#P.S.: we're four mods here

[gettin-bi-bi-bi]

I'm a different anon but I wanted to say the response to your most recent ask (I think it's the most recent) was really helpful to me.

See, I've tried typing out my own ask several times over the past few months or so... lol. And just backed out everytime because it didn't feel worth asking largely because I wasn't even sure what I was asking. It's similar but I guess "reversed" for lack of a better word but the best I can describe it is I'm romantically and sexually attracted to women and sexually attracted to men. It took me.... an embarrassingly long time to understand that lmao.

And its like... I do think I have some shame over that, but it's obvious most of that shame is from outside influences. Before it's been a little tricky to parse out but I think your answer helped me with outlining those issues in my head, so now I might be able to actually work on reframing how I view it.

If I'm being honest I already knew all this, rationally. Which was one of the reasons I never sent my own ask, I kept convincing myself I was being a baby and shouldn't go looking for someone to hold my hand about it. But I guess I did need the reassurance... so thank you, specifically Mod Maddie for that particular answer but really to all the mods (I don't actually know how many there are) for running this blog at all. This isn't the first time someone else's ask and response has helped me. Well anyway <3

That's nice to hear that my long ass reply helped someone 😅 I hope the original anon can also get some peace of mind after they read it.

For you I'd just like to say that asking for help or advice or even just venting some internal insecurities isn't "being a baby". It's perfectly normal for human beings to need outside input or to verbalise their thoughts, if not to ask for an opinion then simply to "get it out of your system". Sometimes we need for someone else to say "dude, don't worry, I feel the same" or "yeah, this totally makes sense, you're not being crazy here". Sometimes, even when we rationally already know something, we have to say it to make it feel real. We need to hear ourselves say it (or read what we've written) in order to get a more nuanced perspective that allows us to grow - instead of the internal voice that blocks us from moving forward out of fear of shame.

I guess you're on a good path, since you're recognising things that need to be reframed and unlearned. Please feel free to ask (us or anyone else that you trust) for guidance, advice or just for an open ear. Problems rarely get solved by keeping them to yourself.

Maddie