#also if i like didn't answer this properly i apologize; i'm not versed in infantalizing/etc etc

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On one hand: aro / aro spec Paxton is a cool headcanon because we definitely need more rep for that. But on the other hand: is that genuine or are you headcanoning him as such to get him out of the way of your preferred ship? Not saying you should ship Daxton over Benvi if you lean more towards Benvi but anytime there is a show with two love interests and one of them is a man of color, it's almost a reoccurring theme that said man of color either gets desexualized, or infantilised, or raked across the coals for existing by the fans and the narrative or just plain ignored. Hopefully this doesn't come across as me starting shit because no one has that time and energy; I wanted to start a conversation about how people perceive love interests of color. Cheers and happy season thee day! Hope it's awesome!

oh definitely not lol. truthfully, i'm fine with either ship being canon but from a writer's standpoint i'd say benvi makes more sense. i absolutely adore paxton as a character though and honestly as an aro spec person myself i can really connect with him and i just like to think of him being aromantic/aro spec. if that's not your headcanon, cool!! however that headcanon has zero to do with his race or me trying to get him out of the way of benvi and everything to do with me simply identifying with his character's experiences. it was, quite literally, a case of me looking at my computer screen while watching him interact with possible love interests (not just devi) and being like "oh, he gives off aromantic vibes." honestly that was it. i'm just a silly little aroace looking for rep in any way i can lol.