making a character ftm lol.

obligatory "if people aren't comfortable writing trans characters, i would obviously rather ignore their weird cis porn than have to suffer through shitty trans fetishization". but also. people should learn how to write trans characters, in fandom and in general. a character can (and, imo, should) be trans without that being the whole plot. the problem is trans people still exist primarily as inspiration/tragedy porn in the cisgender eyeballs, and so we don't get to just... be a character. we don't get to have casual sex or get put into cutesy little au's or any of that.

(that's also why i'm happy that my chris/adrian series has been doing well because like..... this is not meant as shade to anyone in the ao3 tag. but right now, besides me, there's, like, 2 other trans adrian fics that i would go back and reread. everything else is a/b/o, and one tagged as "mpreg" that i refuse to touch on principle. but the two good ones are i think both t-rated. we have far more fic for breeding kink, which, fine, whatever. and i really want other people to write trans adrian, because i think combining his obsession with identity makes him FASCINATING to write as trans, and i want people to get fun and freaky with explicit stuff like they do when they write him as cis, but also i trust a maximum of 5 or 6 writers to do that decently. and at this point, i've dissected and analyzed so much fucking trans media that i just emotionally and mentally cannot. spare the time of day for people who are still doing it objectively wrong. lol)

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Scarleteen Mix #3: We're Not Exactly Happy Right Now

In fact, like an awful lot of people, especially women, especially trans and nonbinary people, especially queer people, and especially survivor-people and survivor-advocating-people, we are furious; we are furies.

We are mad as hell.

Come rage with us on Apple Music or Spotify.

This third mix (you can find the first one here and the second one over here) is brought to you by myself and fellow Scarleteamsters Mo, Jacob, Sam, Alice, Al and Ruby.

What can we say? The world has been a raging dumpster fire, most certainly including all of the awful things the American government as led by the Trump administration and its various fellow bad guys have been doing, like continuing to personally profit from their positions to endlessly denying climate change at our great peril, to again picking up the horrifying colonial tradition of abducting people's -- and by that we mean mostly brown people's -- children and pretending like that isn't what they're doing (it is what they are doing, and it's more complex and also even much, much worse than it seems), just to name a few of the many big, bad things happening every single day in the country Scarleteen makes its home base.

And then, as if all that wasn't horrible and heartbreaking enough, there was the Kavanaugh nightmare. There was everything around it -- including all of the constant gaslighting we who are survivors had to keep listening to, much of it literally coming from the people in charge of this nation right now --  there was the hearing, and worst of all, because of course it was going to happen no matter what, the confirmation to a seat on the Supreme Court in spite of everyone knowing full well that Christine Blasey Ford, Deborah Ramirez, Julie Swetnick and others were telling the truth when they told us who Brett Kavanaugh was. Including because Brett Kavanaugh himself was showing us that same truth of who he was in his every response.

It's almost impossible to really give voice to the whole of our feelings and have them come out as anything but guttural screams. But s.e. smith wrote up a solid list of things we can do, and super-power with our sadness, our outrage, and our anger. Scarleteen supporter and all-around force of nature Deanna Zandt also came up with a way to give some wearable visibility to survivors and benefit Scarleteen in doing all we do to educate people about consent, to support survivors and to do all our other work here. So many people we admire have said and done so many things in the last few weeks, it would be impossible to chronicle them all, but one thing we think you probably shouldn't miss are the things Tarana Burke, founder of #metoo, had to say here, including this:

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with the rage because it’s a righteous rage. This is not people just angry to be angry. These are people who are hurt. One of the things I want to do at some point soon is to call for a healing. We rally around causes, and we protest and we march, but we don’t ever take time to just sit and focus on what we personally need. Some people need this in this moment.

Rebecca Traister had some things to say in the midst of all this awful that speak mighty well to some of the feelings we're trying to work out in this mix. She said:

If you are angry today, or if you have been angry for a while, and you’re wondering whether you’re allowed to be as angry as you feel, let me say: Yes. Yes, you are allowed. You are, in fact, compelled.

If you’ve been feeling a new rage at the flaws of this country, and if your anger is making you want to change your life in order to change the world, then I have something incredibly important to say: Don’t forget how this feels.

Tell a friend, write it down, explain it to your children now, so they will remember. And don’t let anyone persuade you it wasn’t right, or it was weird, or it was some quirky stage in your life when you went all political — remember that, honey, that year you went crazy? No. No. Don’t let it ever become that. Because people will try.

The future will come, we hope. If we survive this, if we make it better — even just a little bit better — the urgency will fade, perhaps the ire will subside, the relief may take you, briefly. And that’s good, that’s O.K.

But then the world will come and tell you that you shouldn’t get mad again, because you were kind of nuts and you never cooked dinner and you yelled at the TV and weren’t so pretty and life will be easier when you get fun again. And it will be awfully tempting to put away the pictures of yourself in your pussy hat, to stuff your protest signs in the attic, and to slink back, away from the raw bite of fury, to ease back into whatever new reality is made, and maybe you’ll still cry angry tears at your desk and laugh with sharp satisfaction in front of late-night television, but you won’t yell anymore.

What you’re angry about now — injustice — will still exist, even if you yourself are not experiencing it, or are tempted to stop thinking about how you experience it, and how you contribute to it. Others are still experiencing it, still mad; some of them are mad at you. Don’t forget them; don’t write off their anger. Stay mad for them, alongside them, let them lead you in anger.

This is a mix we made you for you to shout back to the world with when it has the audacity to tell you not to get mad again or stay mad. (There's a lot of swearing in it, because no shit there is.)

Smells Like Teen Spirit: Patti Smith

Bad Reputation: Joan Jett

Bad Girls: M.I.A.

Be Afraid Boy: The Foxies

Shit List: L7

Bitch Better Have My Money: Rihanna

Before He Cheats: Carrie Underwood

U + Ur Hand: P!nk

Hard out Here: Lily Allen

Men Explain Things to Me : Tacocat

No Respect: Destroy Boys

Screwed (feat. Zoë Kravitz): Janelle Monáe

Sit Still, Look Pretty: Daya

Not a Pretty Girl: Ani Difranco

Seashore: The Regrettes

B.M.F.A. : Martha Wainwright

Drunk Walk Home: Mitski

Gutless: Hole

We're Desperate: X

Outta Me Onto You: Ani Difranco

Come Through: The Regrettes

Not Ready To Make Nice: Dixie Chicks

La Bruja: Lila Downs

Little Earthquakes: Tori Amos

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