#also i know i'm terrible about replying to people but i always check my inbox and give priority to serious messages first

[lokisgoodgirl]

Do you have any tips for a first time fanfic author? I'm working up the courage to post something and am scared it's no good 😟

Thx if you reply, really love your stories💚

Hello fellow writer! 😊 It's been a while since I've had something like this land in my inbox. 💐

1) Throw any shame or feelings of cringe or whatever out the window. It's Tumblr, not Facebook. It's like an AA meeting - 'but what if I see someone I know?!' - we're all here for the same reason lol. Embrace it.

2) 'No good' is entirely subjective and a terrible measurement. One persons favourite writer is another persons least. People prefer different tenses, different content, different characterisations, the way dialogue is written, the way paragraphs are formatted. There is no way to know before you post so the best way is balls deep and let the chips fall where they may.

Once you're happy with your fic - check the paragraphs (wall of text?!where did you come from?! ), where dialogue sits, grammar etc. No ones perfect but it might make you feel more confident to keep those things in mind😊

Also spoiler: I don't know a single writer that doesn't feel that their work is 'no good' at least once a week. Sometimes you're Hemingway with more cocks, sometimes you're a reddit post someones written drunk at 3am.

If you feel something when you read what you've written, chances are other people will too. The more you write, the more you post - the better you'll get. There's no easy way around it, but it doesn't mean it's not worth sharing if you want to.

3) If you're a writer, in my experience, the best way to get the most from your fanfic author experience is to develop a lil knit of writer pals.

Make sure you read other work in your fandom. Stay connected, comment and reblog things you enjoy. I write for myself, but I also write with like 10 people in mind and I always look out for their feedback - and (I hope!) the feelings mutual. That's what keeps me writing. ♥️

4) Don't be coy about interaction. There is no shame in reblogging your own stuff. It makes me sad when I've heard people mention that...like it's your blog, reblog your own things? Be proud of your creation? Reblog reblog replies! And reply to comments!!

5) Do it ✨✨ It's a real learning experience, and putting yourself out there really gives a whole new dimension to the hobby and the fandom you're part of. ♥️

Good luck! I believe in youuuu✍️✍️

[tourmalinne]

Hey, can I ask you? I know being vegan was an important part of your life some time ago. And I also know that veganism rises some questions with having a baby, nutrients and so forth. I simply want to ask if you are still vegan, is it still important for you, and if this is annoying or too much, ignore this all together. Thank you.

woah this message is from over a month ago, it seems? sorry it took so long to reply, I didn't know there were messages in the inbox. I never got any notifications. I checked my inbox today because I did get a notification for a different message today and turns out there were more than 1! sorry!

To answer your Q, yes I was vegan for almost 20 years, the happiest, most vibrant time of my life, and since my daughter stopped breastfeeding, I've been making my way back to that wonderful lifestyle. Being non-vegan didn't feel good, not even physically. Maybe it's psychological, maybe it's that I never made peace mentally with the new food on my plate. I think on a daily basis about the connection between peace with your food and gut health. I wasn't vegan during my pregnancy + breastfeeding journeys, and I'll do it again if I get pregnant again. I always knew years ago that if I ever got pregnant, I wouldn't be vegan during pregnancy because there's never been enough evidence for me to believe that it would be okay for the baby. There's pregnant youtubers who tell their personal experience in vlogs, but I'm skeptic (sp?) of influencers, and just because they tell me they are vegan, doesn't mean I believe them necessarily. They say they + the babies are healthy, but how do I believe them? It's just words. I need a lot of proof.

I rely on my own experiences, and being vegan for myself was and is the most wonderful choice for me. But enter another human who is sharing my body and depends on my health to be healthy... I knew years ago, before even meeting my now partner, that I wouldn't risk it. My daughter isn't vegan, I just don't believe in forcing children to be vegan. And I know that most vegans will say I'm forcing animals to be slaughtered for my daughter, but I am not affected by other vegans' opinions, just like I was never affected by omnivores' opinions. None of us live our lives for other people, we live for ourselves. And this isn't an easy topic to think about, because the animal industry is ... you know how terrible it is. Lol that was a long answer :P

[the-darklings]

home is wherever i’m with you;

pairing: connor x reader

drabble prompt: [o7/11]: connor + comfort

word count: 729

a/n: I’ve had a pretty terrible few weeks. I know some of you guys have as well. So this is pure, shameless fluff we all deserve and need. Thank you @wer-if-est-er-ia for providing me with the perfect prompt. Hope you guys enjoy.   

previous drabbles: | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 |

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Your window was a gateway to the universe.

