#Keeping their kids safe from online harm is mommy and daddy's problem.

[diabolocracy]

Anything new about Bill S 210?

From what the Parliament site says, it hasn't been touched since June. But between now and sometime next year there's probably going to be an election so that can change at any time, especially if they begin to rush things.

[leilareport]

@gallaghertasks​ // task 006: therapy.

‘ in the movies, these sessions usually start with “ well when i was a child .. “ and quickly devolve into a whole spiel of how their messed up childhood built their messed up life. but not me. not today. ‘

‘ did  you  know  either  of  the  victims  :   amelia  taylor  or  cassie  snyder  ?  if  yes  ,   how  well  did  you  know  them ?  ‘

it was a simple enough question and pretty standard, too. “i didn’t really know cassie, sorry. um .. amelia ..“ she wasn’t exactly sure why she paused. maybe because saying it out loud meant that it was real. “i knew amelia. we were friends. “ there. short and sweet. a quick sad smile to boot. that’s what they want, right?

‘ how  have  your  sleeping  and  eating  patterns  been  ?  ‘ 

she shrugged. “it’s been the same, in that i don’t really have the healthiest of either.” she felt her eyes narrow. the questions felt as standard as they did when her father sent her to therapy years ago after she had taken her middle school’s principal out for a joyride. her arms still crossed, she kept her neutral facial expression.

‘ do  you  find  yourself  thinking  about  the  event  even  when  you  don’t  want  to  ?  if  yes  ,   what  are  the  most  frequent  images ?  ‘

elisa shook her head, albeit a bit too fast for her own liking. "no, i do not. i wasn’t even aware it happened until the assembly, so .. “ it wasn’t like the information given was comprehensive. more of an order than anything that could say they could help. so she felt that was a bit unfair; a lot of things were. still are.

‘ do  you  avoid  thinking  or  talking  about  the  event ? ‘

she scoffed and found herself leaning forward with her arms still crossed, “well, it’s not something that should be talked about. people died.” catching herself, she cleared her throat and leaned back against the chair. “life goes on. it’s not like they would cancel classes more than they already do, so there’s that.”

it was at this point that elisa was being reminded of her previous therapy sessions. ‘do you avoid talking about your mother?’ was a popular question back then.

‘ do  you  avoid  going  places  or  being  in  situations  that  remind  you  of  the  event ?  if  yes  ,   what  are  these  places  ?   ‘

elisa shook her head once more. “no.” it was a lie, but she kept her gaze at the floor, not wanting the therapist to even note that about her. she had been avoiding the garages, it reminding her of amelia and their conversations together while fixing stuff up. but she told herself she’ll go there once more after this. and she really would.

‘ do  you  have  nightmares  about   the  event  ?   if  yes  ,   please  describe  these  nightmares  to  the  best  of  your  ability  .  ‘

“no, i do not. i don’t have nightmares, period.” not about amelia, at least. but when her mother left years ago, it was the source of great anxiety.

sometimes she thinks about that day. 

‘mommy’s first day back at work?’ she remembered asking lisanna as the other clutched their slim briefcase. she remembered thinking that it might be a simple office job, like her father. her mother nodded at her and gave a long kiss on the top of her head. ‘be good for daddy, okay? you’d do that right, my little lisa?’ if she thought about it hard enough, maybe she’d know how her mother’s voice was a bit more softer than it probably should be. the difference between a goodbye and a see you tonight. lisanna said neither, and just left to go to work. 

she hasn’t been back since. 

elisa looked elsewhere as the therapist went on to the next question.

‘ do  you  feel  easily  startled  or  anxious  ?  give  examples  .  ‘

“no, i don’t. a big part of my field is to not have be easily startled or anxious. it’s what i’m here for.”

training for the big leagues or what - not. there was a time she dreamed of going to quantico after graduating. following his father’s footsteps instead of her mother’s. her father’s family was more present anyway. birthday cards from the caspar’s were more frequent and more heartfelt. 

she never bothered to learn about the harlins. they never claimed her, so what gives?

they never called, never visited. at some point ellison just said that they were the type of people to never leave their house - a comment that earned him a snort from lisanna.

