#I'm just really fucking annoyed at that one addition that MISQUOTES MY FRIEND and then CALLS THEM A LIAR BASED ON THAT MISQUOTE

[honestlyvan]

*rubs temples* Listen, in the spirit of this post I've been trying to let this go, but I keep seeing additions to this going around that blatantly misquote the friend I quoted in the tags above and

listen

what about "i do my best to never shit talk actual people ever" implies that we always succeed? What about stating "I don't like being a gossip, I don't like what I sound like when I engage in this behaviour we all agree is largely harmless in private" is so fucking threatening that you gotta lie about what was said to make your own addition about how you're allowed to do it anyway?

To me this post was about how to urge surf against social media making money off of us all being crabby with each other, but what my friend said and what I agree with keeps getting misconstrued as some kind of moral stance on gossip and from the bottom of my heart -- so what if you want to keep doing it?

Because I don't! Because I don't like the way I sound when I decide to start fucking reaching for the purpose of using someone as an example of things that annoy me when what I fundamentally want to talk about are my own feelings?

I'm glad being recreationally mean makes you apparently feel powerful and fulfilled but it just makes me feel like shit and that's why I do my level best to not fucking do it ever. It's why I've taught myself to fucking resist the urge and do something that does make me feel better.

And if you have to actively misquote someone to argue that the only way to cope is to give into the urge to be recreationally mean, I don't think your point is as strong as you think it is.

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is to have gossipy bitchy littl pirvate group chats or discord servers with like 4 people in them whose stated purpose is posting “new kind of guy” or “this reddit post is so fuckin dumb” or “i got into a fight on twitter today look at this idiot’s reply” so your homies can still see it and laugh and back you up but more importantly, so you are not tempted to post these kind of things on main