Tiny beads of rain trailing down the clear, cold surface were stars falling down in your lap as you stared up at them in wonder. With your arms wrapped around yourself, you felt the heaviness of the day sink into you with painful finality.

“I’m home,” a voice called with a click of the front door opening, “Hank wants to know if we can still make it to dinner tomorrow. Said Sumo misses you. He also gave me a lengthy lecture about making myself more...emotionally available.”

You didn’t even have the energy to smile at something that would have usually made you laugh. “How many swear words did he use to get his point across?”

You heard him shuffling around the apartment, a rhythm and precision to all his movements that were starting to become achingly familiar.

It was nice to have him in your space. It was nice to wake up with his fingers tracing your skin, and his lips slow and searching each morning. Often so unsure but always eager to learn.

You could hear the smile in his voice when he answered, “Too many,” he voiced, his footsteps approaching your resting place. “How was your—(Name)?”

He appeared in your line of sight, and it still startled you sometimes, seeing him here. Seeing him look so human, so beautiful, and alive—

He was worried though.

You could tell by the way the casualness slid off him suddenly, how his entire demeanour sharpened immediately upon seeing you, his eyes flickering over your features hurriedly.

“(Name),” he called again, something heavier in his voice. His fingers searched for yours, cautiously entwining as he knelt before you.

“I’m okay,” you told him, swallowing the lie, “Stuff just...gets to you sometimes. Stress and worries, and life. It’s okay, don’t worry about me.”

His thumb ran over your knuckles carefully, his brows so deeply furrowed it made him look almost angry, “I do not like it when you’re sad,” he remarked heavily, “It makes me feel...uncomfortable. Don’t be sad,” he commanded almost petulantly, his fingers tightening around yours for a moment.     

You smiled weakly at him, “It doesn’t work that way, sweetheart.”

His gaze was focused on your interlocked fingers intently, his expression troubled, “I wish I could take all of you sadness away,” he told you soberly, before lifting your hand and brushing his lips against your knuckles delicately.

He was upset, you realised with a start, your lips parting in surprise, “Oh Connor, everyone has bad days, it doesn’t mean that good days don’t follow them.”

Sliding from your seat, you knelt before him, gently bumping your forehead with his as you gave him a wan smile.

“I wish—I want to help you,” he confessed, a shakiness to his voice that was quickly becoming a telltale sign of him being overwhelmed. Just part of humanity and all the messy, messy emotions that came with it. Connor felt everything so deeply that sometimes you couldn't help but to think he was more human than most humans were. “You always help me, but I cannot—”

“Shhh. You do help me,” you muttered lightly. “You’re with me right now. That’s enough.”

He leaned back, gaze serious as he timidly reached for your face, fingers tracing an invisible smile, “Nothing will ever happen to you (Name). You have my word.”

You did not expect him to wrap his arms unsurely around you, touch awkward and restrained, but so very warm that it made you sag against him involuntarily.

There was such simple comfort to be found in a hug from someone you loved. Feeling of soothing warmth that was capable of wiping every bad thing from your head for at least a little while.

“I—I love you,” he whispered gently against your ear, voice cracking.

Your heart gave a little jolt, still unused to hearing him say it. He rarely did because he found it hard to voice everything he felt even now.

But when he did—

God, when he did.

It was like dying and being born again. Exactly like every stupid, cliched story you’ve ever read told you it would be like.

You curled into him, voice strained as you told him, “I love you too Connor.”

And with those words, you made him into your home, shelter, and your entire life too.