‘ do  you  worry  about  being  harmed  or  feel  “on guard” ?  give  examples  .  ‘

“i’m sure it’s apparent on your file that i’m both a driver’s ed and a threat elimination student. that said, i can keep myself safe, thank you.”

‘ do  you  feel  detached  or  “numb”  ?  how  so  ?  ‘

at the question, elisa felt herself go silent. 

she knows how detached she could be at times, but she would never talk about it or think about it. after a minute, she shook her head softly. “no, i do not.”

besides, admitting that you feel numb .. wouldn’t that be a great leeway into questions about involvement in the murders? isn’t that something that one should say ‘ i plead the fifth ‘ for? 

‘ do  you  feel  shame  or  guilt  about  the  event  or  about  problems  related  to  the  event ?  what  do  you  think  is  causing  this  same  or  guilt ?  ‘

“it’s not me. i think the school should.” she muttered, more to herself than a cry for protest. it was an opinion she knew was shared by a lot of other students. ‘ safest school in the country ‘ and this had happened. 

but systems fail. she knows that by now. sometimes things just go haywire and it’s very human thing. but a crowd can be loud and they would often want answers as much as anyone could want anything.

elisa remembers when an fbi mission resulted in quite a few deaths.. ella’s mom included. it was one of those moments in her life where she knew her mother could do any kind of wrong, having left years ago. but her father? who she knew just wanted her to get back into the right life path? who had to deal with countless phone calls from her teachers and angry parents of kids she’d messed with? 

what happens when the world wanted a man like that to pay for something he shouldn’t be responsible for?

she blinked, brushing away all the hate - fueled comments against him online and the first time she saw ella after all that and how, even though she herself knew ella was hurting, defended her father against the other. and now they don’t talk. she doesn’t have to wonder why.

‘ do  you  find  that  you  act  irritable  or  angry  ?  in  what  ways  ?  ‘

she shrugged, “not really. like i said, i can’t be easily agitated anywhere. it keeps me from doing my work as i should.”

‘ do  you  act  oppositional  ,  act  out  sexually  ,  or  abuse  alcohol  or  drugs ? ‘

elisa rolled her eyes, “no, i don’t.” now this was a ‘ i plead the fifth ‘ type of question. “i don’t think anyone would ever answer that honestly. virginia has very strict drug laws already.” 

‘ thank you, miss caspar. we’ll be in touch '

- 

elisa caspar scored a 16 on the ptsd quiz -- ptsd may be likely. elisa caspar scored a 46 on the grief quiz -- complicated grief may be likely.

[tinkachu000]

when it comes to fiction versus reality one thing is always strikingly similar in stories against it. you always have those adults who are being creeps using said fiction to get closer to adults. yes this is terrible, its god awful, its abhorrent. however this isnt a black and white scale, NOTHING-- ON THIS PLANET-- is black and white. so while there are some adults who would use this to get closer to young ones. there are houndreds of thousands of adults who just want to do their thing. who would HATE for their works to be used in such a mannor because its just out there for them to yknow, either tell a story of shit that really happens, or just for the fuck of it. 

you wouldnt say someone who writes murders or draws graphic gore to be a murderer or a cannible someone sick and twisted. no thats dark edgy and cool. but youre so QUICK to just lable anyone as dangerous if they draw a fictional character in any kind of sexual situation. do you understand how insanely headass that sounds? both of which those things could effect children negatively if they see it without the proper knowledge to understand it! this is why we have RATINGS on things.

If there is an adult who is doing nsfw content REGARDLESS of what the hell it intails, and it doesnt involve real people or the likeness of them, they arent trying to go anywhere near young children with their content, and in fact have all the proper warnings CLEAR AS DAY. Just. leave. them. alone? theyre doing their thing, in their space, that they created for them and the people of the like who like it. understand it. can process it. and it wont affect them negatively.

What it seems people dont get is that all these youngins say oh well I CAN HANDLE IT and go in there anyways then want to cry to mommy and daddy how they’re scared for life. at that point? its not that adults problem (unless of course they showed it to them or tried to introduce it do them or had ANY influence in giving them that content) im sorry to say ITS LITTLE TIMMYS FAULT. YOU SHOULDNT HAVE GONE INTO AN ADULT SPACE. PERIOD. thats SIMPLE FOLLOWING DIRECTIONS. if it says 18 plus, uhm if you arent 18, DONT GO IN THERE.

