#I'm half asleep when i wrote this gonna check up on it tome

[celestial-sapphicss]

I think the ‘Pat treats Pa poorly’ stuff has really been exaggerated but I do think it’s brought up some interesting thoughts and conversations. I think Pat’s physicality contrasting with his ability to be soft maybe makes us as a fandom more lenient on him because we expect him to always be aggressive and dominant? Because he really does start out being quite entitled to the point where he, partially unknowingly, leads Pran on but then asks him to do his laundry or let him sleep over. That combined with his impulsiveness and sometimes cockiness could totally be eye roll worthy if it wasn’t for the fact that he’s multifaceted and develops as a character throughout the show (and we know it’s just toxic masculine ideals ingrained in him by his awful dad).

I do really find it very interesting though that Pran shares a lot of the same positive traits with Pat but doesn’t get half the ‘best boi’ ‘green flag’ labels that Pat does. I genuinely do think though it’s because Pat looks like a mean unapproachable hottie but doesn’t fit the stereotype personality wise while Pran looks like a softie and so you kinda expect him to act like one too? I know he’s initially poor at communicating his feelings because of previous trauma but once he gets over that hurdle he very healthily communicates with Pat and is just as selfless and loving as Pat is albeit a bit more reserved. I’m sorry I’m just rambling at this point. It’s not a criticism at all because I love them both it’s just something that fascinates me as someone who’s studied film and tv theory before.

hi dear anon! i agree with what you said and i love it that we as a fandom can critically analyse the flaws in the fan favourite characters respectfully!

im not really sure about the leading Pran on part because honestly how could he have, neither did he know that pran was gay, nor did he know the same about himself. he was just being friendly. we honestly don't have enough development of pat & his friendships to analyse how he like with them as compared to pran so 🤷

but yeah, i have honestly thought about this a lot before, that what if we're giving pat wayy too much credit for being the bare minimum? but then i realise that he indeed is anything but "bare minimum". pat got the best boy title when he started communicating, and looking back i realised he openly communicates with everyone and not just pran.

open communication, while might seem easy, but is infact one of the most difficult things to do. it takes a lot of practice and a level of self awareness to so do. (ironic?) it's honestly a task for most people, so for that i feel he does deserve the best boy tag loml

but yeah you're absolutely right, i did have a positively biased perception of the character because he turned out to be exactly opposite of what i expected him to be, which made me love him more!

and exactly!!!!!! I'll never get over that pran's doesn't get nearly as enough best boi awards that he deserves. he, by far, has been one of my favourite character for multiple reasons, one of them being that he's just so PURE give him everything!

I've also seen people criticizing pran for not doing enough for pat which just makes me lose my mind!