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an: If you guys ever need anyone to talk to you can always message me. Keep on smiling my lovelies. ❤️

[discoursecatharsis]

(?/1) Well this is going to be a bit long, but I need to answer it without replying. "you feel like you are your own proof that 16 is old enough to be adult, to be sexual. I felt like this too when I was your age." I'm 21 years old. I never felt sexually ready at 16. I was looking at the NSFW content because I liked it and that's all. I have friends at the age of 15 who already had experience. We are all different and again, in France, 15 years and 3 months can have sex, it's healthy and legal

(?/2) “Between the ages of 18-21 you will change in ways that you can’t imagine yet. Once you leave school and start to have more adult responsibilities and experiences you WILL change.” I am at the same stage of my life as my friends who had 16 and I 18 at the time. Again: it depends on everyone. It depends on the maturity of each and the situation. And for Otayuri: they are at the same stage of their lives. Skate up to suffer, win gold … As said and it is canon: Otabek and Yuri are equal.

(?/3) “Living on your own, being independent” Here proof, for an/s 18 = magically adult. That may be the case, but it’s far from being a majority. To live alone? I knew people from 16 who lived alone. Friends who are almost the same age as me or a little older: they live with their parents. I will repeat often: but it depends on everyone. Some are studying, some don’t have the means to live, some are simply afraid … And yes, a 20 year friend lives alone with her boyfriend. Cuz all cases exist.

(?/4) If they think 18 = house. It’s ridiculous. Imagine, Otabek lives alone, ok, he will continue to grow, ok, anyone knows that Yura too? Which means that, Otabek has 20 and Yura is 18 years old will live directly alone then? So they can live together. Yeah, they are now in the slice “18-20” magic logic an°s. By cons, strangely they will always have the same goals and hoping in their lives, I mean, you know, the world where both live, figure skating and where Yura is the champions and not Beka

(?/5) “looking after yourself, being legally responsible for yourself and (most importantly) discovering that it’s your responsibility to protect other minors now, are all life shaping experiences.” I never felt that when I had 18, 19 … Just that, it was scary to be considered adult, when in my head I was not. And even now it’s not always easy for me, while it’s clear to others: all different. And I still don’t feel like the “responsibility” to protect teenagers.

(?/6) A child of 10 years, if heIshe has problems, I will want to protect himIher, but not by “responsibility”. But because a child cannot defend himself. And there is so much luck that I call an adult more competent than me. I don’t feel responsible for teenagers when I doubt being responsible for myself. It is the parents who are responsible, not me. And, here, Otayuri does nothing wrong to represent the real life.

(?/7) "The moment you hit 18 you have to constantly be looking at your behaviour and making sure you’re keeping the invisible line between yourself and children intact. If you don’t do that then you’ve failed in your responsibility as an adult." The world is then filled with people who have failed. The moment I had 18: realized that it did not change anything and continue the school with my friends of 15/16 and 19/20. My friends are not "kids", they were teenagers and always my friends.

(?/?8?) “Yes, there’s a grey area if you’re 18 and dating someone who is 17 and in the same school/college year as you. But at this time in life the age gap between 15/16 and 18 is massive and it’s not the same as an age gap between 20 and 22, for example.” Hello, anOs. We talk about Otayuri, a relationship 16/18. I exist. Proof that I was at the same standard of living as a 16 when I was 18. Everyone is different, again and not to change: Yura grows too. Also “You’re only 18 yourserlf!!” 

(?/9) “One of the most basic things that you find yourself doing as an adult that you didn’t really do or care about that much as a child is CHECKING HOW OLD SOMEONE IS. I do it all the time. It’s something that comes up casually in conversation between adults all the time. All responsible adults do it.” Thank you for learning teenager in your vocabulary. Then, everyone checked the age? When I was 16, I checked the age, and now also I checked the age and then … I forgot it.

(?/10) And do you know why ? Because the mentality makes someone younger than you will inevitably have less maturity and twists, who does not see “shut up, you’re only 15 years old”? While the 15 to bring more relevant argument than an “adult”. It is an unfair mentality. There is always a limit to everything, context, discussion … but some 15/16 cannot get along with 17/18 cuz too immature, like 15/16 can be friend with 17/18 … We are all different. An age of 2 and a few months is not much.

