#I've also had ppl shocked about my dating history but bc i was once similar to lucanis in a way i really like his character

[captain-alex-grayson]

Imma be so fr rn, I've only had one (1) bf. I'm bi and 25 and I've only dated one seriously mid dude. I was 20 when I had sex the first time during my first ever relationship, which was a 7 month relationship. I'm not religious, I wasn't saving up for any moment, I was very not okay with a casual hook up and I also didnt see sex as this all imporant moment/thing, like at all. Prior to adulthood I just didn't have time to date. Once I hit college, I still didn't care to date and didn't care for sex. Lucanis is extremely relatable to me in the whole "that's not my thing, (insert upbringing trauma here) i just don't care for this" way. Lucanis very much was isolated and didn't have many platonic relationships at all. It's hard to imagine a guy with like 3 friends who doesn't go out bc he's dedicated to the job to a very unhealthy point would have any experience dating or the like. This makes lucanis a far more realistic character and compliments his foil illario. It's like if the sad part of Zevran and the hoe mask part of Zevran became 2 different people.

A portion of people within this fandom are really letting their discomfort with asexual people and virginity show.

I hate to break it to you, but there are people who make it to adulthood as virgins (and it isn't inherently tied to being religious.).

I need you guys to breathe and be realistic for 5 minutes, and also realize the implications of your exclamation about how impossible you find Lucanis being a virgin is. Maybe it's not within your scope of focus, but yes, it happens.

No, I don't care that he's a Crow. He specifically tells you that seduction is Illario's thing.

Yes, you can read romance and be in love with the idea (and even long for it for yourself!) and still not take that jump.

Sex is not casual for everyone. Casual sex is not for everyone.

Please sit with that before you guffaw and call it impossible.