#Live deliberately. Live mindfully. And don't you dare police others with the framework of your very narrow minded signaling.

[kojoty]

So much of online queer community (and there's your first red flag-- often an insistence of a Community rather than coalitions of communities) has been commodified so thoroughly into 'aesthetic' culture that it becomes more about the signalling of abstracted symbols to indicate 'queerness' rather than the material reality of sexual deviation from hegemonic culture. When you live in a world of signs and symbols, of course you're going to be shocked, confused, outraged, and let down when you experience non-commodified queerness that exists as material reality and alongside society. What begins as a meme joke about what a gay person or a lesbian might wear turns into an aesthetic 'creed' that abstracts itself until the fucking caribeener signifies more sexual implication than fucking a woman does! What are we doing here! Stop living your life as Aesthetic and find authenticity to self! Stop adhering to arbitrary symbols formed from commonality and figure out what the fuck you want to do! This goes for every subculture ofc)-- uphold authenticity over commodified capital lest you become swallowed into alienation-- but it's particularly venemous in LGBT circles.