AND YOU, ADULTS, who are of age!!! if you see someone doing something in their space. take the stick out of your ass and dont take that NSFW, possibly TRIGGERING content and PUT IT OUT THERE FOR THE YOUNG ONES TO SEE. ITS BEHIND A LOCKED ACCOUNT, PRIVATER, WARNING, ECT for a GOOD GOD DAMNED REASON. it only makes me think youre the creepy as hell one for even introducing that shit to them like HOW DARE YOU on so many levels for thinking a) god gave you the RIGHT to judge people and who one should cast a stone to b) showing minors inappropriate content c) in the end rallying a league of people to bully someone who was midning their own business and most likely. and heres the kicker...

isn’t a threat. they just aren’t. 

people have weird shit they are into. i know, a lot of it is bad, awful, gross, whatever. ive seen it. ive seen it since i was a minor myself. i did things i wasn’t suppose to do sure. but it didnt bother me, i knew that it was fake. some people dont feel that way and THATS OKAY. block, mute, whatever that person. make your space safe. hell distance yourself from those people. be happy. Just dont act like you’re somehow jesus and you decide who and what this person is based on...something that’s not real.

fiction does affect reality, but we as humans have many ways to decide just how much it affects us and others. we take care of ourselves as well as others. it isnt some random dude in wisconsins job to worry about what your kid sees online. its their parents. however that random dude is also held responsible for not putting things in spaces not meant for that kid as well. and with adult sites going away because people think everyone should be a puritain thats getting harder. people are doing their best to tag and warn and keep people out but for some reason.

people keep going into those spaces, and sharing it for the whole world to see. sure its the internet, the whole world can see it, but that doesn’t mean they absolutely had to. they chose to. and if you so choose to do something that harms you?? thats nobodys problem but your own. point blank. pretend this is the road, the lines are so clear, stay in your lane. and when someones words and actions start crossing those lines.

then. and only then. do i think you should raise action. make sure the people who are EVIL get their just punishment. not the person who had nothing to do with it other than creating something most likely *not* for whoever it was shown to.

that’s all i, this stuff is so tiring. this conversation goes on and no ones going to win because no one is going to try to see eye to eye when really if everyone just minded their peace, stopped bullying people, and just kept themselves safe in their space. they’d be happy. you’re not saving the world by taking out small artists. not when people in hollywood will sell you for sex in a minute no matter who you are. or there is legit trafficking out there that needs to be stopped. you guys think that since these people are seemingly in your reach youre doing something good but you’re not. you arent. you are ruining someone elses life and damaging them in irreverable ways, and you dont even care. thats another got damned human being and you dont care what happens to them because you ASSUME that they condone the content they produce. when thats the farthest from the truth. its disgusting and it just makes me sad. 

[imaginemycroftholmes]

I just recently saw your post about age regression kinks. I use age regression as a sort of therapy, it's not sexual at all. I don't know, and I'm sorry if this question is triggering to you. I'm just, kind of ashamed of myself at this point. I don't see it as a kink, at all. And now I feel like I've been glorifying pedophilia. I'm mad at myself and I have no idea what to say to this, I'm sorry. Like I'm very very sorry and I feel sick at myself.

Regressive behavior can be a manifestation of inadequate or maladaptive coping; some patients employ immature defense mechanisms to manage the stress of illness. A patient who is overwhelmed by a diagnosis might automatically exhibit 1 or many regressive behaviors. In addition to communicating one’s level of distress, regressive behaviors usually provoke others to provide them more attention, which reinforces the regressive behavior.

Regression becomes a problem in hospitals when it is viewed as the only alternative to avoiding adult situations or stress. Although there is no evidenced-based literature on how to manage regression, several behavioral, pharmacologic, and nonpharmacologic interventions have proved useful in caring for patients with regressive behavior.

The point being is this isn’t healthy for anyone in the long run. It can lead to serious problems and feed into it like a snake eating its own tail.

