#and OTC painkillers and hot water bottles are enough and I've only once burned my back bad enough to blister by accident
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As a flip side, if you do have any of these issues but you don't seek medical help for them because you have them under some control and seeking medical help would be expensive / emotionally fraught / something you've tried before that didn't help / more effort than your current approach:
that's fine for you, it is okay to not get it if you have a workaround
someone else in your situation might benefit more from medical help than you feel you would, and that's fine for them
you do still deserve medical attention and support, even if you aren't getting it / are reluctant to get it (for example, because you tried before and it was an unpleasant enough experience that you don't want to get it)
Always feel bad when I see someone say something like "I don't have a disability but I have [something that is a disability but society doesn't treat like one]"
Migraines. Food allergies. GERD. Vision problems. Skin problems. For people that menstruate, conditions that cause irregular and painful cycles. Those are all disabling. Anything that impairs you from functioning or completing a basic life task without accommodation is a disability. Anything that makes you spend days in bed during a flare up is a disability! Not everyone experiences your symptoms and you're not being weak or whiny.
Mental illnesses that people treat as "mainstream" these days like anxiety, depression, or ADHD are still disabilities. Overcoming a massive struggle just to get out of bed, slow down your thoughts, or focus on what you need/want to do is disabling. Starting the day with less mental energy than most people is disabling.
For the migraine people: yes, everyone gets headaches, but no not everyone gets migraines. It's a condition that can be inherited in which our nerves are literally wired differently and more sensitive than someone who doesn't get migraines.
For the food allergy and digestive disorder people: if you eat something your body can't tolerate, you become sick. Doesn't matter if it's a trip to the ER or skin irritation for a few hours, that's a negative response in your body. Going hungry at social events because you can't eat anything, that's not something you just have to grin and bear. Prohibitively expensive or hard-to-find accessible food. Most people have the privilege of not worrying about eating.
For people with abnormal menstrual cycles: you don't have to suck it up because "lots of people get periods, no one likes them, but they all deal with it." Majority of people who get periods don't spend days in bed with debilitating pain or nausea. Your heightened struggle is real. Going months between cycles can increase your risk of health conditions down the line, and it's good to speak to a gynecologist if you have access to one.
If you are feeling discomfort on a regular basis in any part of your body, or if you usually feel unwell after eating, that isn't normal and you deserve medical attention and support
#I tend to not think of the things I have on this list as disabling because I'm in a place where I have those accommodations#such as having access to food that doesn't make problems flare up#and keeping skin issues from being too tricky#and to be honest I am absolutely fine with irregular periods and do not want to go to the GP to get them back to being regular#because then I will have a definite one week a month where stuff is painful rather than sometimes one week in eight#and OTC painkillers and hot water bottles are enough and I've only once burned my back bad enough to blister by accident#but that said#the digestive disorder one hits strongly for me#any social event I go to I need to know what food is being served or where I can get an alternative#having limited food options on an isolated campus was one reason I left a past job#and I don't want to have to bug people about food requirements because it is honestly worse to tell them#and find out that they don't care#or that they do care and will get it wrong#or that they will do their best with what you tell them which is the short form of your dietary requirements#because it feels rude to drop full FODMAP on people at short notice#it feels worse to do that than to just not ask and work around it#on a lighter note it is really nice that when you ask for oat milk at Starbucks#they check whether it's allergy or preference#THANK YOU SO MUCH#that makes it easier for them because they don't have to clean-room everything#and easier for me because I get my chocolatey milkshake a bit sooner because a tiny bit of cross-contamination is fine for me
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