#It's genuinely crazy to me how many people straight up do not know that vaginismus is a thing or that some people with vaginas

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I get that most written porn is supposed to be stupid fantasies where the sex is always Awesome but like the way vaginismus or dryness (both of which can be a thing WHILE extremely turned on) never seems to crop up is astounding to me. Like it's relatively common but barely ever discussed (this is just me being in trans circles but I honestly Only see dryness being mentioned in the context of vaginal atrophy from HRT and like. It is a thing that people with vaginas can experience chronically with or without hormonal changes).

And like yeah wrt prev post it really weirds me out that a lot of people even in like trans + feminist circles still have a disproportionate focus on vaginas as a site for penetration and don't even seem to Really entertain the notion that a lot of people are physically incapable of it, are capable but require lubricant (instead of being the perfect Perma-Wet Hole fantasy), or don't want it in general. Also goes 100% hand in hand with treating a penis as An Instrument For Penetration Only (often with connotations of domination or violence projected on this act as well) and similarly not entertaining that people might not be capable, might have difficulties, or just Do Not Want To.

Like fantasies or not I don't think you're going to have a healthy relationship with sex if the main thing driving you is imagining the human body as universally ready for and desiring of penetrative sex (whether it's you as a receiver or your partner). Not even going into how these attitudes are used in bigoted capacities lol.