It wasn’t healthy for me to think I was literally dating an anime character through my dreams (and even get what little friends I had at the time to help me validate my delusions) who didn’t care that I didn’t look Japanese enough to cope with racism in my community and schools, it wasn’t healthy for me to believing that I was always go to be fat thanks to my father’s European genetics and it certainly wasn’t healthy to go around pretending that harming myself was going to make me feel better.

As a short term coping strategy? Cool, you do you but you have to admit that its not a long term thing. Everything must change or evolve in order to get better, its the natural law of the world.

Which brings us to this little unfortunate staple since the dawn of mankind itself: 

No matter what you do/enjoy/like there is always someone out there is masturbating to it or using it to get off with a partner.

Its a fact of life now; doesn’t matter if its My Little Pony, making flower crowns, mice, Steven Universe, eating or even Barney the Dinosaur someone is making it sexual regardless we like it or not.

That being said there’s a disturbing amount of of those in the kink community that use age regression (age play) in combination with their “Daddy/Mommy” kink that brings it to a whole new level of NOPE for those of us on the outside being forced to bear witness because they cant seem to keep in behind closed doors and properly tagged on the internet.

Does it promote pedophilia?

Not really but it screams to (most) of us that something needs to be discussed with those that (mostly) use age regression for sexual satisfaction in public or on a public forum as follows: please keep your kinks behind closed doors, please tag your shit properly, don’t be an ass and flood tags that you know that encompasses the general public especially those that cannot or did not consent to witnessing your kink. 

It just shows that something is most definitely not right and something or someone is creating enough stress to cause this abnormal imbalance and it needs to be corrected in a healthier manner.

Don’t get me wrong it can be necessary to help establish and create better coping mechanisms but as studies show its not a good long term deal. It’s better for kids going through traumatizing times but for adults? Not so much.

My beef is that while age regression isn’t a healthy long term coping mechanism and the kink community that tends to rear its ugly head when I try to look up cute gifs on Tumblr even with the X-kit on.

Should you be mad at yourself?

No, but I would recommend talking to a licensed medial professional about a better coping strategy because sooner or later you’re going to need to upgrade to something that will better handle the stresses you have in your life. 

But another concern of mine is that this blog was not made to validate anyone’s life choices. 

It was created for the sole purpose making Mycroft Holmes related head-cannons, Mycroft Holmes/Mark Gatiss, discussing Mycroft Holmes, making friends that like/love Mycroft Holmes, promoting more Mycroft Holmes related content, thirsting after Mycroft Holmes with like minded people and promoting/producing more Mycroft x reader content. 

If you enjoy something and like it (and its legal, safe for everyone consenting to it and doesn’t infringe on the basic rights of others) then you do you but expecting some random 26 year old lady on the internet to validate you on a character head-cannon blog is on par with assuming every party you’re invited to is a costume party even when the invite specifically states its a business causal only.

Seeking validation for the things you do (and this goes for EVERYONE and not just for kink related things) you need to do so in support groups either online or in person that explicitly state that they promote it otherwise you’re not always going to get the answers you want to hear when going metaphorically door-to-door online or in person.

People have different views and opinions on certain things and that’s the nature of the beast. We’re all different and have different life experiences. Its neither wrong or right but it’s fine.

As for triggering don’t sweat it as I’ve had far dark horrible therapy inducing shit happen to me that will not be discussed here for the sake of my sanity worse than this. My issues with age regression is that its not a long term healthy coping mechanism beyond early childhood (in relation to trauma) and the assholes that use it in kinks that spread it all over the Disney tags.

They keep it behind closed doors I wouldn’t give a fuck but when I’m out with my younger brothers and they’re dry humping on the playground equipment saying how ‘Daddy needs to change his little girl’s diaper and fuck her in the restroom stalls at the park while obscenely sucking on a pacifier and holding a stuffed animal ’ that I’m more likely to be:

You don’t have to be mad at yourself anon just promise that me that you’ll move on from age regression eventually with the help of licensed medical professionals and never look through the tags on Tumblr for ‘age play’ and block it with X-kit. Not only is it cringey but it will indeed make you feel sick.

-M