#You might 'lose control' and feel ashamed - believing this proves the desires must be repressed rather than sated

[noisytenant]

People getting judgy or shameful about their own "weird" fetishes or interests in general bothers me so much. I feel frustrated seeing people who consciously accept part of themself but still feel like they need to publicly self-flagellate about it.

What's even the point of being self-aware if you only use it to hurt yourself? Shame is difficult to unpack--I would know, I'm still deep in it--but if you believe in your head that it is anything other than counterproductive and honestly sad to be kicking yourself every time you connect with your own pleasure, I feel it should be a priority to address that.

And for everyone who tries to enforce shame in others: Seriously reflect on why you think the simple repression of a trait you deem unpleasant will be effective in making the world a better place. Ask yourself why your personal tastes should influence the behavior of other people. And get over yourself.