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elegomez · 5 months ago

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this might be an unpopular opinion, but the thing is I don't actually care if people wearing whatever the hell wear in public do feel sexy/turned on by it. I don't think it's unethical to be turned on in public, and I don't think the standard should be "is this thing you're doing sexually arousing to you or others", it should be "are you harassing other people in public". And wearing revealing clothing or collars or leashes is not harassing anyone else.

#I do actually value freedom of speech/presentation/etc #I think a lot of the arguments about this are flawed #Because plenty of people wear things to feel sexy or look good or to attract others #And plenty because it turns them on #I've done public kink! Where I was put in boots and lingerie and a leash and walked around in the dark #Because I have an exhibitionism Thing #It's not evil or a problem. Sexuality isn't evil or a problem. Etc.#(I also don't think it's evil for kids to see nudity or sexualized outfits and you know #It's okay if they develop a thing early on. Just teach them to be appropriate.)#(Awkward confession: I learned to be appropriate around men early but not women #It took me a while into my teen years to learn not to be. Really creepy about looking at women #A lot of it makes me cringe really really badly still #I had a model for how women should behave towards men but not how women!#Women don't usually need the 'how not to creep women out' lessons men are more likely to get /sigh

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