(I take a little break here: sorry to invade your ask, and also … SORRY for my terrible english!!! It’s just annoying and it needs to go out somewhere …)

(?/11?) “It’s not your responsibility to look after yourself online and to police the content you’re seeing, it’s the responsibility of the adults around you.” That’s their parents. Internet has rules, tools to avoid what you do not like. It is not the creator of content to self-censor for the children (and here we speak of teenager, damn!) Parents pay attention to what their child watching on television, on the internet it should be the same.

(?/12) If a site tolerates something and you can register, the person is considered to be able to protect himself / herself. Otherwise, exit tumblr. Otayuri exists in the world, whether you want it or not @ntis, there are healthy and happy relationships. Denying it doesn’t change the world, denying it doesn’t change people who have become parents and happy with their children, denying it doesn’t change the love between a 16 and an 18 that exists at the moment.

(?/13) “Adults who ship Otayuri should know better, they should know that it’s wrong for them to be imagining and fantasizing about a 15/16 year old boy in sexual, adult situations (especially when they’re with an 18 year old).” Well, well … Another antis who talks about sex more than the shipper! Congratulations for not understanding the ship Otayuri. There are already many posts about this. As always: having a romantic relationship is not equal to having sex.

(?/14) “Think about this. Think about yourself right now and then imagine a 30 year old adult looking at you and thinking about having sex with you. It’s disgusting. It’s terrifying.” 16-30 is not a gap of 2 years. 18-30 is not an age gap of 2 years. (Moreover, it exists in 0ne Piece, Hanc0ck x Luffy,), 21-30 is not an age gap of 2 years. Can we go back to the main topic? You know, Otayuri, a 16 and 18. A normal gap of 2 years and a few months.

(?/16) “So if you’re a minor, just know that we’re not trying to fight you, we’re trying to protect you from being surrounded by irresponsible adults. When I make anti posts saying that I don’t give a fuck about otayuri shippers’ feelings, I’m not talking about you, I’m talking about the adults around you. You’ll always be safe from me.” This is the most hypocritical thing I have seen.

(?/17) Are the “minors” supposed to guess it alone in the antis posts? They are supposed to “oh it doesn’t speak about me even if it says "otayuri shippers”, what I am". Is this a joke? For a person “responsible” and “adult”, it’s the good example of bringing hate rather than a discussion? It’s a good example, to say antis and be proud to bring hate? And the hatred and the harassment that they receive by this movement you contribute, a good thing? It’s responsible, mature?

“So if you feel like any of this applies to you, or you feel upset, or confused, or you don’t know what to do, my inbox is always open and I have anon switched on. I don’t know many other people in this community but I can say that my friend is also safe and okay to talk to about this. Please try to stay safe.” So I will conclude with that too: they would be safe without all this hatred. And it’s no more correct to tell the older shipper to die. This is the worst example to give.

(+) The difference between @nt.s and shippers is that shippers know that for some people it has not been a good experience, ‘cause assholes exist at all ages. This is understandable. But @an.t.s should also realize that good healthy relationships exist, people are there to say it and their words should count as much as people with bad experiences. The Otayuri relationship exists, sometimes it’s bad, sometimes it’s healthy and in love. Both exist.  

And I’m terribly sorry for invading your ask, again. And again for my awful english. I’m sorry, really sorry, I’ve seen you sometimes on the tag and when I saw that I did not know where to go … And I did not think it would be that long … And it’s hard to be able to speak when it’s not my first language, I’m sorry if it’s horrible to read. Thank you so much for this blog.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

(I think I got all the parts of your asks. Sorry if I missed any or if I added any that weren’t from you >.

I don’t really have much to add, this is very well said! Like you said: “it depends on everyone. It depends on the maturity of each and the situation.” Ant//s aren’t able to grasp this idea for some reason. They don’t understand that not everyone is the same, not every situation is cut and paste or black and white. Good job calling them out on their ignorance! 👍🏽